Desperately want another child but DH is 47

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And most likely will be 48 by the time we have another baby.

Is he too old? He says he's open minded for another. We have 2 DDs and I'd absolutely love a third child. I was an only child and I hated it. I'd always pictured myself with 3 children.

We live in London where dads to newborns their early-mid 40s isn't entirely uncommon.

How old are your dd’s?

Well, we always took the opinion that we wouldn't 'try', but we wouldn't stop it. Why not see how that works out? And besides, 50 is the new 40. Why not, go for it!

DDs are 2yr4m and 11 months, still small!

My DH is 9 years older than me, I was 35 and he 44 when we had our third and he was absolutely fine! In fact he has more energy than I do, goes to the gym, trains, does loads of sport etc. These days age is just a number really, I would go for it if it's something you both really want.

My DH was 49 when we had ours. It’s fine

Can’t see any reason why not. I live in London too and I know a lot of older fathers and mothers for that matter. Not sure why him being 48 to a new born makes any odds given he is already a father to
Two very young children.

With a small age gap I’d definitely go for it. If they were older I’d wonder if you really wanted to go back to nappies etc. But you’re still in the midst of it so a third won’t really make that much of a difference.

Does he want another child or is he just pacifying you?
Would it put pressure on your relationship ?
47 is old. It might be fashionable to have a child at that age, but biologically his sperm will not be great and the chances of problems are increased, just the same as they are for females. The fact that this is not a widely publicised fact does not mean it isn't true.
Would you be prepared for that and the complications it could bring?
Some people are happy to have an older father whilst others aren't.
I think you need to remove your idealised view of having 3 children and look realistically at the impact it could have.

I can’t see why it would be an issue. If your DC were older then I’d be more cautious, but your children are still young so it won’t make much of a difference to him

Just seen your last post. I assumed your other dc were older.

I would say how old you are is more of a factor.

As your 2 dd’s are so small I would say it wouldn’t make much difference, go for it if you want a third

Tbh I wouldn't
Higher chance of downs and autism
48 is old. Many men's city careers finish at 55. How would you find 3 kids if his career had only 7yr left?

I work in banking and never see men older than 55 so unless you're wealthy I would avoid

@loops2019 my H is in financial services and he says realistically he has about 10 years left of his career (he's quite senior). I'd be the one who would go back to work once he's decided he's had enough and I'm totally ok with that, kids would be in school by then.

Forgot to say I'm 35 (36 next month).

My husband was 47 when our youngest was born. No health issues. All our children are now adults and had good childhoods. He played sports with them all the time. So, I don’t think it’s too old.

I'm in my mid-late 30's and my husband is the same age as yours. We just had our third and it's brilliant! Honestly we did have concerns but we're all happy and healthy.

@Winterlife and @backouch thanks for sharing your stories and making me feel better about having an old husband 😄 Are your respective DHs in good health? I'm not expecting DH to runs marathons every other weekend but if we were to have another child so late in to his 40s I expect him to stay in shape.... he's been letting that slip recently!

Yes, bbciii, my husband was very athletic, a slim runner’s body at that time. He was in much better shape than most of the fathers a decade younger. He’s mid sixties now, in excellent health. But, he now has a slight belly, but denies it.

My lovely DH was about to turn 44 when his first (my third) child was born and he was 48 when DS was born. Neither has any health conditions and DH is an Amazing and hands on dad. Compare that to my first husband who was 21 when our first child was born and 23 with the second and barely lifted a finger. Nor is he involved with them and never has been really beyond a monthly check-in. Age doesn’t matter at all when it comes to being a father.
And my husband is similarly happy to reduce his work to take over childcare as I work more as I’m younger too- 14 years his junior.

Yes, he isn't fit as in going to the gym, running or that sort of thing but he does have a very active job, can walk miles and comes on family bike rides.

Fair enough just thought I'd say as no one was publicly says it but basically there's no one older than 55 no idea why? So if you've considered it hen that's good!

Me and DH planning for banking careers to end at 50, any more is a bonus. (Were 35&36)

My DH was forty-eight and fifty when our kids were born. He's super-hands on and is kicking a ball around the park with them as we speak.

My cousin was 55 and a grandad when he had his 4 th child

All good.

Oh and he cycled down to our caravan 60 miles away on a red hot day in May this year and managed not to peg out
And cycle back two days later
Not bad for a smoker 😡

Men can be fathers Into their 80s. Therefore 47 is hardy any age at all.
If you’re both on board go for it.