What has MN taught you?

[Candyfloff]

I've been thinking about this today.

MN has taught me;

• Thinking on a deeper, critical level.
• That some behaviours I previously thought of as annoying and inconsiderate are downright abusive.
• To defend myself.
• That some people on this planet are just nuts.

And of course;

• Sugar is comparable with crack.
• Fabric Conditioner is the devil.
• 'Posh Chocs' exist
• A bath is similar to being a pig wallowing in filth

So what has MN taught you? Any lessons that you'd like to share?

I found the strength to leave my abusive alcoholic husband. Not by posting but by reading other people's and realising I deserved more and was not alone.
I've always been a people pleaser with very little confidence but slowly I'm managing to change that.
I've always wanted to say thank you for helping me see things differently and for giving me some self belief and now you have given me the perfect opportunity - thank you 😊

All the things in the OPs first post. Also that some people find out the sex of their baby but keep it a secret from other people, no one apart from maybe your very immediate family is that bothered whether you have a boy or a girl

The main thing that brings me back to MN is the fact that so many women are clever, strong, resilient, and witty.

It's made me a bit more cynical, sadly.
I'm a bit naive, I suppose, but had no idea how many trolls were out there.
I think twice now about posting on any thread if it seems a bit odd to me (just read one which flagged up warning signs and prompted this post) because I don't want to get involved with people like that.
Maybe I should say that MN has made me more realistic, less idealistic.
Perhaps that's a good thing for me

That I am highly privileged, thanks to my birth, upbringing and education :-)

That I'm not as intelligent as I thought I was

That I'm a very, very laid back person, almost to the point of being horizontal (people used to tell me I'm uptight and that I worry too much but having read a load of threads on here I realised that actually I'm not that bad)

That it's OK to assert myself and say no if something doesn't work for me

How upset some people get over things that it wouldn’t even crops my mind to worry about.

How upset some people get over things that it wouldn’t even crops my mind to worry about.

Just possible that could work the other way around - you may get very miffed about something some other people don't fuss over.

Cross my mind, not crops.

It’s had the opposite effect on me. I now stick to very safe topics of conversation and have started to avoid the school gate. I’m not aware of having upset anyone but after reading some threads on here, I’m no longer sure, so have retreated to safe ground

How clever, witty and downright hilarious some women are. On so many occasions I’ve cried with laughing at threads.
How petty, tunnel-visioned and vindictive some women can be.
Also, sadly, how dreadfully many women are treated by their DPs.

I learned that there is a little arrow on the petrol pump symbol in your car that reminds you which side is the car the petrol tank is.

I look every time I get petrol

That my life is a lot more humdrum than I thought.

That other people suffer so much at the hands of others.

That the toilet brush issue has a lot in common with Brexit.

Pom bears are the best crisps and MN validated this opinion back in 2012/13 for me

That ...
...many women hinge their self-esteem around the size of their boobs.
...many people have strong opinions about things I could not imagine caring about.
... many people are very worried... about all sorts.
... I am not a worrier or a perfectionist.
... many women put up with terrible relationships... like they feel duty bound to.
... the stuff I don't know is infinite.

@Mercedes519 that's not true of all cars. My petrol gauge is on the right but my petrol cap is on the left. I still get caught out from time to time

I learnt that my PIL are controlling and weird, and, more importantly, that's it's not my responsibility to turn my life upside down to please them.

Noooo @TheFutureMrsBellamy don’t ruin it for me

That I am a very lucky woman having my DH
I've told DD's to get the talk app to forewarn them of the crapness of some men.

How very quick posters can be about spotting troll threads.
And how funny said threads can therefore turn out.
Almost sad when they're taken down.

They're often wrong though. Literally every time I start a thread about something I'm upset or figuring out, I"m accused of being a troll. So I don't do it any more. It's so weird because it's always a bit mundane.

Ah. Yes, I can see that would be irritating.
I was thinking about some of the more florid ones.
Which, of course, mightn't be trolls.

Sorry, just something today made me think of it.

That many women are absolutely obsessed with their appearance and hang all their value on it.

That a lot of people have a lot of money.

That a lot of husbands/partners are practically and emotionally useless and many women expect very little.

People do lots more washing than I do.

I don’t drink but it seems others drink a lot.

That posters will be extremely kind when someone is in despair.

Oh and apparently if you don't applaud your husband for stumbling in drunk, vomiting on the floor and spending all of the next day in bed moaning with a hang over then you are a 'controlling' wife who won't let her husband 'enjoy himself once in a while.'

That some of the school bullies seem to have progressed onto MN bullies.