Do people still really think this kind of shit?

[BenWillbondsPants]

Well obviously some do. A female friend of mine posted this on FB.

I KNOW it's only a meme, but the amount of women commenting on it agreeing is unbelievable. I've had 4 'angry' faces to my 'what a load of bollocks' comment.

So there you have it - you're only a real woman if you don't wear nail varnish and never brush your hair. If you do, you're clearly doing it wrong.

As my dear old Mum used to say, "Women are their own worst enemies". Always finding fault with each other instead of building each other up.

I deactivated my Facebook a few months ago and it's been so liberating not having to read this sort of dogwank.

And you are only a real woman if you put your household and kids first ?

It’s all bollocks whichever way you look at it. Can you imagine any such crap being circulated about men?

I have never had my nails done even before I had kids and a household.

Another clearly shit mum here. Nails done (hands and feet), eyebrows waxed and I’ve mentally chosen an outfit for today.

Nails are gels so won’t (shouldn’t) get wrecked while I’m nappy changing or tearing about with ds.

I’m also probably not a real mum because although I’m in mat leave I’m going back to work full time. Shocker.

I deactivated my Facebook a few months ago and it's been so liberating not having to read this sort of dogwank.

I've not been on it for years and I'm much happier since.

I actually hate keeping in touch with old school friends colleagues etc which was mainly who were my 'friends' it makes me fe sick

Let's keep in touch with people who in the main have no real genuine interest in you as if they did, they'd have your mobile number. No thank you

Well i must be a shit mum then as i regularly get my nails done, at a salon, the horror! and i have my hair colour done monthly and have an iphone XS. My poor daughter :-(

Omg I must be the world worst mom then! I've always got my makeup on and love getting my nails done and having my hair blow dried 😂 Jesus were women not just mothers! Having kids isn't an excuse to let yourself go and not think about yourself.

Good for you for saying something many people probably wanted to but didn't have the balls x

@acatcalledjohn haha that counts for precisely NOTHING in 2019. Keep up!

You should have just posted that pic of Waynetta as a reply.

Tbf there is a serious amount of utter codswallop on Facebook.if you got cross about every ridiculous meme you’d considerable shorten your lifespan.

This morning I chose to make my daughters hair look extra nice instead of brushing my teeth and hair before heading out on the school run. My kids and running of the household come first BUT I do take time just for me away from the house and what I choose to do in that time is my business. I do this to recharge my batteries others may choose to have their hair done or their nails done. I don't think how polished the mother (or father) looks has any bareing, as long as our children are loved and happy is all that should matter

Just another excuse to be a scruffy fucker. Same as those whose house is a shit tip because their house is a family home not a show home

@BykerBykerOoh

That a minority of extremists try to make it count for nothing doesn't mean it counts for nothing.

It counts for everything.

Because it is what makes me a woman. Not how I choose to dress, whether or not I use make up or how I wear my hair and keep my nails.

That FB post is as damaging as claiming that make up, long hair, a dress and heels make you a woman when in reality you have a penis.

Fuck that shit, honestly. I had a (now ex) friend who passive-aggressively said to me once "I really admire how women like you always have makeup and nail varnish on. I just don't have time in the mornings as I'm helping my children get ready for school..." said in a really breezy Luna Lovegood voice.

I can bloody well do both!

I wore more makeup the next day.

@acatcalledjohn I totally agree.

Failed to express my tone in the previous post.

@BykerBykerOoh Sorry. That's the issue with writing things down. Tone gets lost. Sorry!

My hair is usually 'done' as in brushed and trimmed. I don't do my nails or have a fancy phone. I don't have kids. Not sure how real that makes me 🤔

Envy. Pure and simple.

My ex-SIL shared this on fb this morning-

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
Enough money within her control to move out...
And rent a place of her own
even if she never wants to
or needs to...
Something perfect to wear if the employer
or date of her dreams wants to See Her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her Old Age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
A set of screwdrivers,
a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
One friend who always makes her laugh...
And one Who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
A good piece of furniture not previously owned
by anyone else in her Family...
Eight matching plates,
wine glasses with stems,
And a recipe for a meal that will make
her guests feel Honored...
A feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to fall in love without losing herself..
HOW TO QUIT A JOB,
BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,
AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT
RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...
When to try harder...
And WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That she can't change the length of her calves,
The width of her hips,
or the nature of her parents..
That her childhood may not have been perfect...
But it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
How to live alone...
Even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Whom she can trust,
Whom she can't,
And why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go...
Be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
Or a charming inn in the woods...
When her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
A month...
And a year...

Written by Pamela Redmond Satran

Same as the ‘my house is a shit tip because I’m too busy making magical memories with my kids to clean’

Completely agree. I remember seeing that poem about having dirty dishes but at least it means the children have eaten and so on years ago and thinking ugh, you can still tidy up you lazy cow.

It’s just people trying to defend their insecurities.

@EmArSea - great poem, I particularly like the last half.

Sadly, some of the comments on this thread are as bad as that horrendous meme

I'm feeling like shit today, haven't even had a shower yet never mind do my nails. Thank god that makes me such a great mum. #blessed