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Am I being bullshitted or does he like me?

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biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 17:46

Okay - don't be too harsh. My last relationship was emotionally abusive, it took me many, many years to realise this and it has made me doubt my judgement with men. This is the first guy I have been interested in since then.

I go to a class and there is a guy I met a couple of classes ago I thought maybe liked me. Last class, last night, I was certain he did, he was clearly asking questions to see if I was single. He also asked me if I knew many people ( I am new to the area) and he said, 'I will give you my number at the end of the class, maybe we could be friends'. At the end of the class I asked him if he would like to go to the pub. He looked really pleased. We went and had a couple of drinks. I thought it went well - I had a great time and he seemed to too. At the end he said, 'I will give you my number and you can call me if you want to meet again' I said,' I asked you for a drink, it is your turn to ask me out' (but maybe he never heard me as he was putting his number in my phone). He walked me to the bus and hugged me as we parted. Perhaps embarrassingly, I texted him when I got home saying ' I like you' He texted back ' I like you too x'

But I have heard nothing since. I really did like him. He was warm, open, friendly, interesting, empathetic, and appeared genuinely interested in me. And physically I am really attracted to him.

My past relationship has made me very wary of seeking to hold onto someone who does not treat me well. I want to text him and ask him if he would like to meet again, but feel like I have already twice put my self out there in making it clear I am interested. Should I text or will I be pathetically pursuing someone who is not that interested?

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jellybean85 · 30/06/2019 17:48

No I think he replied saying he liked you too it's your turn to text really Smile you don't haha to ask him out if you don't want to, just
Make conversation and wait for him to ask you out

ILiketheNiceCereal · 30/06/2019 17:48

I would leave it. You've been clear, if he doesn't act on it that's your answer. Well done for putting yourself out there, it isn't easy.

anotherrainydays · 30/06/2019 17:49

I think life's to short to wait about for texts, if you like him text him and ask him out again. If he says yes - he's interested, if he says no - he isn't, it's no big deal and you can move on

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biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 17:50

Oh no, two different responses. I am no further forward! Smile

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SrSteveOskowski · 30/06/2019 17:50

I'd send one last message asking if he wanted to meet up again. If he says no, faffs about not giving a straight answer or doesn't reply, then I'd delete his number and forget about it.

Lipz · 30/06/2019 17:52

Sounds like he likes you so I'd send a text now asking if he would like to meet for another drink. You've nothing to lose.

ILiketheNiceCereal · 30/06/2019 17:53

Silence is just as much an answer as any message. If you want to message him one last time, keep it breezy and then try to put it out of your mind.

biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 17:55

You're right! I have nothing to lose but a small bit of pride.

I'm going to text to find out once and for all if he does want to see me again.

There, I've sent it - short and to the point - would you like to meet up again?

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Lipz · 30/06/2019 18:01

Oooh how exciting...let us know what he says

ILiketheNiceCereal · 30/06/2019 18:03

Good luck!!

biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 18:12

He's replied, 'Yes I would! When?'

I'm so happy!

If this date goes well I am going to make it clear that he has to ask me for the next one!

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koolaider · 30/06/2019 18:14
Grin
biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 18:16

Actually there were two exclamation marks - it was 'Yes I would!! When?'

Hurrah!

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Lipz · 30/06/2019 18:19

Aww delighted for you. Hope you have a lovely DATE :)

sawyersfishbiscuits · 30/06/2019 18:21

Aww this has made me smile. Enjoy OP. I hope he's a keeper x

biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 18:24

I know Lipz Its a proper DATE! I have a new dress to wear...

Sawyers, I hope he's a keeper too. He seemed like a really genuinely nice guy.

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CatSmize · 30/06/2019 18:27

Now sit back and let HIM organise the dates. You only went out for the first time last night! I personally would have given him a few days to get in contact, especially after the first message coming from you.

I'm glad you got a positive response but the only way to know how interested he really is is to see how much effort he makes to see you. So take a step back and make sure it's him pushing for more dates!

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 30/06/2019 18:35

Oh, I’m in a similar position

I think I’m going to give him a day or so to message and if he doesn’t I’ll message him 😳

biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 18:35

I will Catsmize. If it seems to go well. I think it will explicitly point out to him that I have done the running so far and if he's interested he needs to show me by asking me out.

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Lipz · 30/06/2019 18:44

Make sure to update us when the date happens. Really delighted for you.

Soola · 30/06/2019 18:45

He could also have been in a previous horrible relationship or had bad experiences and being nicked around when asking women out, which is why he wanted to be certain that you definitely did want to see him again rather than he ask you and you feel obliged.

biginjaynestown · 30/06/2019 18:56

I will update Lipz!

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PhannyPharts · 30/06/2019 19:03

I'm already invested in this and want to buy a hat

ILiketheNiceCereal · 30/06/2019 19:03

Ah, I'm so glad I was wrong op! Proper cynic, me. Grin

Enjoy your date.

purpleboy · 30/06/2019 19:10

Good for you op. No need to play games. You like someone ask them out.
Looking forward to hearing about the date!

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