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Those mums who “need” to talk to the teacher every bloody morning

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JammieJones · 04/07/2019 09:05

Please bloody desist

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JammieJones · 04/07/2019 09:05

Same mums who spend 20 mins waving through the window and winding little Johnny up

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CaptainMyCaptain · 04/07/2019 09:12

Most of these queries can be dealt with quickly by the teacher although we had blinds fitted against those who waved at their child distracting them (and other children) at the beginning and end of the day. Id did have one parent, though, who would call me to speak to her in the Reception area 20 minutes before school started - topics included why her child's shoes were worn out, why her child's jacket was worn out and couldn't be passed on to her younger child and an argument with her NDN, whose child was in the same class, that had happened the night before in the garden. Her husband worked nights and I think she felt she had to get the children out of the house early so he could sleep. In fact, I was a bit concerned about DV and passed my concerns to the Deputy Head who ignored it.

Probably not in the spirit of this thread though. Hmm

firstimemamma · 04/07/2019 09:14

I used to be a teacher and this drove me mad! So did the mums who always dropped their kid off late yet always had a piping hot Starbucks in one hand!


Ahh yes I can sympathise. Our kids used to line up in the playground until teachers came out to collect them at 8.50am and yes same bloody mother who would have to speak to the teacher and also regularly gave her boxes of home made cakes that her DD had made the previous night . Talk about apple for the teacher, did my head in!

BenWillbondsPants · 04/07/2019 09:30

I had a parent pull me to one side almost every morning with one thing or another (could I just tell her DD that she got all of her questions right even if she didn't etc), but the final straw was when she asked me if I could take her DD in early to brush her teeth and do her hair as she didn't have time in the morning.

That raised very obvious concerns.

blueiris71 · 04/07/2019 09:35

those Mums are often precious first timers, in and out of the school, chatting to the teacher every morning. Not happy with the school. Lily Mae hasn't got enough homework, doesn't get her reading book changed often enough, got told off by a teacher, how very dare you, had a minor spat with her friend so please get out your bullying policy and arrange a meeting etc etc etc

namechangedforthis1980 · 04/07/2019 09:40

Haha I know at least one of these! Currently in yr 5, will be interesting to see how she manages when her DS moves up to yr 6 in September, as bar one class you can't get into the yr 6 classrooms as they're internal Grin

I don't know why she does it either! Has been like it since day one, and even now that they're year 5 ( and most children walk home alone) she still walks her son in, distracts the teacher etc

summerofresistance · 04/07/2019 09:47

This is strange to me - at my DC's schools, you don't see the teacher at all in the mornings, except in reception. They go through a door which has a couple of TAs there (keeping the parents out no doubt!). The TAs take any messages for the teachers.

If you want to speak to a teacher you can catch them at the end of the day.

Even in reception they discourage you going in the classroom - you have to drop at the door (each reception class has an external door).

The reception teachers tell the waiting parents what they've been doing all day before letting the kids go (e.g. what letter sounds they've been doing and any interesting things that happened that day) which I know most if the parents really appreciate as our DC won't tell us anything!

lmusic87 · 04/07/2019 10:09

I used to be a TA and its really irritating as you are trying to get them all inside and to the cloakroom.

Any issues should be mentioned to the teacher at the end of the day and a meeting scheduled.

Mirali · 04/07/2019 10:15

When I was a primary school teacher pre Dunblane, schools were less security conscious. I had a mother in Year 5 who would regularly walk into the classroom to speak to me during registration Confused

JammieJones · 04/07/2019 11:33

Mother today was asking teacher to make sure PFB ate all her lunch as she’d only eaten a small dinner the night before.

I could hear the teachers eyes rolling. Every bloody morning this same woman

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GleefulGlitch · 04/07/2019 11:37

Oh dear I was one of these mums.
In my defence I needed to speak to the teacher every morning to give a handover on DS's mood/behaviour so that she knew what she was getting for the day. I doubt other parents knew this so would have just seen me as annoying Blush

Bostyrone · 04/07/2019 11:41

My friend was one of these and was very anxious but also oblivious as to how it annoyed everybody. She would insist on going right into the classroom to take off her son’s coat and shoes and change into his indoor slippers. All the other kids had to do it themselves in the changing room. She was quite open about the fact that she was so anxious about him that she felt she had to spend every last minute with him.

