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Tips for (trying to) sleep next to a snorer

66 replies

DrMadelineMaxwell · 14/08/2019 01:12

Short of shoving a pillow on his noisy face.
Dh can drop off in an instant. And instantly starts snoring.

No spare room to decant to either.

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justilou1 · 14/08/2019 06:44

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Tips for (trying to) sleep next to a snorer
BlodwynBludd · 14/08/2019 06:45

The only thing that helped was my dh losing loads of weight but he's put it all back on now and tbe snoring is killing me. Pregnant and have to listen to the baby monitor so watching for tips!

BettysWoo · 14/08/2019 06:54

Remember he can't help it. We both snore, and OH complains bitterly when it's me, but merrily makes the weirdest noises all night long and just shrugs it off. I try to let him go to sleep first, so he's not disturbed by me. I just decide to sleep through it,

I do have a snoring aid that sticks on my tongue, but only wear it when he absolutely insists because it's quite uncomfortable. It does help though, until it drops out

https://smile.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07B4WR49W/ref=cmswwrcppawdbt11_3g6uDbCSKQPX5

good luck!

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Yogagirl123 · 14/08/2019 06:59

My husband used to be a terrible snorer, so you have my understanding OP. He lost a lot of weight, and the snoring stopped. It cured the problem. I hope you have a better nights sleep soon.

Theimpossiblegirl · 14/08/2019 07:04

The thing is they can help it to an extent. They can lose weight, try different remedies, etc. They can at least try, if it's causing the other person to be sleep deprived.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 14/08/2019 08:24

I sympathise. My ex was such a dreadful snorer I had to go sleep in the kitchen, even then his snoring shook the house. He should get it seen to. There’s a reason sleep deprivation is used as torture.

MagicKingdom17 · 14/08/2019 08:27

I agree with the PPs regarding losing weight being a solution.
One thing that has helped me was using AirPods and putting on white noise via RainRain app. I know you’ve said you can’t do that as you need to hear baby, but just thought I’d offer it up.

Mosaic123 · 14/08/2019 08:29

I sleep upside down in the bed so his feet are next to my head. It's a slight help.

Babdoc · 14/08/2019 08:32

Look on Amazon for snoring aids. I can recommend the nasal airways that he can stick in at bedtime, and the strap thing that goes round the head and keeps the jaw up.
He should avoid alcohol in the evening, lose weight, and if he’s suffering daytime sleepiness or sounds like his snoring obstructs his breathing - silent patches between snores, then a deep gasp of breath - see his GP as he may have sleep apnoea. Anyone with a collar size above 17.5 is at risk, and so are some thinner people.

LizziesTwin · 14/08/2019 08:38

I find the vibrations a problem as well as the noise. DH can snore just before he wakes up so I don’t think it’s alcohol related & although he isn’t thin his BMI is under 24 so he’s not that fat.

Sicario · 14/08/2019 08:41

Having your own bedroom is the holy grail, but if you mention this to a man (yes I'm generalising) the usual reaction is that it is their RIGHT to share a bed with their wife. One of my friend's husbands said "over my dead body" when she no longer wanted to share a bedroom with him due to snoring. "That's the beginning of the end when a man can't even sleep next to his wife." Wanker.

Wallywobbles · 14/08/2019 08:42

Better ear plugs are really the answer. DH and si both snore and without them sleep would be non-existant.

bigKiteFlying · 14/08/2019 08:45

Quellium -My Dad could be heard outside and through floors only thing that works for my Mum was getting to bed and asleep before him. I think she sleeps in another room now we've all left home so he can't wake her up.

I do think his snoring with spluttering -which I'm sure is sleep apnoea - has contributed to his health issues but the GP has never been interested and he has lost weight couple of time quite large amount but he can't keep them off.

There are nose plasters that can help a bit – but DH who has started insists he’s not snoring and I’m the problem he also has a habit of waking me up when he comes to bed which means I then struggle to sleep.

