Is everyone proud of the person their child is becoming?

[morrisdog]

Back to school photos

Or birthday photos with the gushing description of all their wonderful qualities

Not in the last 2 weeks no.
In the last 2 weeks I wouldn't have hung out with them if I didn't have to...things got a bit better after I killed the x box with a sledgehammer.

Definitely. As she’s pushing forty it’s just as well.

It can't just be me?
I have no idea what sort of a person he's going to be
I'm just trying to steer my way through the battles

Love him so much but it's so hard

Definitely. So proud of my DC I could burst.

But my DC are kind, first and foremost. I have a friend who has three boys who are most definitely NOT kind and I do wonder what she thinks. They are 'cool' and clever and popular, ish, as they are 'cool' (all the gadgets, labels etc) but they are really quite unkind, and she doesn't seem bothered which I find odd.

yes , immensely proud. My son is adopted, has ASD and a learning difficulty. He has moved from special school to mainstream school and is holding his own, he is kind and caring, enthusiastic and wants to learn and achieve. He has good friends and is engaged in lots of interests and activities. He works hard and always tried his best.

He had a very poor start in life but has grabbed every opportunity given to him. He won't be going to university or have a stellar career, but he will go to college and do an apprenticeship. He will be employable and be a good, hard working member of his community and wider society.

And he brings me a cup of tea every morning before he goes to school.

Yes, they are both in their 30's and I'm super proud of them.

I know exactly what you mean OP!! Don't worry, you're not alone

What would you rather they write, happy birthday Aiden, you're an argumentative self absorbed fuck and you're on track to become the next Rees-Mogg? Olivia is starting in Year 9, looking forward to another year of her being a Queen Bee bully making the less fortunate in her class miserable? Not really going to happen is it.

Did not hold out much hope of brilliance with my first born.
Square peg in a round hole from day of birth.
Battled kicking and screaming through life itself some days minute to minute.
Infinite problems and issues on a daily basis through school. Behaviour issues galore.
But
He spotted something advertised on Facebook for an apprenticeship.
He spoke to his dad about it.
They filled in the application form together and sent it off.

While still at school aged 15 he trotted off to the interview.
165 applicants, 60 people interviewed, 10 taken on...one of which is my son.
It is like he has found his square peg slot and life has come together for him.
I am overwhelmed with utter utter glowing pride for the first time in my boys life. He has given us little to be proud of until now.
He is sweet, kind, even tempered, quiet and thoughtful.
So yes, op I am proud.

Ds1 was a nightmare until he was about 12. He was a difficult baby, feral toddler, school refusing five year old, tantrumming 7 year old...

He's 23 now, and I couldn't be prouder. He's lovely- still very individual, but lovely.
DS2 is 19 and has always been an absolute doddle in comparison. He's adorable too.

Yeah, mine are kind and brave, they have good values. They are doing fine.

Yes. They’re both decent sorts, if a little messy and lazy. But as a rule they’re pretty good eggs who will help others out as and when required. They’re only 9 and 16 though. Plenty of time to turn into absolute toerags who I won’t admit to knowing in public 🤷🏼‍♀️

Crying now

How old is he Morris?

Everyone's kids test them at times.

Oh no Morris! Its not just you, honest. Read my first reply-the only bit I am kidding about is the sledgehammer..
Kids can bloody test you. What's the main problem do you think?

Yes (other then the bickering but to be expected with siblings) my eldest has autism and difficulties and DD who is a year younger then him is (mostly) brilliant with him.

It was the boys birthdays early this week, one the day after the other, eldest 15 and younger boy 11..yes I timed that well (not). So they both went to spend their birthday money, which they had quite a lot of. DD (14) had a bit of pocket money, which she brought clothes with, and she had some money left so wanted to go to Costa to get herself a drink. DS2 also brought himself a drink, as he had some money left. DS1 didn't have any money left so DS2 told him he'd leave him some, then DD got her purse out and went back into Costa to buy DS1 his own drink, she got him a medium sized one so it wasn't exactly cheap (I think about £4 something).

They are all good in school and we get comments about how well mannered they are. We are really proud of them, but they were starting to get sick of each other at the end of the holidays and bickering, glad they are back in school now.

I get it Morris.

I'm proud of DD; she is 11 and I can pretty much see the woman she'll be. Smart, fierce, bookish.

DS is 8 and I worry more about him; he's so sweet, but he's also much more temperamental than DD, and seems to hold some aggression in him that worries me the older he gets. I worry that he will be an angry adult who you can never tell anything to.

I'm sure he'll grow up and past it all (fingers crossed!) but I just can't quite peek round the corner of his life yet and see into his future.

It changes daily. And I completely get what you mean, makes you doubt your own parenting/dc.

Hang in there @morrisdog . I honestly wondered if I was going to get through with DS1 (see my post up there somewhere). But we did. You will.

I'm as proud as I can be battling the torrent of drudgery, sleep deprivation, tantrumming and lack of independence from my 3 year old.

Seriously though, yes, he makes me proud. I've not got the foggiest what life will hold for him. He's insanely smart with numbers and letters (can already count over 100 and can read 3 letter words) but he's very dramatic, anxious and I fear we may have battles ahead. He was a doddle as a baby, so this has taken me by surprise 😂

I'm proud we've navigated life together after a rocky start (me, PND and massive MH problems last year). We've done it largely alone, without a huge support network. But my boy is sociable, friendly, polite, respectful and such a joy to have around (mostly).

I’m so proud of my DD, she’s only 5 and definitely has her moments but she’s mostly kind and caring and she’s doing so incredibly well at school.
She made my heart ache with pride yesterday when she saw one of her friends start to cry going into school and she went and held her hand to walk into class.

I am actually just talking to my DM about this DD is 5 and autistic but recently shes REALLY come out of her shell. Shes developed this "feisty" girl attitude. Becoming more interested in her looks (gahhhhhh!) And although the arguing with me about everything, especially in public (FEWMIN!), under the surface I am bubbling with pride because 2 yrs ago when she was diagnosed I had no idea what she would be like with her autism. So I'm just happy with how shes going and excited to see what she eventually turns out like.

OP, The majority of people only show the good happy side to life on social media.

The side I show everyone: I am hugely proud of my ds, he is so cute and I love him to pieces. Here's a pic of him with his baby brother.
The side I hide: I am terrified about his future, he has ASD so I know we have a lot of challenges facing us in the future. His relationship with his baby brother is strange, he appears neutral towards him. He doesn't bother with him but isn't jealous by him either.

@EmmiJay I'm in a similar position at the minute. Ds is almost 6. I worry myself so much about him and mixing with other kids, making friends and not being left out. Last Sunday I broke down to dp about it. But he seems to have really come out of his shell since going back to school. He's talking to other children, joining in games at break time, got an invitation to another child's house. I'm so proud of him right now.