Wedding dress fuck up... 6 months until wedding

[partyinapark]

I went for my dress fitting today and they completely fucked up the measurements in the bust (my boobs are 32J and this cup was about a C cup). There's nothing they can do to alter it and they said a new dress wouldn't be ready until at least October. Wedding is November.

I have totally lost confidence in them and do not trust them to do it right. I think I need to ask for the deposit back and go to a completely different shop for a new dress. But is it too late? And can anyone advise on wedding dresses for big boobs please?? Will they give me my deposit back?

paap - bloody hell did you get your money back?

single - yes please :)

I'm hearing mostly very good things about wed2be. I'm looking forward to visiting

Totally not an issue - I went wedding dress shopping 12 weeks before my wedding and had loads of choice. I did have to pay a tiny bit extra for a rush order.

I found wed2be fantastic. I was 8 months pregnant when I got married. I was just going to wear a nice maternity dress but my mum insisted on taking me wedding dress shopping. Within 1 hour I'd bought my dress! I just found them to have so many options and the staff were so efficient. X

Ps this was about 6 weeks before my wedding

thanks for sharing, both. I am feeling confident and positive that I will find an amazing dress.

I've managed to secure 3 appointments in the next 2 days...:)

They emailed back, saying that this is totally normal for a first fitting and that they would get the alterations person to sort it. I just cannot see how they can do it and neither could the two assistants yesterday, they said they'd need to order a brand new dress in a bigger size.

I really can't be arsed with this. I've taken a hatred to the dress. I don't even care if I lose the deposit now

Now I feel like I am making a big fuss over nothing. But I've fallen out of love with it and am starting to feel disheartened about the whole bloody thing. I don't want to get in the dress again as they are suggesting I need to do with the alterations guy. The thought of it makes me feel teary and queasy. I feel pathetic.

Email back and point out that you were told that it couldn't be altered and give the size differences and the fact they ordered the wrong size means you have no confidence in them and insist on your money back.

I had an appalling experience in a wedding dress shop and ended up getting a lovely dress from Monsoon. The assistant who was supposedly an ‘expert’ barely looked at me and kept insisting that I would need certain styles because I’d need to ‘cover thick bra straps as I couldn’t go without them’. I am a B/C cup but quite overweight so she was making a big assumption even though I was standing in front of her with my actual boobs. I wouldn’t have trusted her an inch.

I know I will be okay to email them tomorrow but right now I just feel so disheartened. I keep seeing myself in the dress and how awful I looked. I feel like I am going to have to battle the shop for the deposit and then I have the rigmorale of trying to fit my boobs into a half decent dress. I feel like I haven't got the fight in me right now.

I've had a few wines and feeling a bit sorry for myself. I'm aware it's first World problems.

What a crap experience you had too, raspberry.

I had a beautiful dress made from scratch in about that time. In fact less than that time. I have an email from end of March asking me to confirm I want to go ahead. I got married on 25/06.

So it's possible!

Possibly easier because a seamstress makes the dress themselves, it doesn't need to be sent off anywhere to be adjusted.

Thanks Mini. I hope I can have a good experience like you did. I don't know why I feel so down about it after getting that email. I knew they wouldnt accept me asking for my deposit back. I just can't be arsed with it. My boobs have always been the bain of my life and I'm just feeling so down about it 😞

Insist on your money back. If they continue to be difficult I suggest you raise your experience with them on social media - nothing gets companies to rethink their behaviour like it.

You can absolutely get a beautiful dress, you have tonnes of time. Plenty of people get married at the last minute/change their mind/ get pregnant/change size etc. It's all totally manageable

Thanks PC

all my insecurities about my boobs have resurfaced. I lost weight and dropped a cup size and I expected the dress to actually be too big. So the fact it was so titchy and I looked so utterly ridiculous and shit has stuck with me. I know I have plenty of time but it just feels like such an uphill struggle now. I've always hated shopping for clothes because of my bust. This is like the epitome of everything I've ever hated about dress shopping

Sorry I'm just moaning

Oh OP, you poor thing. I totally understand. I would email and say that when you were advised by two sales assistants that it was the wrong size and could not be made to fit and it was too late to organise a new one - that you have made other arrangements. I would add how stressful and disappointing this has all been for you too. Really hope they refund you and quickly!

The whole "it takes 6 months to make a wedding dress" is bollocks

@partyinapark - I would if I knew how

OP, why dont you go ahead with your other appointments to look at dresses. But also go back to the shop to try on. You know it's not salvagable so I think why doing this you've got more of a chance of getting your deposit back.

I went off my dress three weeks before the wedding.
A mnetter here found me a dress on the Internet
I had it altered and loved it...it cost £32 lol
The one I was meant to wear made me look booby and fat and I’d lost nearly a stone in weight. Had the cups removed and still didn’t look right
Once I’d decided I looked like I was wearing a big white nightie there was no going back
It would’ve been too hot anyway
Our wedding was on a beach and I went for a short cocktail dress
Felt lovely in it..it was 28 degrees at 7pm

Probably right about attending the next fitting to ensure I get the deposit back. Just the thought of putting the dress back on makes me feel nauseous!

Dowser that's a wicked story. I hope something like that happens to me

Would it be better if you attend the pointless fitting with the old dress AFTER you’ve been to some of the new shops and found some possibilities?
You just need to be in the frame of mind where the fitting is solely about making them embarrassed for making you attend when they see quite clearly that your bust won’t fit in and getting your deposit back, nothing more.

I had something similar. Chose a dress with a sweetheart neckline which I hated but was told at the point of deposit that it’s was ok, they could have the pattern adjusted by the dress maker so it would be straight across.

5 months before the wedding they called to say they had been advised the pattern couldn’t be adjusted, that they could make it a little higher but not what they promised. I had to fight for a refund, threatened to get a solicitor involved etc. I did get my money back and got a gorgeous dress I loved more.

Also there is only so much seam allowance you can take out on a dress, it’s not what they promised you, they have messed up and just keep reiterating what they’ve told you. Call them and email with the same thing every day. You don’t have to be angry or rude, just tell them you expect a refund. Does the sales of goods act apply here? I think I quoted that at them too. It was stressful but got sorted in the end.

Good luck

Cookit - yes I think so. I won't go back to the shop until next week. In the meantime I have 4 shops in the pipeline. I hope beyond hope I can find something!