Should I report my neighbour to SS?

[MouldyOrange]

I have a neighbour across the back who has had two almighty family fights in as many days. I can hear a teen boy screaming 'I can't believe you did that' over & over & a mother screaming something in response. They sound totally out of control. Yesterday, I heard what sounded like the dad stamping on an ipad (heard the sound of crunching glass underfoot). The boy went mental at this. I'm not acquainted with them at all. The sheer volume & nastiness of the parents shrieking leads me to think it's a very unhealthy household. Should I report or keep my beak out?

I wouldn't as the child does not sound in danger , I would just assume they have "issues". It doesnt sound healthy or nice but I don't think I would call SS. Although maybe a good sharp shock would be helpful for the parents....

Do you know it was an ipad?

My son tells me he cant believe I did that when I farted and scared the cats (I have IBS in my defence )

How does stamping on an ipad sound as opposed to any other glass thing? I've never heard it.

Yes, or next time call police while they are rowing to check on the child.

Emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse.

Trust your gut, they might get low level early intervention support and be given parenting classes. It sounds like they need them. They'll also then be on the radar which doesn't sound a bad thing in this case.

Safeguarding is everybody's legal duty. It sounds a pretty shit place to be for the DC.

I don't know it was an ipad for sure but the dad was definitely stamping on something & the breaking sounded glass-like & at that point the boy went berserk screaming 'Why did you do that?' over & over. He was hysterical & tonight was no different. I'm quite happy to leave it though if consensus says keep my beak out.

If there's any chance you know what school he goes to you could report to their Safeguarding lead?

If the child’s belongings are Being smashed, they are being shouted at etc then it’s emotional abuse. Yes I would report to SS but wouldn’t expect much to happen however it could form a part of a much bigger picture.

If it’s enough to make you post then I think it’s enough to report. Always better to report than wish you had if something further happens. I also wouldn’t go via the school, it’s too long to wait. There maybe a bigger picture and this might be the last piece of it.

It's school holidays....teenage boys could test the patience of a saint. I raised my voice at my ds today because he was unbearably vile to me and his sister and told us both to shut up. God knows what my neighbours think

Report it to ‘The Mash’. Multi agency safeguarding hub. I think every council has one. Google the number for your local council. If they don’t think it needs to go any further, they will just add it to their records. Like someone else said, it could be another piece of the jigsaw.

@slipperywhensparticus I know this is a serious thread but you did make me laugh. Farted and scared the cat 😂😂😂

What formerbabe said. You don’t know the child, the circumstances you could create bigger problems for a family already under great stress.

It's school holidays....teenage boys could test the patience of a saint. I raised my voice at my ds today because he was unbearably vile to me and his sister and told us both to shut up. God knows what my neighbours think

Same

I’m generally very calm but be jeezus the laziness and entitlement of teenagers can push most of us over the edge

IF I could get to the x box, I’d smash it to pieces. With pleasure.

you could log it with SS. That alone is unlikely to trigger a visit unless other things have been reported. I've screamed at my kids at various points. Not my finest moment but 2 of mine are very 'high spirited'.

I would call social services and let them know that you are concerned. If they think there is no further action required then no harm done but sometimes it might be the small part of a puzzle that pulls everything else together.

They may not be able to do anything with no names but if they are known already they will be able to match it to the family.

Agree teens can test the patient of a saint, but if it’s constant screaming and sounding abusive then report.

I’d report. If the kids stuff is being destroyed that’s horrible.

I wouldn't call the ss.

Ring the police next time and also report to SS.

I would

I think I would try and do something yes. The multi agency service perhaps? If Child’s things being deliberately stamped on that is abusive

So they’re not new neighbours. And these sound like isolated incidents, since you’re both alarmed by them and don’t say they do it all the time.

Keep out of it, unless the rows continue.

And I disagree an iPad is a child’s belonging .