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Adorable, bit weird or really quite sinister?

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 20:52

Couple at work, together for well over a decade, married, kids.

Work in completely different departments (no work overlap at all) but randomly the two teams are next door to each other in the office space.

Couple sit next to each other at work. Very likely that this is through choice as there are a lot of couples in the office and the assumption is that they will want to be in different sections.

Always arrive together. Always leave together. (Not car sharing.) Always have lunch together. Always go to wash up coffee cups together. For weekly after work drinks they always go together then leave early (together) to pick up their kids.

For ages I thought it was sweet then moved onto “bit weird but each to his own” and then it occurred to me that maybe there is something sinister going on here and I should be worried. (I’ve been binge watching Holby City.)

They walk past my desk to get in and out of the office and to get to the kitchen which is how I know this. Unfortunately I can’t report on whether they go to the loo at the same time as it is in the other direction.

So what’s everyone’s view?

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TequilaMockingbird0 · 16/09/2019 20:53

Seems a bit weird to be in each other's pockets all day every day, but why would it be sinister? To each their own, if they're happy then what difference does it make to you?

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 16/09/2019 20:57

Always arrive together. Always leave together. (Not car sharing.)

This is the weirdest bit of it all.

Why aren’t they car sharing if they’re coming and going at the same time, from the same place, and very clearly like spending all their time together? Confused

ladybee28 · 16/09/2019 21:00

Utterly none of anyone's business but their own.

What has happened on Holby City to make you so intrigued by this couple?

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 21:02

Like I said I’ve been binge watching Holby and there is a couple on there where the husband (Jamie from EastEnders!!!!!!!!!!!) is controlling / manipulating the wife and part of it is that he never ever leaves her alone so she can’t think at all for herself.

It doesn’t make any difference to me but it has been interesting me how different people’s relationships are and it obviously isn’t appropriate to talk about it to work friends. When I tried to tell dh about it he looked up from his phone long enough to say “mmmmm - that’s nice - are we free on the 6th October so I can watch the football?” So mumsnet it is!

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DirtyWindow · 16/09/2019 21:03

Yeah, the not car sharing thing is odd.

Otherwise I'd find it quite "blergh" (yes, I am a miserable git) and probably annoying if I worked with them, but not sinister.

StillWeRise · 16/09/2019 21:04

wierd at best and possibly sinister
have you ever spoken to the woman alone? what happens if she is detained away from him? for example if she can't leave to have lunch at the same time as him?

myloveforfrazzles · 16/09/2019 21:04

I don’t think there’s anything wrong in it if they both seem happy

EskewedBeef · 16/09/2019 21:05

Why aren't they travelling together?! That's the only bit that intrigues me.

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 21:06

Why aren’t they car sharing if they’re coming and going at the same time, from the same place, and very clearly like spending all their time together?

They don’t travel to work by car. I probably didn’t explain that very well - what I meant is that if a couple travel 20 miles to work by car then obviously it makes sense for them to car share. But if you walk / cycle / get the bus / get the train then although you may sometimes or even often travel together sometimes you won’t as one of you will have an early meeting / late meeting / go to the gym / whatever.

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 21:14

have you ever spoken to the woman alone? what happens if she is detained away from him? for example if she can't leave to have lunch at the same time as him?

Not in the last few years! Nor him to be fair. Every time I have seen them going to lunch or at lunch they are together.

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nocoolnamesleft · 16/09/2019 21:16

Perhaps it's a tandem bike...

Buunylover · 16/09/2019 21:16

Married couple at work hold hands until they get to office door and then hold hands on the way out when going home. They don't really talk to anyone else either.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 16/09/2019 21:22

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FizzyPink · 16/09/2019 21:26

I used to work with a couple like this. At 5pm on the dot she would come and wait by his desk for them to go home together. We all felt very sorry for him.

ISmellBabies · 16/09/2019 21:35

Fucking hell, get a bloody grip! They're a couple, doing coupley things together, who gives a fuck?! If anything, you might notice and think aw or bleugh, but should you be worried?!! About what? Unless it's about obtaining a grip as soon as possible, then no, just mind your own business ffs.

Soola · 16/09/2019 21:41

I could easily be like that with my husband as we are very close. I couldn’t imagine doing it with previous partners, they’d get on my nerves.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 16/09/2019 21:47

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FizzyPink · 16/09/2019 21:55

@SmellbowSpaceBowl sorry I probably didn’t explain that very well. Firstly it was weird that she came to work at our work, was v senior somewhere and took a huge cut in position and salary and basically gave up her high flying career to work in a tiny backwards workplace. But even before that he wouldn’t be able to go to work drinks or team nights out without her turning up.
We used to think it was him being possessive of her but when she started working in the same building we realised it was the other way around. There were loads of examples of odd behaviour but I remember once him presenting something to the team and she was instant messaging him (they were popping up on his screen) asking what he was doing and then getting increasingly irate at him not replying and demanding to know why not. He was such a lovely guy, just seemed to have his whole life controlled by her.

confusedandemployed · 16/09/2019 22:00

Could be a bit odd, may be nothing in it, but I find that kind of uber togetherness rather unhealthy.
My GPs lived like that: utterly devoted to one another to the exclusion of almost everything else. When my DGM died by DGF was quite literally rudderless. His life stalled and I honestly think he was just waiting to die after that.

Everyone needs other things in their life. Maybe not for now, but one day one of you will be left behind.

Gardai · 16/09/2019 22:01

I think that sounds weird OP, but interesting to watch.

confusedandemployed · 16/09/2019 22:03

Actually OP having read your update I agree, that sounds distinctly wrong.

Ohbuggerlugs · 16/09/2019 22:09

Me and my DP spend what would be deemed in most households an ‘unhealthy’ amount of time together, but it works for us.

YouWhoNeverArrived · 16/09/2019 22:14

DH and I work in different places, but I imagine if we worked together we'd be like this. Nothing sinister - we just really enjoy each other's company. We don't tend to socialise without each other. We can be apart when we need to be (e.g. DH has an evening meeting tonight, so I've been at hone with DS watching crap TV, not giving DH a second thought) but we prefer to be together.

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 16/09/2019 22:14

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HelpImAlive · 16/09/2019 22:16

It must be nice to be married to someone you like spending time with