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How soon did you know your partner was the one for you?

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Animum2 · 22/07/2019 15:12

Just interested really

For dh and I, we were friends first and knew a lot about each other, so when we went from friends to partners it was a pretty quick transition with no awkwardness, just that feeling of happiness and we both got the vibe early on that we were not just dating but it was something more important than that, in fact I think we only had 2 dates before we became serious about each other

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Bezalelle · 22/07/2019 15:14

Pretty much the same for me and DP. I'd known of him for a while through friends, but the first time we ever spent a significant amount of time together, I knew there was great potential for us. Two dates in and we were talking seriously about the future.

JoJoSM2 · 22/07/2019 19:25

We met in a nightclub. It took close to a year for me to feel that he was definitely Mr Right.

DragonTrainer3 · 22/07/2019 19:32

More of a slow realisation (over months) that life was much better with him there and I'd miss him terribly if I didn't see him.

He says he fell in love with me when he first met me (in a dodgy pub with a load of other friends).

Stompythedinosaur · 22/07/2019 19:37

I thought he was very early, but I kept having stern words with myself that it was too early and I didn't know him enough.

Turns out I did, and he is the one for me. 12 years on and we are very happy.

Herocomplex · 22/07/2019 19:42

One day, after knowing him for a while as friends, I saw him across the room at a party, and I felt a kind of jolt.
It was like, oh, there you are.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/07/2019 19:44

I thought I’d marry him on date 2, and then it was about six weeks until I thought I really would

He is honestly the kindest, nicest, funniest, most supportive man ever. I’m currently pregnant and he is much more excited about it than I am but texts me all the time to see how I am, has done loads of research and basically made me feel very loved

He’s awesome

TequilaMockingbird0 · 22/07/2019 19:48

I felt something instantly from almost just seeing him across the room, which intensified as soon as we spoke. Within a couple of weeks I remember telling a friend I would marry him. We were only 21 but I couldn't believe you could have such a connection with someone.

We've been together 10 years so far and I can't even describe how much more I love him him. He's absolutely the best human in the world.

LottieLucie · 22/07/2019 19:49

It took almost a month for me to realise that I did not want to go through life without this man by my side.

We worked for the same company but not in the same team. I'd noticed him from afar but never pursued him as I was happily single after the end of a LTR.

We started dating and I just fell for him so much. That was almost 19 years ago.

MeanMrMustardSeed · 22/07/2019 19:51

Pretty much straight away. We met on holiday, went for a drink, which turned into 5 hours of talking and as I walked away I thought, ’I’ll marry him’. Been married nearly 15 years.

Fraggling · 22/07/2019 19:52

Engaged 5 weeks after first date.
Kept secret as knew so would think we were bonkers.
Married with full shebang year after started dating, took that long to sort out!
Married 12 years

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Animum2 · 22/07/2019 19:55

When I started the job in in now he was in the same team them got moved around, he left the company in August last year but new job didn't work out so he's back at the same company again and on the same floor, it's nice having someone to go and from work with and I know it means we see each other all day but we are both in busy teams so only see each other from afar and sometimes at lunch

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Ohyesiam · 22/07/2019 19:56

Really really soon. But I wouldn’t let my mind run away with it.
Every time I drove down to see him I’d check what my expectations were, and hang on tight to them, because being such a romantic I knew that my desires could get a life of their own, which I could mistake for the relationship.
It worked, we are still very happy!

Disfordarkchocolate · 22/07/2019 19:56

Very soon. We'd met at work and someone noticed we both liked each other so they arranged a night out. We ended up kissing at the end of the night and arranged to have lunch the next day. We met at work and as we left the building to go to lunch we both reached out to hold the others hand. It felt the most natural thing in the world.

Paramicha · 22/07/2019 19:57

almost immediately, certainly within the first few days.

DramaAlpaca · 22/07/2019 19:58

Very similar to you, OP. We were friends at first, then once we started dating we both knew very quickly that we'd get married. That was over 30 years ago now. He's still amazing.

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Animum2 · 22/07/2019 19:59

I said to dh within 2 weeks of going out that we would be getting married and o didn't want to wait too long, he proposed after 10 months and we got married a year later, very happy together

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troppibambini · 22/07/2019 20:10

About three months in.
He was sooner.
I met him when I was a single mum to my 2 year old daughter. I had escaped a vile abusive ex when she was 8 months old. I'd managed to buy my own small house and was working full time.
I met him out one night, he wanted to take me out but I said I wasn't interested in a relationship but he took my number and we ended up going out for dinner.
Six weeks later he wanted us to go away together but I couldn't afford it. He said it was on him and took me to an amazing 5*hotel in Barbados.
It's was amazing and I was really falling for him, he told me he loved me but I was worried as we'd only ever done nice things together, he hadn't met my daughter or seen me in "mummy mode"
When we got back he met my dd and they hit it off so well, three months later we bought a house together and moved in. I just knew after seeing how he was with dd he was the one for me.
He has taken her on as his own (no contact with birth dad) we have three more kids and have been together for 12 years.

pumpkinpie01 · 22/07/2019 20:24

Took me over a year , but he said he knew I was the one from when we first met. He used to appear in whatever pub I was in for months and I just kept thinking it was a coincidence. I didn't think he could possibly be interested in a single mum with 3 kids when he was living st home with zero responsibilities. And here we are 15 years on very happily married with a ds together.

DogbertDogglesworth · 22/07/2019 20:29

Within 10 minutes of first clapping eyes on him
A month later we got married.
That was 37 years ago. He still gives me butterflies 😍

mindutopia · 22/07/2019 20:33

After about 6 months together. We really connected and had a great time together from the day we met. But we met working abroad in the same city. Our home countries were an 11 hour flight from each other. It seemed stupid and impractical to even consider a future together beyond the immediate present. But 11 years later, a few international moves and 2 dc later, here we are!

pumpkinpie01 · 22/07/2019 20:33

Wish there was a like button on here !

PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 22/07/2019 20:35

He paid for my McDonalds after our 'one night stand' ...

Pineapplefish · 22/07/2019 20:39

We met at work and took things very slowly as we didn't want it to cause problems at work if it didn't work out. Also we were both on the rebound when we got together. So I'd say it took at least three or four years. I'm sure of it now though

Fishcakey · 22/07/2019 20:44

It sounds pathetic but almost straight away. I wasn't looking for anyone (was single mum) and we met and started chatting on MSN and I don't know, it was weird. I just sort of knew (or maybe I was overly intense and stalkerish )

UnicornCat · 22/07/2019 20:50

I knew he was the one for me within a couple of weeks. Then I just worried that I wasn't the one for him. Thankfully I am❤️

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