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Adorable, bit weird or really quite sinister?

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 20:52

Couple at work, together for well over a decade, married, kids.

Work in completely different departments (no work overlap at all) but randomly the two teams are next door to each other in the office space.

Couple sit next to each other at work. Very likely that this is through choice as there are a lot of couples in the office and the assumption is that they will want to be in different sections.

Always arrive together. Always leave together. (Not car sharing.) Always have lunch together. Always go to wash up coffee cups together. For weekly after work drinks they always go together then leave early (together) to pick up their kids.

For ages I thought it was sweet then moved onto “bit weird but each to his own” and then it occurred to me that maybe there is something sinister going on here and I should be worried. (I’ve been binge watching Holby City.)

They walk past my desk to get in and out of the office and to get to the kitchen which is how I know this. Unfortunately I can’t report on whether they go to the loo at the same time as it is in the other direction.

So what’s everyone’s view?

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Eastie77 · 16/09/2019 22:23

Sounds odd to me, particularly if they are a young couple, but I very much value my own space and not everyone is like that. It's possible that either the wife or husband is controlling the other though.

Two of my colleagues are in a relationship. They go to lunch together every single day and spend coffee breaks huddled together giggling over YouTube videos. They work in the same team so spend all day together, going to the same meetings etc. The female half of this couple is unaware that this is her boyfriend's fourth work relationship in this office and they have all ended badly.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 16/09/2019 22:34

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LER83 · 16/09/2019 22:56

I used to work in the same office as my husband 2/3 days a week (small office, 10 people, initially went in to help out when they were short staffed) and we used to arrive together, go to lunch together & go home together! Didn't sit next to him though! Never thought of it as weird! I enjoy his company & it was nice being able to chat in an adult environment without the kids around! We used to treat lunch like a date!

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 23:02

Ok - so current views are about

40% adorable, 55% weird and 5% worrying.

Which pretty much represents my own view on it.

They are both very nice people and if one is actually controlling the other I couldn’t tell you which way round it is.

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user1493494961 · 16/09/2019 23:09

It sounds suffocating to be with your OH 24/7.

ralphfromlordoftheflies · 16/09/2019 23:11

Maybe I am mean spirited, but they sound really, really annoying.

W0rriedMum · 16/09/2019 23:13

In the pub, do they talk to other people?

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 16/09/2019 23:18

Yes but together. They don’t ignore everyone else but you are definitely having a conversation with Lucy and Jake - not just Lucy or just Jake.

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zeezee3 · 16/09/2019 23:38

@SmellbowSpaceBowl

Nothing wrong with a couple being together a lot if they are both happy with it.

Me and DH do pretty much everything together and are rarely apart, and for some reason it seems to irritate people. They just CAN'T understand how a couple can be together so much.

And ya know what? It's naff-all to do with them.

And what this couple you work with get up to is naff-all to do with you.

Mind your own damn bloody business!

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 16/09/2019 23:45

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zeezee3 · 16/09/2019 23:48

@Mumoftwoyoungkids

Nothing wrong with a couple being together a lot if they are both happy with it.

Me and DH do pretty much everything together and are rarely apart, and for some reason it seems to irritate people. They just CAN'T understand how a couple can be together so much.

And ya know what? It's naff-all to do with them.

And what this couple you work with get up to is naff-all to do with you.

Mind your own damn bloody business!

commanderdalgleish · 17/09/2019 00:11

I'm surprised they're allowed to sit together to be honest?
It's a bit odd. I work with my DP, we're over a lot of floors but for a time we sat on the same floor. We would travel in separately, have lunch separately and see each other at home. We needed that separation between life and work I think!

TheVanguardSix · 17/09/2019 00:23

They're not just a couple, they're each other's family. They have kids.
I think it's lovely, actually.
They sound so close and happy. I worked with my husband and I'd never do it again. He was no friend to me at work and it was pretty soul-destroying.

managedmis · 17/09/2019 00:27

I'd find it weird and suffocating.

I worked with a couple and they used to bring in a huge Tupperware of food every day and share it for lunch. The woman would be there, dishing it out. He'd be sat there, gurning like a moron. For some reason I just found it all too sickly.

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