SAHP How much time do you get to your self?

[MummyOfTwo92]

Just as the title says. How much time do you get alone to yourself and how often?

None... Unless i lock the door to go to the loo. Even then that's not guaranteed...

An hour or so during nap time but I know this won't last forever! I can't even go to the loo right now without being followed and practically dragged off it.

None. I get more time to myself as a single parent than I ever did when I was married.

@Toothproblems me too. I just wondered if anyone else was the same. I have two DC 3 and 1. Nobody is interested in them now they are older or should I say nobody is interested in DC1 now she's older and nobody ever has been interested in DC2. I ask for help to have an hour or two with my self and get silly excuses. I don't ask often either.

None here either. Although as of September when DD2 starts school I might get an hour a day while the baby is napping.
My mum has the older two on a Saturday afternoon for baking/crafts etc but she wouldn’t be able to cope with all three.

Although sometimes DH takes them all out for an hour or so on a Sunday, so I have a bit of time to do the ironing!

I don’t get a set amount of time but my husband will often take them out to a group or the park on a Saturday morning. If I’ve had a particularly trying week I will make time to go out by myself at the weekend, just shopping or for a long walk but most of the time we just spend the weekends together so I don’t have much time on my own.

None of you get evening time or have husbands capable of minding their own kids?

Nope. My DH works 7 days a week. Family business

1 - 2 hrs in the day while DS is napping, and then about 2.5 hrs before going to sleep.

Yep i have 4 DC under 6 and no family around. Apart from my nan but she's getting on. NC with mum

I don’t have any family living close and DH works abroad a few times a year for up to 6 weeks at a time. Outside of nap time and bed time I wouldn’t expect any time to myself tbh.

I get 9-12 every morning when dd is at nursery.
1 night a week, when she stays overnight at inlaws.
Saturday morning DH takes dd swimming.
Can usually arrange a night out, as long as DH will be home in time.

DS is 1 and goes to nursery 4 mornings a week. I spend some of the time doing chores but get 10-15h to do my own things. At weekends, DH is around so I get some time to myself too.

@Grobagsforever yes DP could look after them but both as exhausted as each other. He works 5 days a week. DC are currently not sleeping through the night. Up 3 to god knows how many times with youngest and eldest has the odd night she wakes.

After reading all the comments on this thread, I'm actually lucky with the amount of free time I have. I've not really thought about it before.

You are pretty lucky ParkheadParadise! We don’t have anyone who can have ours overnight, and it’ll be a couple of years before the baby goes to nursery. I do have my evenings free from 7.30pm ish but baby is breastfed so I’m ‘on call’, so to speak.
We chose to have three children knowing that was the case though, so can’t complain too much! It’ll get less full on as they get older.

During the day, when she's napping.. my MIL may pop round once or twice a week and I can then get stuff done. Other half is out 7 till 7, so can get a bit then, but she always prefers being with me atm which will hopefully change as she gets a bit older.

@SoyDora I'm not complaining. I chose to have them and they were both planned. It would just be nice to have some me time now and again or some time as a couple.

Don’t your DHs want to spend time with their children if they’re working all week? I work full time and DH is SAHD, I do all childcare all weekend - I miss him so much all week!

Means I have zero free time though ironically!

RiddleyW we tend to spend the time all together at weekends as DH and I rarely see each other during the week either. He would and does spend time with them on his own but it’s a bit harder with the BF baby. Again, something that won’t last forever!

An hour in the morning before dc wake up and then 7pm onwards when it's bedtime again. Motherhood is forcing yourself to stay awake just to have alone time even when you're knackered

DS tends to wake twice a night and DH does the 'night shift' at weekends so that I can get some sleep. I think that's only fair to do unless the other half works 7 full days a week.

Mum of a 1year old here.

About an hour a day of rest time - but never feels 100% mine as ds could wake at any time!

Twice a month I have proper time to myself- a lazy morning or an afternoon out with no baby just me. My fiancé has the baby for these times and we schedule them into the diary as I really need the time!

Not enough.... I have 3 aged 9, 7 and 3. I go out for a run 3 times a week so have that time to myself, and the odd hour or two at the weekend if DH takes them all out or if I go into town on my own.