He’s a big 6 footer now and she is a lot more normal too.

guiltynetter · 04/07/2019 11:47

I hate this too, there is one guy that stands chatting and joking with them every day and I just think get out of the way! same with a lady who walks inside the class every day, just wait outside!

CuppaSarah · 04/07/2019 12:03

There's so many parents who waltz into the classroom every single day to hang up their kids coat/bag and have a little natter with them as they settle into the free choice time. The kids are all 7 or very nearly 7, they should be hanging up their own damn stuff! They'd be more than capable if given the opportunity.

I've seen its the some of the PTA types who seem to think because they dedicate their free time to helping the school, it's sort of theirs now, so they can wander in as they please(don't worry I'm not PTA bashing, they do a bloody good job and most of them even allow their children to hang up their own stuff)

TheOrigRightsofwomen · 04/07/2019 12:34

DS2 went through a difficult period and I found myself needing to speak to either the head or his class teacher quite regularly. After one week where I felt really awkward I apologised to the head saying I really didn't want to be 'one of those parents'. She gave me a wry smile and said "trust me, you really are not".

I guess the difference was that it was a genuine concern regarding DS's welfare.

It's not always easy for parents to speak to teachers at the end of the day if they are working.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 04/07/2019 12:40

I can’t remember the last time i spoke to my DCs teacher! Grin probably the parent teacher meeting in March.

In my defence I needed to speak to the teacher every morning to give a handover on DS's mood/behaviour so that she knew what she was getting for the day.

This should’ve been done via a home/school communication book.

Sirzy · 04/07/2019 12:43

So many of the messages could easily be passed on in a note or via email to the teacher.

Ellapaella · 04/07/2019 12:45

Yes I recognise these parents. Same ones who send multiple messages on the parents what's app/face book messenger page every day fretting over absolutely everything and driving everyone insane. We really don't want to know every time your child farts ffs (not quite bit you know what I mean).

CaptainMyCaptain · 04/07/2019 19:46

I'm sure it isn't necessary to tell the teacher what mood your child is in every morning - they will soon find out! Or, as someone else said, write it in a Home/school book.

Danglingmod · 04/07/2019 19:51

So glad my ds (long left primary school) didn't go to one of these mn "take them into the classroom" schools. How annoying to watch parents defer their children's independence.

At ds's primary, all years took themselves into the playground by a set time when the gate was then locked. They had a few minutes' play, then lined up with the whistle and made their way into the classrooms alone.

Chilledout11 · 04/07/2019 19:51

Yep.. It's ridiculous. I get this quite a lot. In my child's school though you have to contact the Secretary to speak to the class teacher and make an appointment. The TA does the handover and explains that to everyone as needed.

Fundays12 · 04/07/2019 19:56

Some parents may think I am this parent but my ds has ASD and adhd so I can’t just drop him and run like most parents (would love to not have to wait till 9.10 every morning for his psa to finish transporting kids etc).

The agreement between myself and the school is I wait in the classroom were it’s quiet with him until his psa arrives. However out of respect for his teacher we don’t go into the school till right on 9am as his teacher has work to setting up etc and age is normally going to collect the kids for an outdoor activity.

PrincessLouis · 04/07/2019 19:56

This drives me barmy too (beginning or end of day), for us working parents who can’t be there all the time it would be nice to be able to have a casual 30 sec chat with the teacher or TA occasionally but no, the mum who is there every morning & every evening has to hog every possible opportunity to report inane facts about her precious prince...

Honestly I think she is just lonely but it’s a bit thoughtless

LolaSmiles · 04/07/2019 20:06

Unless there's a SEND need requiring daily conversations then there is no need for it.

I've had parents call me up as a secondary tutor wanting to know where their child's PE kit is because they put it down on the field they think, or the changing rooms but they aren't sure. Other calls include, can I stop their child and another playing together at break (on a site with 1000-2000 students), can you explain why my child was spoken to in Maths when they just get a little distracted (not there, not a maths teacher), can we have another copy of the letter because DC's friend's mum has said Timmy was given one (contact the office and all mail goes to your parent account as well), can you tell us if they will need sun cream on the geography trip and what provisions will be made for snacks (not a geography trip, don't know).

The odd time someone isn't sure who to speak to is fine, but others it's all the time with every little question.

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