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What job would you like your dc to do when they are grown up

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Lardlizard · 04/07/2019 18:38

I know it’s not our choices
But if you could choose for them what direction would you guide them in
Or tell them to avoid

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Blueandredandblue · 07/07/2019 13:36

I try not to but I can see what they're suited to and I encourage them to follow their passions. I want them to be happy

Blueandredandblue · 07/07/2019 13:41

Eldest is a natural mathematician. When he was younger I thought some thing scientific but now has become clear that maths is where he is headed. He thinks about it all the time and has chosen maths + further maths at A level. 12 year old is suddenly achieving high grades in science subjects but his heart is in English and history and wants to be a journalist. Dad wants to teach children with SEN and she would be suited to it, but she is only 9, and that could change

Blueandredandblue · 07/07/2019 13:42

DD not dad....

ritzbiscuits · 07/07/2019 13:53

So far DS 5 really loves building, designing, computers, is good at maths. So engineering, architecture or software development (like me), I'd imagine him leading a team rather than coding himself. We're very similar so I think he'd enjoy that.

EleanorLavish · 07/07/2019 13:59

I haven't a clue what they would be good at, and they have expressed zero interest in any job. I've 2 in senior school and 1 in primary.
My only wish is that they work out what they love, and achieve it. Doing a job you love is just the best.
My siblings and I all work in our 'dream job'.

Oblomov19 · 07/07/2019 14:00

Ds1 doesn't know what he wants to be.
I don't know what to advise him. I want him to earn plenty and be happy.

It's hard to know what to advise.

CrowleysBentley · 07/07/2019 14:58

Mine are (allegedly) adults now, at 19 and 20. I just want them to be happy, and able to support themselves properly, other than that I don't really have an opinion.

DS messed around at college, and scraped through his IT course by the skin of his teeth. He's lucky that he now has a pretty well paying job, vaguely related to what he wants to do, so is getting a couple of years experience in, while saving up for a car and having some fun with his friends. He's intending to apply for a place at University either next year or the year after.

DD did pretty well on her business course at college, but was never sure what she wanted to do so just chose business as it might generally be useful. Since she left college last year she's decided that she'd like to be a dental nurse, so has been applying for every apprenticeship going, while working in a pub/restaurant as a waitress/bar staff to have some money coming in, she is enjoying the social aspect at least (and the free pub food on shift).

I'd probably be happier if they'd taken more direct routes to what they eventually would like to do, but both are working towards it, and have made their plans for what they need to do going forward, and that's OK.

beachcomber70 · 07/07/2019 15:43

I wanted my sons to do jobs which were fulfilling and secure and paid a fair wage without hours of overtime eating into evenings and weekends. Enough for a relaxed life and with the ability to own a house and have holidays and family car.

I would have loved them to have a trade...carpenter/builder/decorator...anything which creates something to look at and be proud of. Because I love homes and interiors myself so that was me being selfish I suppose.

Son 1 was bright in a streetwise way, independent, personable, popular, polite, funny. He now has his own kitchen company...design/installation/advice etc. He has amazing reviews from customers as he loves doing a good job...but also has to deal with the odd difficult customer which he is able to do.

Son 2 was good at art, studious, more serious, determined, also popular, a team player. He is now in a position in the police force and well respected.

I could not really have predicted their careers but looking back it all makes absolute sense and good use of their talents/personalities.

CountFosco · 07/07/2019 17:28

Oh my god why the hatred of the arts? I’m an artist and it’s amazing!

I don't think anyone hates the arts, I love going to the theatre and to art galleries. But there are too many people chasing a small number of well paid jobs. An average engineer will still earn a good wage and be able to explore their passions outside work, an average artist will be penniless.

Plus not everyone is driven by the same things. I'm a scientist, I work in Pharma. I (and the people who work for me) invent the processes to make drugs. It's very creative and what we do benefits society (I've worked on drugs for various cancers, for autoimmune diseases, for viral infections) and that is a massive motivator for our employees. It's pretty cool to make a drug that will save someone's life. Even if I was talented enough to make it in the arts it wouldn't give me the satisfaction that my job does. My relative who works in the theatre thinks what I do is boring, everyone likes different things.

IhaveALooBrush · 07/07/2019 17:36

Dd will be a pink haired bassist or drummer for a heavy metal band.
Or an opera singer.

She says she's going to be a superhero and have magical unicorn summoning abilities.
She's 6.

Redrupunzle · 07/07/2019 19:09

I'd want my girls to be an electrician or plumber or similar so they earn a decent wage and can always find work.

Dd1 wants to be a vet. She seems the type that could do it and that'd also be a great job.

Or a dentist

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