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Partner won't pay his way.. with ANYTHING!

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Cookie123456789 · 05/07/2019 12:03

I've been with my partner 4 years this year, we had our DS1 last year and we both love him so much but at the minute we clearly resent each other which isn't good for DS. We moved into a flat together while I was pregnant and moved eventually to a flat closer to family as we were to far away. When we moved into 2nd flat, he started missing his monthly share to the bills etc. All the Bill's and rent come out of my bank and are all in my name, eventually after 6 months of him not paying his way I decided to move into my moms with my little boy until partner got back on his feet again. Since then I have returned to work from maternity leave and gone part time cause childcare isn't an option financially. We both decided that we were ready to move back in together and that we would work things out.

We have now been in the house 6 months and he has only paid £600 all together over the whole 6 months. The rough monthly running cost is £1200 I only earn £1300 a month, he also doesn't pay for anything for our son and whenever I confront him about it he'll blow up and call me a selfish bitch..

Someone please give me some adviseConfused

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user1486131602 · 05/07/2019 15:12

Time to go it alone......tho you already are!

BollocksToBrexit · 05/07/2019 15:18

Leave the freeloading arse and claim child support from him. Life is too short to waste it on a cocklodger.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 05/07/2019 15:24

As all the others have said, you need to get rid of him. Just don't let this become a pattern (you leave, he ups his game, you get back together, he's a git and so it all starts again) because that would be really damaging for your child.
Formalise everything- contact, financials and sever any joint account ties, then get on with your life without the millstone.

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LaurieFairyCake · 05/07/2019 15:24

Obviously move out and claim child support through CMS

HouseworkAvoider10 · 05/07/2019 15:25

Another cocklodger.

CacenCrunch · 05/07/2019 15:36

Get rid of him. You will be better off emotionally and financially

PanamaPattie · 05/07/2019 15:57

I don’t know why you chose to reproduce with this no hoper. I can only assume everything was ok in the beginning and you shared a life. Something must have happened to him became any normal, rational bring must know you have to pay your way through life. I would suggest you leave him to his misery and take yourself and your son far away from him.

Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 05/07/2019 16:27

Someone please give me some advise Confused

If it’s actually £600 in 6 months...

Kick him out and you will be financially much better off (food, electric, gas, single person council tax discount!)

I’m sure you are already aware but he’s an utter turd - my mind is blown you would even allow such bullshittery to drag on for so long

Kez200 · 05/07/2019 17:20

I think you need to return to where you were sadly. Go back to your Mums and he will have to find somewhere else.

Hes not a partner. Hes a sponger. After one chance previously, he wont change. Get ready to move on.

AlwaysCheddar · 05/07/2019 18:41

Dump him and child maintenance

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