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Today has been awful

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 15:40

Took toddler to outdoor party. He ran away several times, kicked, bit, exposed my bra to everyone ans covered me in mud. I took him home in temper. No more tripa out what a waste of time

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managedmis · 06/08/2019 20:19

Hahah that's nothing.

I just had two weeks off work and am glad to get back to work.

Hand, foot and mouth? Check.
Hotel a total shit hole? Check.
Flight home cancelled? Check

I could go on, but won't bore you with the rest

managedmis · 06/08/2019 20:20

Exactly how old is said toddler? Mine's 2 and a half. Tamtrums a go go

Winter2019 · 06/08/2019 20:21

My dd (3) threw such tantrum in a park, everyone was staring! She's not like that everyday but it was horrible. Dragged her out of there after couple of warnings. Used swear words which I feel horrible about but honestly couldn't handle it. Also pregnant with second one 🙄
Some days are just worse than others, not everyday will be terrible!

Winter2019 · 06/08/2019 20:28

Just also want to say - how nice to read all the supportive comments and reassurance on here :) (it's not even my thread 🤭) sometimes it really feels like you're the only one whose dc are little sh... And you're a bad mum.

isitfridayyet1 · 06/08/2019 20:30

Oh dear toddlers can be stressful at times, it can be even worse when you plan what you thought would be an enjoyable day out and it all goes down hill.
I've been there! Thought it would be a lovely idea to take my toddler to the park. He proceeded to try and eat dirt most of the time we were there. Told him 3 times or more not to eat it and he would not listen
Had to leave sharpish. With him whaling the place down, as I also had my 5 month old too! Sometimes tv is a welcome break for us all!

PurpleCrazyHorse · 06/08/2019 20:43

Being on your own with them is crap too. My DH is away with work for 4 days and I've headed back to my hometown to stay with mum with the kids. It's much easier just having adult company even though mum doesn't discipline the kids or anything, I can leave the oldest with her while I deal with the 4yo and just have an adult chat.

Today while at a garden centre, 4yo DS had a meltdown when we said we weren't buying him bottled water. He proceeded to bite me hard and when I timed him out in the corner, he pinched and kicked me. All with an audience of older ladies

We do 1-2-3 Magic and DS now knows I will follow through with the consequence on 3. It also helps me stay calmer having a plan to follow with him, you just have to think very carefully about your consequence though.

Try to start tomorrow as a new day if you can.

pinkcardi · 06/08/2019 20:55

Toddlers are hideous.

They're even worse when you are on your own and they sense weakness.

Hideous, awful, feral, mini-psychopaths (almost) They drive you right to the edge and over it. No amount of calm, reasoned, light-hearted, positive parenting is going to make a difference, it's simply hideous. It's them, not you.

If you need more childcare can you find another nursery?

We have chosen a fairly new one, which is undersubscribed, and in an awkward location, BUT is hugely flexible and can do extra days no problem. It's been a lifesaver.

Quartz2208 · 06/08/2019 20:58

How old is he OP

It sounds like your partners work patterns are the issue - 5 days without a break would break anyone

Toddlers are hard work OP but they are little what are your expectations - as getting angry wont help

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 21:09

Hes 22 months nearly
Its my ex partner.

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PoohBearsHole · 06/08/2019 21:16

Op you have my sympathy. I have stroppy pre teen (at times 😁) it’s frustrating and tiring and makes you feel shit.

On the plus side - I’m going to shout it loud and proud :

THE SKY WILL NOT FALL IF YOU STOCK YOUR TODDLER INFRONT OF CBEEBIES

I bet you £100 that the perfect parents do it. Everyone needs down time.

Sometimes life is overwhelming for a toddler - have you ever taken a duvet day? Try a day of tea and toast/milk and toast and pj wearing whilst binging on tv and treats. It won’t kill you and won’t damage your toddler. I promise.

BTW the 5 days of no daddy who is around usually and has possibly upset your equilibrium. Take care of yourself x

Failing that semi naked toddler, garden and lots of water fun. Remember toddlers are a bit like goldfish, he won’t remember today tomorrow so wake up to a new day x

PoohBearsHole · 06/08/2019 21:18

Just seen your update - doing it alone is hard so don’t be hard on yourself

Quartz2208 · 06/08/2019 21:19

Oh OP he is so tiny at 22 months and struggling to regulate his emotions and Im not surprised he wont listen

There is an awful side of parenting that most dont talk about and it can involve at that age a physical element particularly as he has not seen his Dad

GIve yourself both a break and I agree with the bath

It does sound like though some of the issues are childcare and your ex partner

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 21:24

Thank god im too old for another kid

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lonelyheartsclubband · 06/08/2019 21:28

Could have written this today.

Took my son to a party, he turned 3 the other day. He's been so good recently. But today he kicked off, tantrums, hitting me in the face in front of everyone. Had to take him out the building until he apologised.

Then when we got home, he did nothing but scream over nothing for two hours. Slammed doors, threw my iPad against the door and I lost it.

Now I don't want to send him to nursery tomorrow because I'm riddled with guilt from screaming at him when I'd had enough and I can't stop crying because I think he hates me.

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 21:30

im not cut out for this

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HumphreyCobblers · 06/08/2019 21:39

It will get better, I promise.

lonelyheartsclubband · 06/08/2019 21:47

Despite what I posted, it does get better.

My son was hideous daily as soon as he turned 1. It's only been the last six months that he's calmed down a lot. I got him into nursery and it really helped. He learned to communicate even quicker and his tantrums stopped instantly. It gave me a break and it made me appreciate him even more when I did have him. I was doing it on my own too.

There is a light at the end of that awful tunnel.

BetweenTheMoon · 06/08/2019 21:54

5 days OP. You are a legend. I feel like that after one day! If my toddler wasn't in nursery 3 days a week I would loose my mind.

Be kind to yourself. Try and book in something just for you.

Toddlers push all our buttons!

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 21:57

Now im in work for 3 days

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 22:06

to everyone who finds it hard

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seeyoubugaboo · 06/08/2019 22:18

Go take a look at him while he's sleeping OP. I do it when mine have been shitbags and you instantly feel the love again x

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 22:21

He looks just like me

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IAmNotAWitch · 06/08/2019 22:26

Toddlers suck. That is why they are cute, is a protective measure.

If it helps the little bastard who used to drive me utterly crazy has just brought me a coffee in bed as I have a day off.

And yes, I used to go to work to get the hell away from them.

Candymay · 06/08/2019 23:00

Don’t be hard on yourself. Be kind. You’ve had a horrible day. Can you make this evening nice for yourself? I’m sorry you’re struggling. I hope tomorrow will be better.

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 23:01

im crying over the mess ive made of my life. Crying wont help

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