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going to the cinema alone.

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sunshineandshowers21 · 18/09/2019 15:59

i really want to see the second part of IT, but none of my friends have watched the first part, and my boyfriend doesn’t like horror films. i told one of my friends that i was thinking of going to watch it alone and she said that it’s ‘sad’ and only ‘losers’ go the pictures alone. i don’t get why though? it’s not like you sit chatting away anyway, you generally don’t talk whilst watching a film, so why does it matter if there’s someone sitting beside you or not? i’m still going to go but i was just wondering whether anyone else goes to the pictures alone?

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TeaStory · 18/09/2019 16:00

I’m with you, I’ve often gone to the cinema alone. It’s hardly a social activity if you can’t chat!

PurpleDaisies · 18/09/2019 16:00

I’ve been on my own lots of times. Just ignore your friend.

StoatofDisarray · 18/09/2019 16:02

I love going to the cinema alone! Ignore your silly friend. Watching a film at a cinema is something you do in silence without talking, so it's a perfect solo activity.

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beachcomber70 · 18/09/2019 16:03

I go on my own and have done for years...as have thousands of others. Just go. Your friend is being very short sighted and judgmental.

I am not a loser.

StoatofDisarray · 18/09/2019 16:04

I saw The 13th Warrior on my own in a huge empty cinema BTW. It was epic, I really got into it!

Blastandbollocks · 18/09/2019 16:06

I went on my own once. Did a Meerkat movies and was due to go with a friend who pulled out. So I went anyway, had two seats and thus loads off room. It was fab!

CookPassBabtridge · 18/09/2019 16:06

Your friend is a small minded turd. I love going to the cinema alone, I prefer it!

Jesaminecollins · 18/09/2019 16:07

You can watch IT online if you search for it

Flairhead · 18/09/2019 16:08

I went by myself just last week! It's better that way, no one to have to share your treats with!

Whitney168 · 18/09/2019 16:09

Yep, regularly go alone if husband working late, or to see something he doesn't fancy.

BlueCornsihPixie · 18/09/2019 16:10

I love going to the cinema on my own! Honestly when DP is away for the weekend I get really excited about going to the cinema by myself, it's a treat to myself

It's a million times better than going with friends, you can get really into the film and be like in your own world, in a cosy little seat. It's not like I can talk to them anyway, I would rather spend time with my friends actually socialising rather than just sitting next to each other.

I think it's sadder if you can't do something that involves 0 socialising by yourself, why do you need someone with you to watch a film? Its like people who have to take someone to the toilet with them, why can't they cope by themselves?

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 18/09/2019 16:12

I love going to the cinema alone! Don't get much now I have DS, I miss is terribly!

SleepyFlump · 18/09/2019 16:14

I love going to the cinema on my own!

xsquared · 18/09/2019 16:14

Jesamine - but the experience won't be the same! I think it needs to be seen on big screen.

OP, ignore your friend. I don't get the "sad" comments about going to the cinema by yourself as you're hardly chatting with the person you're going with.

I've been waiting for ages to see IT Chapter 2 and the group who expressed interest when it came out keeps shrinking because of clashes with something else. Anyway, it's just down to two of us now but if she pulls out, then I'll just see it on my own!

BlueCornsihPixie · 18/09/2019 16:14

I feel quite passionate about this subject tbh

Everyone spends time alone, it's not like people have someone there all the time. So why if I have some time alone should I not do something enjoyable with it like go to the cinema or to a cafe, rather than just sit at home. For friend will have evenings by herself occasionally, but instead of actually enjoying her time if she needs someone with her to go out she must just sit at home being bored when she's alone.

jay55 · 18/09/2019 16:16

I think people who miss out on things they want to do, because they can't fathom going alone (and no disability to prevent them going alone) are the losers.
How is doing something you enjoy a bad thing?

Witchofzog · 18/09/2019 16:19

Your friend is an arsehole op. My son who is 18 went to see this on his own and has seen other solo films too. I am so so proud of him for being brave enough to do this at his age and for not caring what nasty judgy people like your friend think. Go and enjoy yourself!

SallyWD · 18/09/2019 16:20

I've been on my own loads of times, and to gigs and theatre. Personally I think the sad losers are the ones who are scared to do things alone. If you're self assured and confident it's no big deal at all.

EauDeResistance · 18/09/2019 16:20

I go for meals alone, to the cinema alone, to the theatre alone and tonight I'm off to see the Pixies on my own.

It's not an issue.

CookPassBabtridge · 18/09/2019 16:21

Exactly jay55 I feel sad that society limits itself by thinking anything entertainment wise should be done with someone or it's sad. Why are people scared of being alone?

springydaff · 18/09/2019 16:22

Going to the cinema alone is the best kept secret! I love it . More often than not I am extremely critical of films which can ruin it for the people I go with who can suspend critical faculties and go along with any old tripe. I also can't fully get into it because I'm aware there's someone else to consider.

The only thing I dread is meeting couples who feel sorry for me and insist I sit with them. Fuck off you losers.

TheNestedIf · 18/09/2019 16:22

I do a lot of things on my own.. The cinema is one of those things albeit rarely precisely because far too many people DO chat away.

Not sure why your friend thinks that would be sad. I like my own company. Doesn't she like hers? Understandable.

BlingLoving · 18/09/2019 16:24

Like other posters, I find the idea that going alone is sad or makes you a loser really very disturbing. I've been to movies alone. And DH regularly goes alone as he loves movies, we can't afford double tickets and babysitters on a regular basis (and I'm not that bothered anyway). Pre kids, he used to go alone because I need time alone at home and it was a way for me to get a break.

I also eat in restaurants alone (more often than I go to movies alone). Although I admit that I don't usually go to "nice" restaurants alone - more somewhere to sit and grab something to eat and some quiet time by myself. Having said that, the absolutely lovey meal I had in our nicest local restaurant when DS was just 5 weeks old, alone, might have saved my life!

EBearhug · 18/09/2019 16:24

It's dark, you can't talk to anyone - it's an ideal activity to do alone, especially now we have social media, so if you want to discuss the film after, you can find loads of people who will know what you're on about.

Girasole02 · 18/09/2019 16:26

I do loads of things on my own - meals, cinema, theatre etc. Ignore your friend. What she's trying to say is that she'd never have the guts to go alone. Enjoy!

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