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Handhold please - DH head injury

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GloriaMaximus · 31/08/2019 05:26

We are currently away for DH birthday visiting places where he holidayed growing up. We are staying in the middle of nowhere!

Around 10pm, DH hit his head on a door frame trying to catch a moth. He complained of a horrendous headache but by midnight (the turn of his birthday) he seemed ok. He had his presents etc (as per his own decided tradition) but as we were going to bed he just started screeching in pain. This lasted about 20 minutes when he fell asleep. 2 hours later he woke up to go to the toilet and it then came back with a vengeance. He's also then started violently vomiting so I convinced him to get in the car to drive an hour to the smallest a and e that exists.

I'm so scared. Apart from the pain he is confused (swears blind he doesn't know where a light switch is in the bathroom because he didn't turn it on. Forgot why we were in the car. And he's is soooo angry. With a strong accent different (DH is from this area of the uk but I'm not even from this country) the receptionist struggled to take details from me but he was u willing to give them himself. He got irate instantaneously.

I'm worried it's serious but hoping he's just tired and pissed off.

Please can someone either reassure me or just sit with me as we wait. The wait time is as long if not longer than our local, major city hospital 😔

OP posts:
BarbarAnna · 31/08/2019 07:13

Handhold from me.

nespressowoo · 31/08/2019 07:14

Hi op they may transfer him to a trauma centre, think Cardiff may be your nearest one. If it is confirmed they will have to monitor his intercranial pressure. Worst case could need surgery. How is he now?

KatnissMellark · 31/08/2019 07:14

Wow OP, scary that such an inoccuous event can have such an impact. He doesn't sound the type to make a drama either! Hopefully you'll know soon what the issue is and have a plan.

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nespressowoo · 31/08/2019 07:15

Intracranial, sorry.

Sewingbea · 31/08/2019 07:15

Handhold from me. Hoping scan results are good.

NorbertHerbertGruntfuttock · 31/08/2019 07:18

They'll either try and clotbust it ir operate to remove it OP.

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 31/08/2019 07:18

Sending you best wishes. It sounds like you're doing great and being strong. 🤝

LittleCandle · 31/08/2019 07:19

If there's an inercranial bleed, it will depend on how serious it is what they decide to do. It could be he will be admitted and monitored. If it is really serious, they may decide to operate. There are drugs they can try to help stop any bleeding, so operating will only be done in extreme circumstances.

I hope this is just a concussion and nothing more serious. Please do not let doctors tell you that his behaviour is/was normal. They don't know him and you do. Be polite but firm, as someone else suggested up-thread. Ask what they are planning at every step.

FredaFrogspawn · 31/08/2019 07:19

They can operate to stop the bleeding and ease the pressure. But it may have stopped by itself. What a horrible thing to happen to your poor husband.

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 31/08/2019 07:20

Handhold.

Frouby · 31/08/2019 07:23

Can you call his parents op? Just to come and offer some moral support for you. Flowers

CherryPlum · 31/08/2019 07:24

OK that sounds scary, stay strong OP you have done such a good job for your DH. Have you managed to get youself a cup of tea or anything?

wornoutboots · 31/08/2019 07:24

on a practical level,If you are in Ysbyty Bronglais in Aberystwyth, there are loads of cards in town. And some of them will be opening for breakfast around now I should think.

iMatter · 31/08/2019 07:29

We went through something very similar recently with a friend of mine. It's terrifying - big hug and a handhold.

originaldomesticgodess · 31/08/2019 07:30

Hope you are both ok. Reading through OPs bits it screams HEAD INJURY HEAD INJURY HEAD INJURY. Any abnormal behaviour following a knock to the head needs investigation. I do hope you get a diagnosis soon and the appropriate treatment. A big hug and I will be holding your hand for as long as you need it. Stay hydrated and eat something...even if it's something from a vending machine.

Orpy40 · 31/08/2019 07:31

I'm so sorry op this all sounds terrifying, fingers crossed it's just a bad concussion x

SunshineCake · 31/08/2019 07:33

Everyone knows it is an head injury Confused.

CorBlimeyGovenor · 31/08/2019 07:35

Hi OP. I'm here to hold your hand too. I've been there. Not the same circumstances. My husband was rushed to hospital with Sepsis and ended up in a coma on life support. I understand the terror. Having tests/scans is extremely nerve racking. However, he is in exactly the right place (as in hospital). I would have thought that he'd be kept in for at least a day or so. Do you have any friends/relatives who could drive to Wales to be with you? Practically, you could do with help driving home or will need to book into a hotel close by for the night (if your accomodation/holiday home is far away). If he stays in overnight, then it would be better if you had some company.

It sounds to me as though it will be a drugs and monitoring exercise.

Sending you thoughts.

Also, they do sometimes have hospital volunteers floating around if you need a little moral support.

Chimpfield · 31/08/2019 07:39

Handhold x

BuildBuildings · 31/08/2019 07:39

This is really scary op. But you've done what you can to support him. Hopefully the scan will give answers and he's in the right place. (even if they're a bit slow) let us know how he's doing. Thinking of you Flowers

flumpybear · 31/08/2019 07:39

Goodness how scary! My boss had an jntercranial bleed (slow one) recently, it stopped and he didn't need anything other than rest, but the CT and possibly MRI should tell you more

I'd be ignoring the doctor who said his behaviour isn't different - how would she know what his normal behaviour is ! - mention it if talking again to a different doctor

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GloriaMaximus · 31/08/2019 07:40

Still waiting for results which makes me feel slightly more optimistic. We are at a hospital near to Carmarthen which would be fantastic if it was in 12 hours time as we have a table booked for dinner 🙈

I think my next step is to call his mum if the news isn't positive.

He's ok. Talking about a book he has been reading that I read before him. He seems so much more himself now thank god.

There's no food in the vending machines either 😫
I'm going to get a nice loaf and proper butter on the way back and have a huge mug of tea. That plan is keeping me going.

I'm so proud of DH, the pp was right, he never makes a fuss. I know he's so scared too.

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rosieposey · 31/08/2019 07:40

Offering a handhold o p. How scary for you both. I hope the outcome is just a concussion Thanks

Whereismyremote · 31/08/2019 07:41

Thinking of you I really hope all results are positive. X

Sleephead1 · 31/08/2019 07:45

So scary for you both when my grandma had a head injury she was put back to bed but woke up vomiting the carers called an ambulance and she went to hospital and was scanned and had 2 bleeds on her brain. She was elderly and had dementia so they said they wouldn't operate on her but obviously your husband is young and healthy so would be completely different. My grandma was seen as an emergency I'm very surprised your husband wasnt. Thinking of you and hope all is ok for you both.

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