Pillow overhead al my childhood and prodding few arguments and occasionally going off somewhere else to sleep – he talks of losing weight but hasn’t done anything yet.

Bb2019 · 14/08/2019 08:47

Earplugs, white noise generator, regular kicks to make him stop! Sleeping on his side and not drinking beer helps...

ginyogarepeat · 14/08/2019 08:56

Earplugs and white noise. He also spends a lot of time in our spare room!

He is being investigated by ENT though so is being organised proactive about it.

bigKiteFlying · 14/08/2019 09:05

This has just prompted me to look at amazon - there's a whole slection of headband or sleep masks with blue tooth headphones built in.

I think that might help me.

KatharinaRosalie · 14/08/2019 09:08

So he has been to the doctor and they have confirmed there's nothing they can do? There is usually a reason why people snore.

Thornhill58 · 14/08/2019 09:22

My DH have been sleeping in different bedrooms for years. Our marriage is stronger for it as I could have killed him for lack of sleep.

Sahara123 · 14/08/2019 09:29

Specsavers custom ear plugs have completely changed my sleep. Expensive at the time but I’ve had them for at least 10 years.
Husband did get diagnosed with sleep apnoea eventually & now has a cpap machine which sounds like Darth Vader but I don’t hear that either thankfully,

ELM8 · 14/08/2019 09:44

Second the snoreze spray. It usually runs out after about 6 hours but luckily hubby is good natured so I just ask him to respray it if he starts again which he can usually do whilst half asleep!

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DrMadelineMaxwell · 14/08/2019 10:27

He wont go to the gp about snoring as is very adverse to doctors etc.
Wont take medicines or any sprays etc..
(He and I are both pretty sure hes on the spectrum somewhere).

He will be mightily affronted when I start sleeping alart from him and will see it as me using snoring as an excuse to put some distance between us. But I've warned him enough that's what I'm going to do when dd leaves home.

When we are back in work routine after the holidays and I'm knackered after a long day at work I'm going to find it easier as I will be more likely to be able to go to bed before him and drop off before him..

I think that's what the big difference is. I'm going to bed later and am not as worn out.

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justilou1 · 14/08/2019 10:39

Just so that you know, snoring can be caused by many, many things. My husband works in professional sport. He’s 42 and is not overweight, yet his snoring is the stuff of legend. (As is the rest of his family, although weight must be a player with some of them...) They all have giant, fleshy tonsils that vibrate when the jaw is relaxed. The slight underbite (weak chin!) also contributes. (My daughter will need hers surgically fixed at the end of orthodontic treatment.) His sleep study showed an average of 46 episodes of apnoea per hour, which scared the shit out of him (and has given me many years worth of “I told you so” points), because he was in total denial. The long-term health impact of severe sleep apnoea is massive!!! So now he has a very unsexy c-pap machine and I get to call him Darth Vader.

inboxmayhem · 14/08/2019 10:41

I left my ex over his snoring. The selfishness of it was just too much in the end. I had weeks and weeks over zero sleep, nearly had a nervous breakdown over it.

HE needs to get it sorted, not you.

BlueSkiesLies · 14/08/2019 10:45

Remember he can't help it.

Snoorers fucking can help it.

They can loose weight. Go to the GP to see if they have sleep apnoea. Try different sleeping positions. Try different remedies. Be the ones to sort out an alternative sleeping situation (sofa bed? spare room?) so that they do not subject their partners who they profess to love, to sleep deprivation.

BlueSkiesLies · 14/08/2019 10:48

He wont go to the gp about snoring as is very adverse to doctors etc.
Wont take medicines or any sprays etc..
He will be mightily affronted when I start sleeping alart from him and will see it as me using snoring as an excuse to put some distance between us.

Typical selfish snoorer. Why the fuck do people put up with men who are so selfish? Is he in any way attractive to you?