Man deliberately walked into me

[ShinyShinyFace]

Has this happened to anyone?
I was walking along a busy road in central London talking to my friend, very wide pavement and at that moment no one else in the vicinity (so not a question of space).

Next thing I knew I had been elbowed/thumped really hard in the arm by this guy walking the other way-it really hurt!

I whipped around expecting him to be looking back apologetically but no, he was continuing in his way, elbows still out.

Big guy, beefy arms, I'm barely 5 feet. What the fuck did he do that for?!

It's unbelievable isn't it?

Happened to me twice, both men. The first time I was with my OH so I expected him to punch the guy but he didn't saying it might of been an accident, it clearly wasn't...
Second time I was alone so shouted 'Excuse me? You just walked into a pregnant woman and didn't even stop!' He carried on walking but another man stopped him and had a go. I wasn't actually pregnant but thought it'd be more embarrassing for him.

I tried an experiment. I stopped getting out of the way of men walking side by side. I hadn’t realised how much I gave way to men on the street. Anyway, it is astonishing that if you don’t yield most of them walk into you!

I want to slap that man in that video. Mostly men have done it to me, and now if I see a man walking towards me hoping I'll move out of the way I don't move. If he barges into me, I barge right back at him. However they usually are so shocked and disgusted that I don't move out of the way for them initially that they don't do anything whilst they process what's happening. And before they've finished, I've already walked away 😊

My boss used to do that at work, in the corridors.

See I would have said pick pocket too. I’m surprised only one other person said it

If this happened to me the first thing I would do is check my pockets.

I am quite stubborn and if someone tries this with me they won't get far as I refuse to move for them.

It happens in London. Don’t worry.
Hardly anybody turns back to check on anyone. It’s not nice.

*He felt powerless over his life this made him angry.

He needed to show dominance in some form and take his anger out on someone in order to demonstrate to himself he has power.

He took his chance on someone who was unlikely to challenge him.

It was all about him not you.*

This.

@twinkletwinklelittlestar123 I like your style 😂 I would have called after him but he had very intimidating body language and I didn't fancy getting beaten up.

@Doryhunky I've toyed with that but always lost my nerve at the last minute! But enough to learn that most men really expect women to move out of the way for them. The first time I learned that was out running.

@Gwlondon I live and work in London and it's the first time something so overtly aggressive has happened to me. Maybe I've been lucky? I'm used to the normal mindless jostling etc.

@jcurve (and the original poster) yes absolutely, that was my impression

I seem to have had a name change fail but oh well.

A guy did that to my teenage ds in Manchester City centre yesterday.

I was enraged but my ds was very ‘meh’ about it

I've had numerous people barge into the side of my wheelchair, both sexes, and clearly planned. The idiots on their phones who barge in front of me often get hit in the legs by wheelchair feet.

I recently had a guy walking directly toward me, clearly expecting me to move (he was slightly changing direction, I was keeping the same direction). I didn't, and he slammed straight into me.
He was effing and blinding at me, but he was quiet literally walking directly toward me from his original path.

Nasty prick.

Some of us on here have started playing “patriarchy chicken” as a result. You gotta brace though.

This. Play it and see how many men think you're a piece of shit woman for daring not to scurry out of their way. I play it often and laugh like a small child when grown men are somehow offended by my desire to exist and be entitled to personal space. It helps if you can stare directly at them and don't break eye contact as it's happening, like a separate game of eyeball chicken.

It helps if you can stare directly at them and don't break eye contact as it's happening,

That enough tends to make them swerve away, find!

What I did hate was one fucker who deliberately moved his staffie in my path. Now I don't mind causing pain to an ignorant fucker and am not scared of staffies, but I would not want to hurt the dog so of course got out the way. He no doubt was thinking I was scared. Tosser.

A very similar thing happened to me when I was living in London. I was walking alone on a busy street in the West End about 3 weeks after the terrorist attack on borough market, same year as the London Bridge and Manchester Arena attacks so everyone was on high alert that summer.

I remember from a distance, seeing a tall, big built guy around 40 dressed immaculately in a grey suit with a blue shirt, very piercing light eyes, ruddy complexion. He stared right at me from a distance, a really piercing stare, and he began walking fast towards me. At first it seemed like he was rushing over to tell me something. I altered my “course” to avoid a collision and then so did he (all the time staring at me) and he came charging into me, colliding with me so hard I nearly went flying in the street. I was really scared and shouted “what the hell are you doing?!” and he put his hands on my shoulders, looked really dazed and said “sorry, I’m
so sorry.” I shouted again “just get your hands off me” and he immediately took his hands off my shoulders and carried on past me. I turned again to look at him, to make sure he wasn’t following me and he was looking directly at me again and put his hand on his heart, said “I’m really so sorry” seeming genuinely apologetic and embarrassed at himself. I was close enough to him to know he didn’t smell of alcohol, didn’t seem to be on any substances. He seemed like a “posh City gent”.

It was the most bizarre thing. He absolutely planned it, picking me out of the crowd and did it completely intentionally. It was really scary and unsettling.

I thought of the London Bridge jogger too and almost gave a report of this man to the police.

I wouldn’t say a woman has never walked into me but its incredibly rare and seems to be because they are distracted by something and they are usually apologetic

I walk fast and tend to weave around people male or female so dodge most stuff

I do play patriarchy chicken when I’m in the right mood

I wouldn’t say a woman has never walked into me but its incredibly rare and seems to be because they are distracted by something and they are usually apologetic
The people who have deliberately walked into me are young women. Both in the last few weeks. The other was a young boy who was trying to pickpocket me. Never been deliberately walked to by a man.

and forgot to say im a little gray haired women in my late 50s!

bruffin

Just goes to show that we all have different experiences

Im nearly 50, partially grey and not little

I had a man slap me in the face as I was walking along. Definitely a "because he could moment"

I mean, he didn't really. Did he.

Second time I was alone so shouted 'Excuse me? You just walked into a pregnant woman and didn't even stop!' He carried on walking but another man stopped him and had a go. I wasn't actually pregnant but thought it'd be more embarrassing for him.

See I feel more embarrassed for you in that situation.

What was wrong with saying, "Excuse me? You just walked into me and didn't even apologise"?

Playing the defenceless little 'pregnant' woman makes us all look a bit pathetic.