Will we need to give our first dog up?

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This may be a bit long so please bear with me.

We got our first dog last January. We put a lot of research into it and I read three books as I'd never had a dog before (DH had lots though). We've spent a lot of time trying to train our dog. Unfortunately she still tries to run away when she can get out the gate (if I leave it open by accident or she manages to open it) and is a LOT faster than us. She also barks like mad when people come in or leave the house and having a guest is nearly impossible because m, despite trying everything, she doesn't stop barking. She's definitely strong and sometimes nips. We can't leave the room if she's in with DC (for the loo) and I don't let her near DC2 (4mo) as she's just too temperamental. We had this dog from puppy for context and bought her.

This is where it gets harder. We rescued two puppies two two weeks ago, for various reasons. They've been very good and easy enough to train but they're small dogs so maybe that's why. Dog no1 can't be in the same room as them as she attacks them, every time.

I don't know what the solution is at this point. It's not fair to give dog no1 away but I don't know what else we can do? She's not safe around the kids or other dogs and I have failed training her to be calmer and not to bark so much and to not run away. What do I do?

Re-home the cavaliers
Get training for the jrt/ess.
Ridiculous to take on 2 pups when you can’t control your current dog.

My two, who are velcro dogs, used to escape regularly. We taught them to sit at the open door and wait, didn’t take long. They know not to go over the threshold. Do some training!

To keep this sort of cross breed dog happy you'd have to be brain training or exercising 24/7. No job, no life, no kids, just dog 😂

Re home dog1
It makes the most sense.

Think long and hard before you keep the other two, you don’t have the time for obedience training etc.

You should have to sit an entrance exam before being allowed animals and children. Just saying.....

To keep this sort of cross breed dog happy you'd have to be brain training or exercising 24/7. No job, no life, no kids, just dog

When you cross breed two intelligent, energetic breeds you don't get double the energy, double the brain. The resulting puppies will carry certain traits from each breed. Generally, ime, terrier traits seem to be more dominant. OP has a slightly overgrown, fluffy JRT not some kind of mutant. Training and exercise aimed at terrier type dogs will suffice. She just needs to be consistent and put in the time. Sadly, this isn't possible with two other demanding young dogs in the frame, not to mention the young child.

With one dog and commitment it's more than possible to re-train and solve any issues with a reasonable training/exercise schedule.

No I think it's a mutant

You can't look after the dog you have so you get another two? You were replacing your first dog with sparkly new puppies even before you'd dumped him. Disgusting.

You say you love them. If you love them, give them a chance to have a life where they'll be looked after properly ffs.

You have tried to train dog 1.
You have tried to rescue two pups (presumably from a bad private home situation).
You love the dogs.
You are struggling.
You have asked for help, and it sounds like you are going to take advice.

You may have been a bit impulsive - you’re trying to set it right - you don’t deserve the unkindness being shown on here.

The pups will find a new home through a specialist rescue. A behaviourist will support you to work with your older dog. I hope it goes well.

FFS
I cannot believe this, you are a grown adult, stop being so self absorbed.
“Loving them” is a selfish excuse

Your current set up is not fair on Dog1 or the puppies.

For the love of all things holy PLEASE rehome the pups and pay for a behaviouralist to work with you and properly train your existing dog.

There are a number of things you need to do

a) stick an automatic gate closer on your garden gate, which will also latch it automatically when it is pulled closed. Most dogs, even those with excellent recall, will go off for 'solo walkies' if the garden gate is left open.

b) Contact a qualified (APBC or CCAB accredited) behaviourist to help you work through the issues with visitors and accepting the other two dogs. My own JRT developed similar issues with visitors following a house move; we had one session with the local APBC behaviourist and after following her advice through I rapidly found myself with a dog who was more than happy to have visitors because as far as he's concerned they've come to play fetch with him (and fetch is the best thing in the world, obviously). The aggression towards the puppies may be part of the same issue - being a bit territorial. Depending on your insurance policy, you may find that a behaviourist is covered.

c) Get your dogs (especially DDog1) out for more walkies - you don't say how much exercise they get, but my own JRT cross needs 2-3 hours per day (mostly off lead) to keep him sane. A lack of exercise and training with previous owners is why I am owner number 4. If he feels he's been underwalked for any reason (e.g. if it's due in half an hour, or the vet ordered short walks only, or I'm too ill to move) he's a pain in the arse and gets nippy / starts playbiting too.

d) ideally rehome the two puppies, pronto. You cannot cope with them on top of DDog1 and DC, and really they need to be split up anyway due to the very real risks of littermate syndrome. The earlier they are rehomed the faster they will be with someone who has the time and energy to focus on that dog's needs. Whichever rescue they go to, they will be snapped up, being the age and breed they are, and go to good homes.

OP Good for you for not giving up on your dogs. We have four dogs and sometimes there's some 'dog drama' but it gets sorted. Stop that nipping though asap.