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Today has been awful

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 15:40

Took toddler to outdoor party. He ran away several times, kicked, bit, exposed my bra to everyone ans covered me in mud. I took him home in temper. No more tripa out what a waste of time

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AngelasAshes · 06/08/2019 16:11

Oh I remember those days all too well. Patience is key. They do grow out of it.

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 16:19

i actually can't wait to go into work most days

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HaileySherman · 06/08/2019 16:20

Go easy on yourself. Toddlers are adorable but can be little monsters tbh. Feeling this way once on a while is totally normal. If it becomes a lot, make sure you're not getting into a depression. Keep your mental health a priority. Mum's MH being well is pretty critical to kids' MH being well.

Coop14 · 06/08/2019 16:39

I recently went back to work full time after having my 2nd (took 10 months maternity) I hated being with them all day everyday talking to the wall, constant crying, enduring soft play/baby groups. It's so much better now. I enjoy getting home, making them their tea and having a little play and splash in the bath before bed. Then we hang out all weekend 😊 I chill out in the evening if they actually go to bed 😂

mumwon · 06/08/2019 16:43

childminding course: tutor" what do you do if dc stresses you out" me "have a cup of tea?" tutor : "No, I mean really stresses you out -be serious!" " I have another cup of tea!"
Its a bad day when you have microwaved your cup 3 times!
I actually loved childminding & dc but there were days (especially in holidays when it rained)

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 18:34

im actually a crap mum

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TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront · 06/08/2019 18:38

You're really not a crap mum. Please don't ever think like that. Toddlers are little shits. There is no nicer way to put it. If I could have fast forwarded that period, I really would have. It fucking sucks. But I promise it gets easier.

A few times of doing what you did and the little horror will soon get the jist I promise. It's good he enjoys it in a way, cause he's having the time of his life, only to be hoiked outta there and shoved in the boring car. The more fun he's having (and being removed from) the quicker he'll learn. Don't avoid parties and things in future, just try and be optimistic because one day will be the day that he surprises you and doesn't act like a complete bum hole Grin

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 18:42

All he does is whinge and whine its wearing. i cant wait until he goes to bed

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Popsicales · 06/08/2019 18:53

OP, he sounds exactly like my son who is 2.4. Only tips I’ve got is to wear sunglasses to hide your tears Blush and keep up what you’re doing.

I also look forward to going to work. However it’s
the summer holidays so no work for me but I can’t take DC anywhere without a fight and embarrassment.

Have you got anyone to have him for a day to give you a break? I’ve had a day off today thanks to my DM and I feel ready to face the rest of the week until DP is off at the weekend.

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 19:03

ive been on my own with him for about 5 days due to his dads working patterns

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Ginger1982 · 06/08/2019 19:10

I feel similarly about my toddler. He bit me the other day and just laughed when I told him off. I can relate to feeling like a crap mum but you're not. They're just testing boundaries all the time and I'm reliably informed that it does get better eventually! Wine

Atlasta · 06/08/2019 19:14

It's really tough. My DC are 8&9 and I've had one of those days too. In our case it's been a fighting, bitching, sulking, obnoxious and rude day. DC totally ungrateful for the planned (expensive) day with friends that they had previously been looking forward to.
I can remember the biting, running away, bra-exposing horror days well. I was also well versed in taking off early from parties and carrying screaming toddlers home ( often to looks of horror from the perfect parent clan)
You will get through them...you'll have plenty of practiceBrew Cake

endofthelinefinally · 06/08/2019 19:18

Toddlers are happy with very simple things.
Sometimes a party with noise and people is too much.
CBeebies is fine.
It isn't your fault.
Tomorrow is another day.
Flowers

WanderingTrolley1 · 06/08/2019 19:21

How’s it going this evening, OP - what time is his bedtime?

Daffodil2018 · 06/08/2019 19:22

You're not a crap mum, you just need a break. Hope you've got one coming soon ThanksGinCake

42isthemeaning · 06/08/2019 19:22

You have my sympathy OP, we've all been there! You're not a crap mum, you doing your best, the same as the rest of us. I totally get the 'I would rather be at work' sentiment and even though my dc are teens, in the holidays I still have that thought from time to time!
Many times I've left gatherings, parties, soft plays and other people's houses when my dc were toddlers. I promise you, it WILL get better. Just stick to your guns, ask for support from your partner and keep talking on here. We will listen Thanks

Montsti · 06/08/2019 19:25

Unfortunately toddlers are often a nightmare but it will pass and life will get easier/better. How old is he? I found things got easier (far from easy though!) once they understand things better, with ds at around 3 years and with my dds around 2.5...Hang on in there! I detest the toddler phase but it will pass...does he go to Playschool? Maybe that will help...

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 06/08/2019 19:38

My DS is 3. Hes an arse handful everyday. He shouts yells throws screams hits. His favourite word is NO. but after a day of arseness handfulness, hes now asleep on me as cute as anything.

Rainbowknickers · 06/08/2019 19:41

Your feeling shit cos your a top mum trying her best with a small person who is being a little shitebag
We’ve all been there-I promise it does pass
Toddlers are the pits-I’ve had 6 and hated the ages 2-3
In fact if I had a penny for every single time I wanted to shove them back in the condom vending machine for a refund-id be very rich!
They love to push your buttons to get your reaction
It’s fun winding mummy up-one of mine never grew out of the ‘push for a reaction’ (hes now 19 but does it in a different way)
My dad once told me that dealing with a small person is like dealing with a pissed up adult-just in a smaller body-and he’s right
Tomorrow Is another day-I used to live for bedtime
Please go easy on yourself-and I promise that one day you’ll look back and laugh-it’s just today is not that day
Sending hugs xxx

Esto · 06/08/2019 19:41

I had a shitty day too. 3 year old whined ALL day. 1 year old whined ALL day. Like a PP my ears were ringing. Eventually I lost it and screamed at them both and now my throat hurts and I feel terrible. I wanted to go out for some exercise tonight but I feel so shitty I'm just in my PJs already.

You did the right thing to leave the party OP. You are a good mum. Your DC will get the message eventually and will come out the other side of this phase and will make you laugh so much you'll cry and he will tell you how much he loves you. Your toddler will go up and down over the years but you need to stand firm and stay consistent as that what he needs.

Also maybe have a glass of wine tonight in front of the telly...

baubled · 06/08/2019 19:55

I've had many of these days with my 2 year old too, I definitely sympathise. It's infuriating isn't it and once you've reached your patience level it's hard to rewind it back.

Actually, he wasn't happy with not having my full attention whilst I was making tea tonight so he threw his large, hard car box at me and now my ankle is all bruised, he then told me off for telling him off!!

Just to note, mine doesn't react to telling 3 times and leaving and it doesn't matter how many times I put him on the step he just runs around screaming. I thought I was doing something wrong but I've just come to the conclusion that toddlers are hard work, especially the non placid ones where a calm day is a rarity.

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 20:12

Hes gone to bed after fighting me for 2 hours.

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Bumbags · 06/08/2019 20:14

Have a glass of wine
Pasta with pesto
Watch a film

And pass him over to his dad as soon as you can!

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Fuckingawful · 06/08/2019 20:17

im struggling with childcare and his nursery have no space. will a nursery do an adhoc one day?

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ajbellamy · 06/08/2019 20:17

Tomorrow is a new day! We all have bad days (and we've been there too!) luckily my children are 6, 4 and 2 but to be honest they all have had their moments when they was younger. Breathe. Relax. Have some you time and remember... Brand new day tomorrow x