When you squee over someone else’s engagement ring, are you genuinely excited?

[NicoPolastri]

Or are you doing it because it’s the “right” thing to do? I do it because everyone else does and I feel it’s expected. But sometimes wonder whether everyone else is genuine?

Obviously I’m happy and excited for close friends & family, i’m not a complete misanthrope! I mean like when people gather round in an office or at a party with friends/people who you don’t know that well.

Gosh no. I’m being polite. But then I don’t even have an engagement ring.

I usually am if the ring is a cracker, regardless of who it is.

I'm being polite too

I can't say I've ever 'squee'd over someone else's engagement ring. I've asked to look at it and would always say something polite. For most of my friends, I've been genuinely pleased that they've agreed to get married and some people's rings are particularly lovely but I can't muster up OTT excitement

Squee over an engagement? If they are close friends and I'm genuinely delighted for them then yes, but never over an engagement ring. I just don't get it. And I'm not really into jewellery, I find the whole fancy ring thing a bit show-offy and silly.

I'm generally very happy for them, as long as the groom-to-be isn't a douchebag.

No I just do it to make my friends feel good.

It's just something people do, isn't it?

I always look at people's engagement ring and tell them how lovely it is, because I've yet to see one that I thought was horrible. But I wouldn't say I'm excited by it. Excited for them maybe, because clearly for most people it is exciting for them when they get engaged.

Nope, couldn't GAF. DH helpfully bought mine from Tiffany's when a £20 cheapie from Argos would've done.

If the bloke seems nice, that's what I'm excited about. The ring, meh.

I squee over anything shiny and glittery, cos I'm a magpie in human form.

But I'm not squeeing over them getting engaged really. People get engaged all the time. I'm happy for happy people, but my true reaction would probably be a fairly indifferent "Congrats".

But you can't do that, you have to play the part and ask when's the big day (as if anyone cares what month someone else's wedding is!) and if it's going to be a big wedding (ditto).

I do it out of politeness so the person can feel happy and excited in their moment.

I can admire a beautiful ring, but actually (thinking about it now) no more really than I would any other wonderful piece of jewellery or item of clothing.

One of my friends became an MEP though and I was genuinely very excited for her. So I did squee at that!

I was touched but a bit confused by all the squeeing that went on about my engagement ring. I assume people are genuinely pleased about marriage news but, like you, are mostly doing a slightly OTT reaction over the ring specifically because they feel they have to.

I do enjoy a good squee over engagements, genuine from me, honest. I’ve never seen a ring lovelier than mine however. Not because it’s flashy, just that I designed it.

I don't squee, I say how lovely it is and congratulate them.

I couldn't give two shiny shits what the ring looks like. I just don't really have an eye for the appreciation in rings, never have.

Nah.

I squee excitedly over pregnancies though. They make me happy (as long as they're other people's!)

I always squee and it's always purely out of politeness.

All the engagement rings I've admired have struck me as a bit generic - one of the reasons why I didn't want an engagement ring myself. If I saw a really gorgeous, individual one then I might do a genuine squee (and then ask DH to buy one for me!).

Politeness here! I mean I’m genuinely excited about the wedding / marriage. But not the ring.

I do it out of politeness but I think it probably shows! I have more of an interest if it’s an unusual design I suppose.

Mind you, I don’t get the way women like to squee over lots of things in those types of situations. Someone’s Fancy new handbag or shoes. It seems to be a sort of female bonding thing or something which I just don’t get at all

Even someone else’s new baby. I’ll have a little look and genuinely find it cute and take an interest but I can take or leave having a hold TBH. I look around at others and they’re literally queuing up waiting to have a hold like a load of clucking mother hens.

I sometimes even wonder if I have a very mild form of aspergers or I’m a man underneath cos I just don’t get all that plus also the group female obsession with stuff like diets and weight, nails and make up.

Ps I DO squee (ie get genuinely excited) about things like someone getting a promotion or new job they wanted, announcing a pregnancy or getting an offer on a house accepted or being told they are all clear from cancer.

I just can’t get excited about blingy things.

Definitely politeness regarding the ring, but I do share the happiness and excitement if the people who got engaged are happy and in love.

I’m definitely a magpie and only do it to those rings I’m jealous / lustful over and the odd really good friend who has a less beautiful ring but is very happy

Yes politeness and in fact the majority of rings I have seen I don’t like the look of anyway.

Thank you everyone! Making me feel so much more normal. I have always wondered what people were thinking but in the moment you definitely can’t ask!

One of my friends became an MEP though and I was genuinely very excited for her. So I did squee at that!

Ah that is lovely Sigh!

I'm not sure what's worse: 'squeeing', using the word 'squee', or being proud of a fucking ring.