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Do other people have terrible anxiety after a night out..?

54 replies

Esto · 30/06/2019 17:56

I know most people have a bit of hangover blues/oops can't believe I said that, but as I'm getting older I'm finding the day(s) after a night out (even where I'm not particularly drunk) just unbearable.

We attended the wedding of DH's colleague yesterday, it was absolutely lovely. At the time I felt ok, making small talk and having a little dance at the evening party. But today I've gone over everything I said and did, scrutinized it all and felt embarrassed and humiliated by it. I've concluded that they all hated me and I was a total embarrassment to DH and his colleagues will think I'm an idiot and by extension that so is he.

WTF? My thoughts are just getting out of control Confused

OP posts:
PinkSubscriber · 30/06/2019 18:00

Can’t help I’m afraid but yes it’s a thing. I thought it was just me until I was talking to work colleagues who said the same happens to them.

It’s just horrible isn’t it you have my sympathy.

mcmen71 · 30/06/2019 18:01

I was at a colleagues wedding 3 years ago and another colleagues husband who I was only meeting for the first time said I was boring, I took this really bad and I have never been able to go on a work night out since this. I be all up for going and when it comes to it, I just can't face it. I have started on anxiety meds they help a little but I still have not went on a work night out.

ScreamingValenta · 30/06/2019 18:03

Yes - the only way not to that I have found is to drink absolutely no alcohol Sad.

user1493413286 · 30/06/2019 18:04

Yeah some people nickname it “the fear”. There’s a scientific explanation about why alcohol causes anxiety the next day if you google it.
Genuinely though I’m sure you were perfectly lovely (also people don’t think that hard about other people, they’ll all be having their own internal panic)

Notthecarwashagain · 30/06/2019 18:04

Yes- The Beer Fear.

3boysandabump · 30/06/2019 18:06

Yep we call it beer fear round here

Spookydot · 30/06/2019 18:07

Yes don’t worry it’s known as “the beer fear.” I’m sure you were absolutely fine, and a delightful wedding guest. No one wants everyone sitting down not mingling at their wedding! (As long as you didn’t vomit on the bride and start any fights.)
Relax and forget about it now! Smile

CremantDeLoireSocialist · 30/06/2019 18:08

Yes I know exactly what you mean. It's pretty common. Try not to worry! (Easier said than done I know).

PurpleThistles · 30/06/2019 18:09

Yes, I have always struggled to cope with hangovers, so I have been teetotal for over a year now and will stay that way. It just isnt worth it, for me.

EnidButton · 30/06/2019 18:09

Beer fear.

Big reason why I stopped drinking altogether years ago. It exasperated my anxiety massively and just wasn't worth it.

Have something protein heavy to eat (cheese toastie, chicken, scrambled egg) and drink lots of water. Take some deep breaths and try to focus on the moment you're in.

No-one is thinking about you I promise. They're probably too busy fretting over themselves. In a couple of days you'll be able to think about all the lovely bits. Nothing wrong with having a good time. Flowers

NabooThatsWho · 30/06/2019 18:12

Yes I get this when hungover and only had a couple of hours sleep. From about 2pm until bedtime I feel horrible anxious. But I know to expect it now and that it passes.
Horrible at the time though.

One of many reasons that I don’t drink often (once every 5-6 weeks or so).

mouldyhousemouldylife · 30/06/2019 18:22

Yes I get nonstop palpitations for about 2 days after.

Lilac3 · 30/06/2019 18:26

Yes, it happened to me after a night out at Christmas and lasted for 3 whole days.

It was the most unbearable feeling I've ever had

patphelan · 30/06/2019 18:27

Yes this happens to me and its the reason I haven't had a drink for over 2 years. I can't deal with it, I have anxiety, I take meds daily and they only just keep me going. I won't drink because I know it makes me worse and I want to get better.

Just focus on the now, you will feel better tomorrow

mintich · 30/06/2019 18:28

Yes! It's irrational too. I'll know everything was fine deep down but I still worry that I've said or done something wrong, even if I've just had a couple of glasses

Lily715 · 30/06/2019 18:29

Yep!! I have depression and anxiety though. I very rarely get drunk because unless I can remember absolutely everything I've done and said then I get the most awful anxiety. I normally end up texting a friend asking if I've done anything wrong or upset anyone. Can't remember the last time I got drunk and I'm in my mid 20s.

Georgiemcgeorgeface · 30/06/2019 18:31

Yup. Hangxiety. Majorly. I can't drink wine anymore for that reason. Started late 30's with me. I now limit myself to a few lagers or g&ts for that very reason. It's jut not worth it.

MissOrganisedMe · 30/06/2019 18:36

Yep, like other posters, it's the reason I don't drink at all any more. It's awful. Mine lasted for days, and at the end would be the case even if I had a sip of anything alcoholic. Just refuse to do it to myself.

PivotPivotPivottt · 30/06/2019 18:38

Yes! I really suffer with the fear these days after a night out. And if I receive a friend request the morning after I start panicking thinking it may be someone I've offended/embarrassed myself in front of adding me to confront me Blush. I know I've not done anything wrong 90% certain but I still worry I have!

Oblomov19 · 30/06/2019 18:46

The 'beer fear' is irrational. It's not real. No one is thinking these thoughts of you. Keep reminding yourself that.

Comps83 · 30/06/2019 18:47

Yes I get ‘the fear’ even when nothing remotely bad has happened.

TakenForSlanted · 30/06/2019 18:50

Beer fear.

Didn't realise there was an expression for it, but, yes.

I've had this twice recently. And not just feeling a bit anxious the day after but waking up at 2am, heart pounding and feeling distinctly panicky.

I'm only 37, too.

bigchris · 30/06/2019 18:52

You don't say in the op though if you did actually drink anything?

redsky21 · 30/06/2019 18:54

HANGXIETY!! One of the reasons I dont drink anymore 😞