SAHP How much time do you get to your self?

[MummyOfTwo92]

Just as the title says. How much time do you get alone to yourself and how often?

@RiddleyW DP likes to spend time all together. Often comes home from work stressed so he likes time to relax when possible.

I have 5 dc two have left school and work. I have two in school and a pre schooler. Mil has the preschooler every Thursday term time. In the holidays she has the 2 youngest twice a week. The teens are never home. Every other weekend fil has the younger two for a Saturday or Sunday 10am-6pm.
My mum lives round the corner so I can just drop them there when I want. I realise I'm very lucky though. If dp and I want to go out together my eldest is 17 and babysits.

Loads with my first - nursery from age 2 (a couple of mornings built up to 2 9-3 days and a morning) which gave me lots off child-free time to see friends, sometimes work, sleep etc! Ive since had a other baby so back to pretty much zero free time but feel more relaxed knowing it will return and just how fleeting time is when they are little. I miss that special one on onetime with my first now

All these DH's who need to relax because they work. I work full time, as a widowed lone parent and still manage to raise too small DC. If you have a partner physically present at weekends you should get a couple of hours off. DH always took DD1 to do the Saturday morning shop for this reason. Full time work really isn't that hard.

I get 1 hour when boys are napping. 2 hours me time on a Sunday when dh has them both and some time for the gym during week nights. DH will often take one of them out in the evening though after work and will often take them out on a Saturday.

Often comes home from work stressed so he likes time to relax when possible.

OP, it just sounds like you completely put your partner’s needs above your own.

@JoJoSM2 no, we both rarely get time.

He gets home about 6pm, he helps bath and put to bed. We are then both up and down from youngest Dc going to bed all night. Weekends are spent all together. He knows how tiring it has been at the moment for me throughout the day (youngest is teething and cries all day practically which has gone on for about 2 months) and so does the only person that can help us out by watching them for a few hours. Yet we just get silly excuses and questions like "are you depressed" no I'm tired.

I'm sure as they get older it will get easier.