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Only one to think my wedding day wasn’t the best day ever?

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 09:34

Am I the only one to think that my wedding day wasn’t the best day ever?

Don’t get me wrong, it was a lovely day and I was over the moon to be finally marrying the man I had been with for 8 years.

All I see (admittedly, mainly on social media) is people describing it as the best day ever and saying they loved every single second of it.

I have no issue with what others post, but sometimes feel weird for not feeling like this.

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coffeeaddiction · 30/07/2019 09:35

My wedding day was the most stressful day ever and didn't enjoy it at all!
I think it's pretty normal for brides to feel like that to be honest or atleast all the brides I know have had similar feelings

Blobby10 · 30/07/2019 09:35

Another one here - and mine was over 25 years ago!!

StopMakingATitOfUrselfNPissOff · 30/07/2019 09:37

I must be weird too then! I loved getting married, definitely the best thing I'd done but I don't really go gooey eyed over it if that makes sense?

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 09:38

Phew- I feel better already! I was so tired as I barely slept the night before and like you coffee was stressed. Mainly worrying about everyone else.

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user1493413286 · 30/07/2019 09:40

Our ceremony was one of the most special times of my life (DC being born is the only thing more special) but as a whole day I could think of other days I’ve enjoyed more which were less stressful, more relaxing and possibly more fun.

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 09:41

Yes stop I know what you mean. I’m glad I experienced the day but I can’t gush about it.

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user1493413286 · 30/07/2019 09:41

I would actually say the day we got engaged was better than our wedding day as it was just us celebrating together as we wanted to.

namechangerreloaded · 30/07/2019 09:44

Agree, not the best day here. It was certainly the best party I've ever thrown, but best day of my life? Absolutely not.

Constance1234 · 30/07/2019 09:49

Mine was really fun and we all had a great day, but other days in my life have been better for one reason or another.

MustardScreams · 30/07/2019 09:51

I think so much emphasis is placed on the day itself, and not a lot of thought given to the actual marriage. And usually all the stress falls on the woman to make sure everyone is having a wonderful time.

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 09:51

user agreed. Meeting my dd, I’d never felt happiness like it.
Again, I agree, our engagement was lovely. Dh isn’t very romantic but went to some lengths to propose and was very special.

loaded I would say the party was my favourite part, i finally relaxed.

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Disfordarkchocolate · 30/07/2019 09:54

I always think it's odd. My wedding was lovely but many days have been better, both before and after.

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap · 30/07/2019 09:58

Yes I agree OP. We had a lovely low key small wedding which I did enjoy, but there have been other days more amazing and fun without the bridal nerves!

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 09:58

constance my guests had a wonderful time. Particularly my mum. Which makes me happy.

mustard I think that’s a lot of my problem. I had such high expectations that they could never have been met therefore leaving me feeling like this. we had smallish wedding with minimal fuss. Can’t imagine the disappointment if we’d have had a bigger day.
Ultimately for me though, it was about the marriage. I was desperate to be married and that’s what we achieved.

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PepsiLola · 30/07/2019 10:01

100% agree. I loved my wedding but it wasn't the best day of my life.

Although we got married alone which made it exciting, but I was suffering with jet lag and by 9pm I was snoring

tisonlymeagain · 30/07/2019 10:03

I loved every minute of mine, was a fantastic day - and I say that as someone who is now divorced!

ginghamtablecloths · 30/07/2019 10:05

You're not alone. Many of us feel disappointed whether we spent £100 or many thousands. It's built up with so much expectation that the event itself can't possibly live up to it.

Far better to focus on the marriage itself rather than the big day.

Alpacathebag · 30/07/2019 10:07

Definitely not the best day of my life. I mean it’s probably top ten to be fair, but I enjoyed the day after much more, when DH and I got to our hotel and had some time alone to open cards and eat amazing food and drink champagne.

I did enjoy my wedding, it was a lovely day and I liked having all our friends and family together but I did find it a bit stressful.

KnittingSister · 30/07/2019 10:09

I think there's so much hype these days, so much planning for so long and so much money spent, that the expectations are so high they can never be met. I think much better to have a lower key ceremony and party, then its more relaxed and easier to have a good time.

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 10:10

chocolate yes! The same.

greig I was a nervous wreck. My friend commented how she could see my hand physically shaking as I walked up the isle.

pepsi did you love your day because of how you got married? I say mine was lovely, but I didn’t love it. If that makes sense.

meagain what made you love every minute? Was it pure happiness? Simply loved having your friends and family around you? My nerves overtook every other feeling I had.

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CoolcoolcoolcoolcoolNoDoubt · 30/07/2019 10:11

I would imagine most people are telling porkies haha. It's a lot of pressure to put on one day.

mynameiscalypso · 30/07/2019 10:12

Much like everyone else, we had a lot of fun at the party but it certainly wasn't the best day of my life. I spent most of the morning bored out of my mind watching bridesmaids/my mother etc get their hair and make up done.

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 10:17

Gingham I do generally try and focus on the marriage but then I’ll see an Instagram post of someone else talking about their wedding and it prompts me to ask questions like my op. I’m glad to say I’m very happily married.

alpaca my honeymoon was my favourite part of it all. Just me and Dh enjoying an amazing part of the world. Feeling very happy.

knitting at the time I thought I was doing it low key but with hindsight I’d have gone lower.

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cookieoclock · 30/07/2019 10:20

cool haha my dh says if you’ve spent £20k on one day you can’t really say anything apart from how amazing it was.

calypso the party was definitely my fave bit of the day.

Moral of the story, I should probably just keep away from social media.

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Cliveybaby · 30/07/2019 10:21

I think people probably feel they have to say that!
Mine was lovely, but not the most amazing day ever. It went pretty well, but it was quite stressful and I spent a lot of time worrying about whether people were having fun.
The best moment was signing the register - it was me, DH, and our mums, and we all cried while my choir (friends that I normally sing with) sang beautifully.

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