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Handhold please - DH head injury

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GloriaMaximus · 31/08/2019 05:26

We are currently away for DH birthday visiting places where he holidayed growing up. We are staying in the middle of nowhere!

Around 10pm, DH hit his head on a door frame trying to catch a moth. He complained of a horrendous headache but by midnight (the turn of his birthday) he seemed ok. He had his presents etc (as per his own decided tradition) but as we were going to bed he just started screeching in pain. This lasted about 20 minutes when he fell asleep. 2 hours later he woke up to go to the toilet and it then came back with a vengeance. He's also then started violently vomiting so I convinced him to get in the car to drive an hour to the smallest a and e that exists.

I'm so scared. Apart from the pain he is confused (swears blind he doesn't know where a light switch is in the bathroom because he didn't turn it on. Forgot why we were in the car. And he's is soooo angry. With a strong accent different (DH is from this area of the uk but I'm not even from this country) the receptionist struggled to take details from me but he was u willing to give them himself. He got irate instantaneously.

I'm worried it's serious but hoping he's just tired and pissed off.

Please can someone either reassure me or just sit with me as we wait. The wait time is as long if not longer than our local, major city hospital 😔

OP posts:
Missingstreetlife · 31/08/2019 18:23

Another one for a second opinion. Or at least watch and wait very conservatively. A scar on the brain can cause epilepsy and lots of serious problems long term. A bleed on the brain can cause stroke, permanent damage and even death. Can't be too careful. He shouldn't be driving.

MrsMozartMkII · 31/08/2019 19:00

Sending you a hug OP.

I've had a bleed on the brain (horse riding accident). Tell your DH not to go on that hike. Overwhelming fatigue is likely to hit at any point. Confusion. Processing issues.

Mythreefavouritethings · 31/08/2019 20:06

Hope you’re ok, it sounds scary, sounds like you’ve done all the right things x

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NameChangerAmI · 01/09/2019 07:02

Morning Gloria

I was just thinking about you and hoping that you and DH are OK.

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NameChangerAmI · 01/09/2019 07:13

Sorry Gloria my laptop was playing up and wouldn't refresh, so I couldn't see the last few messages till just now,

Hope he's a little more open to the idea of taking it easy and resting today than he was yesterday.

Quartz2208 · 01/09/2019 08:13

I read about a English hockey player Alex Danson recently that had something similar an innocuous bump causing real issues (partly due to previous bumps) and how much it has effected her life because she didn’t rest
He needs to DO NOTHING no going out very little tech time for at least 24 hours
Then go home and get a proper opinion personally 3 weeks no rugby seems low

StayInYourLaneBoy · 01/09/2019 12:44

I hope you've managed to talk him round and have a rest, OP?

KatherineJaneway · 01/09/2019 16:58

@GloriaMaximus

I hope your husband and you are well?

SlothMama · 01/09/2019 17:50

OP with the CT scan was it sent to a major trauma centre for a neurosurgeon to have a look? If he's still showing symptoms I'd be worried, I'd want a second opinion.

Jack80 · 01/09/2019 18:06

How is he today?

ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow · 01/09/2019 18:08

Hope today was ok, but I would still want a 2nd opinion. Saw a horrendous IC bleed be missed on a first scan many years ago. If there are still any symptoms at all, please go back!

Mummyto2munchkins · 01/09/2019 18:09

Handhold OP,

Hope he's feeling better today

QualCheckBot · 01/09/2019 18:15

21/2 hours to be triaged for a head injury causing confusion, vomiting, screeching in pain and memory loss? OMG.

Its the weekend OP...

DH had a head injury resulting in a bleed to the brain at the weekend. The consultants were good but the nurses were extremely confused and complained to me that he kept trying to climb out of the bed naked and displaying himself to other patients. Err, yes, he has a head injury. They cause confusion.

OP I was asked if DH had ever used drugs, even once, recreationally, as this can make complications from a minor bleed more likely. This was stressed to me by one of the consultants who had to decide whether to open his skull or not. In the end, he didn't and DH recovered naturally but it took weeks for him to be back to normal. For a while he was very tired.

Apart from the head injury specialist consultants, the doctors and nurses remained very confused at his symptoms and merrily booked him in for attendance at a specialist unit to help people with head injuries coping with normal life. By that time, he was back at work and cancelled the appointments. The consultant on the ward was also really puzzled at how quiet he was - he was very tired and just needed to recover and sleep a lot the first few weeks.

Do have a think about whether he has ever used drugs just once, recreationally, and I would stay close to the hospital and not go hiking, just in case.

toadabode · 01/09/2019 18:19

You should've gone to A&E sooner. Never let someone with a head injury go to sleep - surely everyone knows that?

Alsohuman · 01/09/2019 18:28

Spectacularly unhelpful @toadabode. Well done.

Hangingtrousers · 01/09/2019 18:29

Actually that's not true anymore. New rule is that they can sleep.

manicmij · 01/09/2019 18:32

Sounds like concussion. Good move to go to A & E. Hope all is well.

Wynston · 01/09/2019 18:32

Hi op just checking in that you are both ok??
I live really close to mwnt so if you need any recommendations for the rest of you're time let me know!

SoupDragon · 01/09/2019 18:34

Never let someone with a head injury go to sleep - surely everyone knows that?

Best you tell the NHS then.

Handhold please - DH head injury
64sNewName · 01/09/2019 18:34

Just read full thread. Really hope things are OK and that you managed to dissuade him from hiking.

bananaskin123 · 01/09/2019 18:54

When you were told the CT was inconclusive do you know whether it had been looked at by a Consultant? Only asking as most medics need to have the CT reported by the radiologist for confirmation.

My DH had a freak accident 3 months ago which resulted in a skull fracture. Really worrying time, surgery, ITU, major trauma ward etc but he came through it. I can remember all the investigations and the consultant awaiting reports etc.

Hope you can update us when you have time.

user1491640499 · 01/09/2019 19:03

same thing happened to me 2 years ago had this pain never had pain like it in my head went into bathroom it was late and passed out cutting my head well forehead open, blood everywhere husband took me to hospital, had ct scan all ok in the end just a scar and nerve damage they said, hope he is OK

SeaToSki · 01/09/2019 19:07

I would be heading home so that we were close to a major trauma center. If it goes wrong, it will be very bad very quickly.

Echobelly · 01/09/2019 19:13

Gosh, how scary. I'd definitely get follow up from medics nearer home and advice on what to look out for. It sounds hopeful to me that it's just a bad concussion, but he does need to take it easy for a while after that.

mathanxiety · 01/09/2019 19:30

You must not let him walk anywhere, let alone hike along beaches.

For the next week he needs to either rest in bed or on a couch, with no screens (not even a TV on in the background) no iPad, no phone. No reading. He could listen to the radio or to music for half an hour max. Light conversation only.

Get up slowly - only walk to go to the loo and to get to a chair to eat, and to go to bed. Otherwise sit/lie twiddling his thumbs. Go up and down stairs with assistance only.

My advice is what my DS was told to do and what to avoid, by a sports doctor who works for an American NFL team.

Your DH's concussion sounds far worse than my DS's several years ago, and his is a repeat too; my DS's was his one and only.

Your DH needs to be read the riot act if he tries to get all macho about this. You need to put your foot down in no uncertain fashion., His judgement is seriously impaired.

SeaToSki Sun 01-Sep-19 19:07:11
I would be heading home so that we were close to a major trauma center. If it goes wrong, it will be very bad very quickly
YYY to this ^^

Your holiday plans must be abandoned.

If he recovers then you can try again next year.

He should consider giving up rugby. There is no way his team should encourage him to keep on participating.

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