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DC has received six of the same gifts...

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Milkbath · 28/07/2019 12:37

Oh dear. DC has just had a birthday, and has received six duplicate presents Blush it's exactly the same thing, related to one of their interests, and I see that it's currently on sale at Argos.

While it's lovely that people are so kind and so aware of what DC likes, we really don't need six. What can we do with them? I couldn't possibly ask for the receipts, I'd die of rudeness

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Isthisafreename · 28/07/2019 14:34

All those people suggesting you ask for the receipt - do people really keep receipts for gifts they buy for a child's birthday party? I think it would be rude to ask.

Just take them back to argos. They will exchange at the discounted price.

ReeReeR · 28/07/2019 14:34

The parents buy set A and the child would love to have sets B, C and D

Yes but I’m that case you’d be better off coordinating with other parents that you each buy a different set as the parent wouldn’t know what their child might receive at the party

cuppycakey · 28/07/2019 14:36

I would regift or donate to local refuge/charity shop.

No way on earth would I ask anyone for the receipt.....

Invisimamma · 28/07/2019 14:39

If they were bought at Argos they will have the item code on a sticker on the box and they should exchange for something else, or give a voucher without the a receipt.

WishingILivedOnAnIsland · 28/07/2019 14:41

Do not ask for the receipts. If I've sourced, bought, wrapped and given a gift to your child - I'm done. I've ticked your son's birthday off my to do list and I won't appreciate being asked to forage for a receipt or exchange the present for something he'd prefer. It's rude.

If this happened to me I would donate the presents. I wouldn't compensate the child because:

a) if he received 6 identical presents, I'm guessing he received a huge amount of presents overall. How many children came to the party?

b) I'd use it as a teachable occurrence. Sometimes we receive more than we need/can use for whatever reason and that's fine. That's life. Be grateful for the thought and for the fact you had presents at all. That's what will happen when he's an adult - there is no compensation scheme for receiving duplicate gifts, and it's not exactly a hardship.

I would be tempted to re-gift but if you re gift the same thing 5 times in your social circle you're likely to get found out and someone might be offended and think you just didn't like their gift. I'd just donate them, and if bring my child with me to drop them off so they can see that their presents went off to make someone happy.

sweetkitty · 28/07/2019 14:43

Happened to me before Argos are happy to exchange for something else my DC wanted

Nothingcomesforfree · 28/07/2019 14:44

Ask Argos.
Do not return to recipient. It’s a child’s party - parents will have just legged it into Argos and bought a vaguely suitable gift at a bargain price. I would not want be impressed at having to find a second suitable gift.

SushiGo · 28/07/2019 14:44

I definitely wouldn't ask for receipts.

Put them away to regift - given that 6 parents all brought the same gift there most have been a lot of kids at the party. 23 gifts instead 29 is not missing out on anything.

Nanny0gg · 28/07/2019 14:45

a) if he received 6 identical presents, I'm guessing he received a huge amount of presents overall. How many children came to the party?

What's that got to do with the price of fish?

OP - just take them back. I'm sure they'll give you a voucher.

lou8519 · 28/07/2019 14:59

Hi 😊 you can still take them back to Argos just for an exchange with out the receipt 😊 x

bookmum08 · 28/07/2019 15:22

I thought we were all meant to be all environmentaly friendly and cutting down on waste and too much 'stuff'. All this talk of re-gifting. But will the next child actually want or be interested in this product? Charity shops are full of 'unwanted' gifts and they often don't even sell from there. Such a waste.

FixTheBone · 28/07/2019 15:25

What a great opportunity, I used to love getting duplicates of thing when I was a kid, we used to give them away to schools, hospitals or children's homes.

ReeReeR · 28/07/2019 15:29

So what’s the solution @bookmum08 DC doesn’t need six, you’re against regifting or giving to charity. So what does OP do!
?

NoSquirrels · 28/07/2019 15:32

If it’s not close family or really good friends then don’t ask anyone to exchange - someone did ask me once, for a 4 year old, and I was a bit irritated- firstly because when it happens to me I stick them away for regifting and offer to buy child something else next time we see something, and wouldn’t dream of returning to gift-giver, and secondly because it created me more work!

mussolini9 · 28/07/2019 15:32

I couldn't possibly ask for the receipts, I'd die of rudeness

Ha ha ha! You are a darling, OP - loving this phraseology Grin

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Milkbath · 28/07/2019 15:41

Honestly there's no way on earth I'd ask for the receipts, I'd rather chew off my own arm, it won't be happening, every gift giver will be left in the happy delusion that DC adores their unique present. We're on the brink of a climate emergency, if we don't hang on to our etiquette lessons then it's going to be like all the worst bits of The Road only with Wotsits and party rings.

So will Argos DEFINITELY DEFINITELY take them back and give me credit or something and they'll DEFINITELY DEFINITELY not somehow tell the giver of the present? It won't come up on their card statement or something?

DC didn't actually get a lot of presents. They have enough. I asked attendees not to bring anything except themselves. We just don't have the room for a start. The duplicates were all from friends/wildly differing branches of the family who just got things anyway.

I think I'm going to suggest donating one or two to the Christmas toy collection that our local food bank runs, then one is kept, then the rest Argossed as long as NOBODY FINDS OUT EVER

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ReeReeR · 28/07/2019 15:54

I don’t think we can say Argos will definitely take them back but they most likely will exchange (not refund) if you explain they a duplicate gift. The giver won’t find out from Argos as they won’t refund or anything they would only do an exchange or offer you a credit note.

bookmum08 · 28/07/2019 16:04

ReeReeR the solution is be honest about what has happened and ask for the receipts.

ReeReeR · 28/07/2019 16:07

@bookmum08 And do what with the receipt? I don’t really follow you. Sorry. If OP gets the receipt the likelihood is all she can do is exchange for more “stuff”. The giver probably paid by card so OP wouldn’t be able to get a refund. Or is it giving the things to someone who might not want them that you take issue with?

cocomelon23 · 28/07/2019 16:09

What is it? Maybe you could sell them to people on here?

bookmum08 · 28/07/2019 16:13

So next year Milkbath the same thing could happen because you didn't say anything and the year after and so on. Just tell people! Do it in a lighthearted way. They will probably find it amusing.

IvanaPee · 28/07/2019 16:16

Don’t tell!!! That’s so rude.

Just get vouchers and let ds pick some stuff he wants.

LizzieMacQueen · 28/07/2019 16:18

What was the gift ?

1forAll74 · 28/07/2019 16:32

I would take the surplus gifts back to Argos, and maybe if you are close,or friends with the givers of said presents, explain what you have done,and they should not be upset about all this, as they would probably do the same thing in this situation.

ReeReeR · 28/07/2019 16:33

But they will unlikely have the receipts so telling them just causes them hassle