How many children did you decide to have?

[Aprilmum1]

How many children did you decide to have, and why?
Honestly curious how/why different people decide on number of kids to have (with the full understanding that unplanned kids happen, too!).

One. She was perfect, brought her up alone. Thought it would always stay that way, then I fell in love again.... and desperately wanted one more. It was twins! I'm not great at plans 😁

I always wanted two, for years... now, I kind of want three. That said, I don't know if we can afford three. Or if it'd be sensible/practical to have three. Or if I'd be too old to have three by the time comes!

Currently pregnant with #1 so I guess I'll let you know in a few years 😂

I think I always wanted two because I was one of two. It just seemed "normal"

1. We have 2. I think I always thought 2 would probably be enough but DH considered more. Now DC2 is 4, and I am pretty sure we won't have more, because we can't afford another, we don't have room in the house or the car, DC2 never slept through the night until she was 4 and I might never recover from the sleep deprivation (didn't sleep for more than 2hrs at a time until she was over a year), am sort of looking forward to peace and quiet and not paying for nursery anymore when she starts school in a few weeks.

Too many🤣

None. Have none. Not for me!

Enjoying this thread. I have one and am casually trying for a second but not really fussed either way if it happens or not (I am a happy only child), but husband thinks a sibling is very important. Not looking forward to another pregnancy at all.

One.

Before I had DS I wanted 3 children. Changed my mind after he was born.

Reasons are - I think some people take to motherhood naturally and I'm not one of them. I love DS of course and we do plenty together but I don't enjoy doing things that children do!

Cost. Going back to work was so difficult until he started school and I am not a high earner. If I had more children it would affect our quality of life and we would struggle.

DS is 6 and I am 28 so it would be easy for me to have more if I wanted but I don't.

Two, I didn't want loads, but I'm an only child a didn't want just one, it's worked out just fine!

Two and that was it! Dh got the snip as we
do not want any more.

Never ever considered what I would like growing up but fell pregnant unexpectedly with DD and it transformed me and my life for the better. Went on to have DS and now expecting another in September. Don't feel this will be my last baby, reckon I will have about 4 or 5 children.

Two.

If I could afford it I'd have five.

I originally didn't want any, then I changed my mind at about 30 and decided I just wanted the 1. It took us few years but we are really happy with our 1. I absolutely love being a mum, can't believe I may have chosen to miss out on it. Definitely the best role ever.

Have one ATM. A dd who is 3.
Currently trying for DC 2. All going well we will stop at 2

i thought i'd like three but now i am
pregnant with #2 i just know i am DONE i want my life back, eventually. i love my son but i love him most when he's sleeping and i am free.

None
I have 4 DC's
I was told by a doctor that I should be prepared for the fact I might never concieve (I had various Problems) I saw no point being on the pill a d concieved DS1 very quickly, took the mini after Ds1, and managed to conceive DS2!
Made a decision I would love a daughter so went for it, yes would you believe it twin sons!!
I love them all dearly, and could never have been without them.

3
I'd love a 4th but my body is shot.

Two.

No chance of 'unplanned' kids for us - we planned to have them, and then planned not to have them.

I wanted three & had three.

Two. Our first was so easy, it seemed a SNAP and DH had ideas of a huge family. Then I was flattened by PND with our second...

We have 2. Don’t have enough time, money or energy for a third. Plus I was very sick with dc2 and had terrible carpal tunnel syndrome too. I can’t bare the thought of going through that again.

DH didn't want us to be outnumbered and so said no more.
I felt very content and complete when number 2 was born.
I'm looking forward to my 40s being nappy free.

One. Loved being pregnant. Would have liked another, but partner who was 27 when I was 40 at the time didn't want another. We split up when she was 18 months old. I was 41 at the time. Thought it would be really easy to meet someone else and maybe have another child or even get married. Instead I became embroiled in the cesspit that is online dating and have now given up all hope at age 48.
To be fair, my DD is awesome and I wouldn't have it any other way now.
Circumstances and Luck largely dictate.

One, all I ever wanted.

Wanted two, was lucky enough to have two.

I now have a 17 year old and a 20 year old and really glad I didn't have any more. Done everything twice which is plenty.

1. In my youthful daydreams, 4 was the plan....a busy sibling filled household full of bickering and laughter after a lonely childhood as an only. But whilst 2 was easy, our third is very high maintenance and it would have been extremely unfair to all three to divide our time and attention further with a 4th. We did get a puppy when no 3 was starting reception and it’s our perfect ...3 kids and a crazy lab.