Man deliberately walked into me

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Has this happened to anyone?
I was walking along a busy road in central London talking to my friend, very wide pavement and at that moment no one else in the vicinity (so not a question of space).

Next thing I knew I had been elbowed/thumped really hard in the arm by this guy walking the other way-it really hurt!

I whipped around expecting him to be looking back apologetically but no, he was continuing in his way, elbows still out.

Big guy, beefy arms, I'm barely 5 feet. What the fuck did he do that for?!

Last year on the tube, standing room only, I was holding onto one of the vertical poles when a woman got on with a friend. She decided that she wanted to recline against it rather than hold on, so she did so, directly against my hand. I think she assumed that I would move my hand for her benefit - no fucking way - so she ground her back against my hand, eventually using most of her body weight. It was extremely uncomfortable but no way was I going to give her the satisfaction of moving. It became a battle of wills for about 7 stops until she got off. Utter twat.

no way was I going to give her the satisfaction of moving

You sound like me there

Unburnished I got no sound on that video, but what it looked like to me was a man with some sort of MH condition (he really didn't look NT, and our family has a mix of ADHD and ASD) chucking 2 women out of the priority seats.

Puts a different slant on it, although obviously very scary for everyone else.

Maybe he was doing the male version of patriarchy chicken. Women on here do it so they must be barging into men or is that different

I got no sound on that video, but what it looked like to me was a man with some sort of MH condition (he really didn't look NT, and our family has a mix of ADHD and ASD) chucking 2 women out of the priority seats.

I think that’s being very forgiving to what looks like an incredibly aggressive man

The other day we were at the seaside with the kids and went into a large cafe for lunch. Dh sat down with the kids and I went to order, I didn't realise that they gave you the food there and then so was given 5 meals on two trays. I didn't feel I could leave one tray and go back for it because it was very busy and people behind me in the queue were waiting to pay as well so stupidly I lifted both trays and tried to navigate the cafe back to where we were sat. As I was approaching my table a man walking toward me started dicking about going waaaay as though to put me off balance, I gave him the death stare and he did it again but actually nearly knocked me, I said do that again and I'll fucking slap you! I had terrible pmt and I get really jittery as well when due on period and he really really set me off! I just made it back without dropping the trays and then had a go at dh for not helping, he said he didn't see me. That man though what a knob, why would someone do that!

NameChange84 that guy was probably off his face on something.

I'm a lifelong Londoner, so used to this kind of thing, but the other day, I saw someone who seemed SO off his face, I was actually nervous. I was walking along a Tube platform, just a couple of days after the Tate incident. I'm normally one with a London poker face but I think the fear in my eyes showed - I'm petite and an easy target for these men - and he actually looked quite ashamed. It was a very weird experience.

I've been yelled at by a man for doing patriarchy chicken whilst out running. He was coming towards me and I held my ground - he shouted but did swerve - obviously his run was more important than mine (I was on the right which is basically how everyone files along the paths here - not in UK).

Also almost knocked off my feet on the way to a football game by 2 gigantic men supporting the opposing team (we were all wearing team colours). It was obviously on purpose, there was loads of space in the area outside the ground and it was not crowded. I was seemingly alone as DH was 5 paces ahead ignoring me as usual

When women bump it's usually a genuine accident - although sometimes a stupid thoughtless one, in my experience.

I said do that again and I'll fucking slap you! I had terrible pmt and I get really jittery as well when due on period and he really really set me off!

Periods and PMT don't make otherwise decent people threaten violence and start swearing in a family seaside cafe, where there are kids present.

If you have a bad temper you should own it, rather than blaming periods and hormones. That sort of thing gives women a bad name I'm afraid.

But I agree the man was an idiot.

I've had this in London too. A man was walking with his GF and I was as far over to the edge of the pavement as I could be, and he deliberately shoulder barged me so that I almost fell into the path of an oncoming car. He and his girlfriend sniggered. I shouted back that his girlfriend can't have had any self respect if she was happy to be with a loser such as him. That shut them both up. Sadly, I think that aggression, lack of courtesy and stupidity are all too common nowadays.

aggression is massively higher than it was

I have said on here that I think one key difference is that in my "day" (!)
people used to take drugs with the aim of getting happy. Now it seems like the actual objective is to be aggressive? I don't know how this happened or why it happened.

I was sent flying at Gatwick by a woman that did exactly the same. I’m 5’9” and 14 stone so that gives you some idea of the force she used. Unluckily for her I recovered and she got a shove back.

@worraliberty I haven't got a bad temper actually, I was just on the brink that day and he pushed me over the edge. I didn't say anywhere my behaviour was acceptable, but neither was his, he could have caused an accident and cost me the full price of our lunches as well. He was an intimidating prick.

bobster it is good that you said that or he wouldn't have stopped. Stupid arse.

I know you didn't say it was acceptable bobstersmum but you blamed your period and PMT.

That's what I find unacceptable as it gives women a bad name.

You both acted like pricks even though your prickish behaviour was in retaliation.

I don't think bobster behaviour was prickish at all, it was a good response. Men like this don't back down unless they are met with equal force.

I agree blaming it on PMT isn't right, but the actual behaviour and comments were exactly what was needed in that situation.

Threatening violence and swearing in the middle of a packed family seaside cafe, was not a good response and I'm surprised anyone might think it was.

It's the sort of behaviour you might expect in a pub and even then it's never a good idea to threaten to hit someone unless you're willing to end up in a fight.

A man barged right into me at Paddington station earlier in the week. I'd clocked that he was going to (he was traversing the main direction of travel) so I braced myself which he clearly wasn't expecting and got shouted at to "get out of the way".

He was with his female partner and I told her I'd be embarrassed to be with someone who behaves like that. He actually looked chastened.

Did you check your pockets ? That’s my concern when I’m barged

Happened to me in Manchester.

Poor DD, he bathed me so that I stood on her poor foot

As well as being very angry I also felt so impotent and even embarrassed that she had seen me humiliated him

AmIChangingagain he 'bathed' you?

I was barged once by a woman who thought I was standing in front of a shop doorway. It was actually the blocked off door where they had extended and the door was actually 3 feet to the right and she barged past loudly saying ”move” and then tried to open the door - she then spotted the planks nailed across the door and a sign pointing to the new door. She tried to slink away but her look on her (very red) face was a picture!

Did you check if you'd had anything stolen? It's an old trick here in London.

Reallybadidea with the woman on the tube. I'm like you and won't give in, But I make things as uncomfortable as possible, I'd have pushed a knuckle out (or finger whatever I could do) so she would have a really uncomfortable pressure in her back.

When someone stands really close behind me in a que, I do the idle fidgeting with my feet then step back a little so I knock into them or stand on their foot, even if I don't come into contact, they suddenly move. I'm quiet polite and always apologise

before I get pulled apart for it, I don't take a big step back, just enough that if you are within my space you'd know.

same with standing room whilst watching something. if the person infront keeps edging back into my space whilst leaving themselves a couple of foot infront, I stick my hand infront of my chest with my fingers pointing fowards next time the edge back they effectly walk into my pointy fingers. It makes them suddenly aware that other people around them and they move fowards again.

I think without pmt I'm ridiculously accommodating, compliant and polite. I get out of men's way without thinking until afterwards, I occasionally say sorry for no reason. In short my conditioning kicks in.

WITH pmt I'm assertive and immediately react - I take no shit. I will glare at someone for barging, I will push people out of the way when I get off a tube and they're trying to get on (and they're pushing me). If someone is aggressive to me they will get two verbal barrels.

I prefer myself with pmt even though it feels more dangerous.