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What's the most unsupportive thing your dp/dh did whilst you were pregnant?

47 replies

RainbowCrashes · 01/09/2019 14:53

I guess so I can gauge whether I'm being an oversensitive pregnant numpty or dp is in fact an arsehole!

Thank you

OP posts:
T0getherindreams · 01/09/2019 15:17

You'll just be starting a man bashing thread, if you want advice then explain the situation and ask. But dont start a thread inviting people to bash their OPs.

PurpleDaisies · 01/09/2019 15:18

The nicest thing other people’s partners have done is irrelevant to your own situation.

What’s going on?

PurpleDaisies · 01/09/2019 15:18

That should say nastiest! Oops.

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RainbowCrashes · 01/09/2019 15:46

I don't want to start a man bashing thread. I have sons who will one day be men. I have an amazing father and brothers.

I didn't want nasty comments, I wanted perspective.

Don't have time to post details right now.

OP posts:
Newmumma83 · 01/09/2019 15:48

He just was through out... didn’t complain that i couldn’t cook for the first 4 months due to sickness , constantly came home with different cures / ideas to help that he found online. Came to nearly every scan and as many midwife appointments thar he could. Stayed calm and did what the midwifes told him to
Do and didn’t freak out when giving birth ... there is no one thing just the whole thing x

HumphreyCobblers · 01/09/2019 15:50

DH once winced when I yelped over my PGP and accused me of histrionics. We had a blazing row.

It really wasn't like him though, he was really nice and supportive the rest of the time.

IsAStormApproaching · 01/09/2019 15:57

He went missing for 23 hours after having a fight with his mother. During this time his phone was off and the body of a man turned up in the river near our house.
It was one of the most stressful nights of my life.
He wandered home 23 hours later puzzled why I was angry and stressed.

kitk · 01/09/2019 16:00

I was having really dreadful nightmares during pregnancy- the worst was being stuck in a dark room with something trying to catch me. One night I went to the loo and he hid in the hallway and grabbed my leg on the way past. I walloped him and then he told the midwife that pregnancy had turned me into a husband beater. That's one example of many. We are not together anymore

SummerHouse · 01/09/2019 16:00

Searched his pockets for change when I was practically on the floor in the car park in labour.

princesstinnedpeach · 01/09/2019 16:11

Mine phoned me last week and complained that he had heartburn. I'm nearly eight months. He's lucky to have lived to tell the tale.

boredboredboredboredbored · 01/09/2019 16:12

Mine went to Ibiza when I was 36 weeks pregnant on a lads weekend. He's now my ex!

Shylo · 01/09/2019 16:18

Mine moved his best mate in to our house for three weeks - a best mate I detest, who I begged him not to have stay, and who was staying because his wife had found out he’d shagged someone else whilst she was heavily pregnant

He’s my ex. Unsurprisingly.

AlmondVanHolden · 01/09/2019 16:19

My waters broke in bed.
I went in to hospital and a had an emcs and complications and was in hospital for 4 nights.
When I got home he still hadn't changed the sheets. Not sure if he was inconsiderate/lazy/ Just didn't think. He was normally a stickler for hygiene issues that affected him so I was very confused about this.

And tearful/ emotional/ traumatised and just generally thought, ffs, you have had 4 full days. Do I have to tell you to do everything???

iklboo · 01/09/2019 16:21

Dropped the strawberry tart I was looking forward to after tea (lighthearted & very minor in the scheme of things).

AnotherEmma · 01/09/2019 16:23

If you don't have time to post details, you don't have time to read all the irrelevant replies you're going to get.

Newmumma83 · 01/09/2019 16:53

Sorry I miss read i thought it was supportive x

tried20names · 01/09/2019 16:55

My DH declared one evening that he couldn't understand why I was so tired as the baby was only the size of a grain of rice, then offered to tape one to his stomach for a day to see what it felt like Hmm

SummerHouse · 01/09/2019 17:13

@tried20names I would say sure, as long as you also promise to squeeze a watermelon out any orifice of your choice and see how that feels too...

Frith2013 · 01/09/2019 17:20

Many things. We were divorced within 18 months of my youngest child being born.

GinNotGym19 · 01/09/2019 18:08

My ex was online dating whilst I was pregnant 😂

missymoomoomoomoomoo · 01/09/2019 18:10

Went out on Valentine's Day, got blind drunk and left my card in a taxi

missymoomoomoomoomoo · 01/09/2019 18:12

Mine's an ex now though

lyingwanker · 01/09/2019 18:19

Was on dating apps

Didn't come to any scans coz they were boring

Chose to slowly make his way up to the delivery room, stop for a coffee on his way past and then missed the birth

Bourbonbiccy · 01/09/2019 18:19

Broached the subject of sharing my chocolate cake AngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngry

How very dare he........ I should have LTB but I didn't we persevered and he is an amazing father and hubby..,who would have knownConfusedConfusedConfused

elQuintoConyo · 01/09/2019 18:23

Sorry tried20 but I'm laughing at the grain of rice! DH waved his blue cheese under my nose Angry (*not a euphemism, stilton).

Are you ok OP?

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