Do you enjoy staying with other people?

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I just said goodbye to a rather difficult guest and I'm wondering how everyone feels about staying with other people?

Personally I hate it. I can't bear it even for one night. I'd much rather book into a hotel(I appreciate that isn't an option for everyone.) I never feel relaxed in their own home and I worry that I'm bothering them. The only exception would be a parent.

How do you feel about being a guest in someone's home?

I HATE people staying and I HATE staying in other peoples houses ! I much prefer a hotel, prefer my own space, using the bathroom without half the house waiting outside the door, being able to do as I please really, if I want to go to sleep I can and I'm not waiting for them to make the forst move to go to bed.

I've 2 sister's I don' mind staying here, one stays usually just one night as she travels far and maybe here for a party etc, the other stays a couple of days as she is living in France. I've 2 brothers who don't stay here, their families are just nightmares, they expect hotel treatment when I don't have a hotel on offer.

One of my sils just turns up with an overnight bag and her family in tow, tbf she'd sleep on any bit of floor but it's the short notice, it's the upheavel as her kids are early risers and she doesn't get up till 11am along with her dh, (she does get up early when at home) and I'm left minding her kids after entertaining them all the night before.

Another sil loves people staying with her, she lives in a very small house, you can not visit her as she tells you to stay, if I know it's going to be a late one and a few drinks are involved I'll always book a hotel, she hates when we do that so we try to only visit once a year and less if possible. She once chased us down the street to come back and stay, another time she cancelled our hotel, we never give her the right hotel name now, another time she locked the doors so we couldn't get out, she's been known to hide car keys and bags so that we have to stay, it's all very weird, or at least I think it is, but everyone else thinks it's so sweet that she loves our company and loves us to stay and I'm the weird one.

I hate it too, I am an oldie,and can't really host anyone in my tiny cottage anyway,and I hate staying at other people's houses. I have been on my own for years and years,and can't be bothered with any intruders ha ha, crabby old me !

A lot people seem to not like cats, as in allergic,or don't like cat hairs etc, so tough luck ha ha. I have had many cats for over 50 years,and not allergic to anything, only some people,!

Dislike staying and dislike having overnight guests too. We don’t have a spare room so feel bad if people really want to come and stay in the living room.

Friend is coming in a couple of weeks, I should have said no but couldn’t think of a reason. It will be nice to see her but I reeeeeally need daily downtime and she talks constantly and I find it so draining!

My parents are coming this weekend but as we don’t have a room they stay in a local hotel. Perfect!

When it comes down to it, in the evenings I just want to sit on the sofa, braless, in PJs, watching whatever I want on TV in silence 😄

Another sil loves people staying with her, she lives in a very small house, you can not visit her as she tells you to stay, if I know it's going to be a late one and a few drinks are involved I'll always book a hotel, she hates when we do that so we try to only visit once a year and less if possible. She once chased us down the street to come back and stay, another time she cancelled our hotel, we never give her the right hotel name now, another time she locked the doors so we couldn't get out, she's been known to hide car keys and bags so that we have to stay, it's all very weird, or at least I think it is, but everyone else thinks it's so sweet that she loves our company and loves us to stay and I'm the weird one.

WTF? I find that genuinely disturbing. Poor you. I'd never visit anyone who behaved like that. That's so creepy.

I don't live it but it's not as bad as having people staying at mine.

WTF? shock I find that genuinely disturbing. Poor you. I'd never visit anyone who behaved like that. That's so creepy.

Thank you, people really think I am the crazy one. I have questioned myself a few times over this and nearly convinced myself that I am weird. Of course she does all these things while laughing and winking pretending to be joking I get SO anxious when we are to go visit her, I've made up so many excuses at this point that I'm running out of them. I think only one other person has actually said to me that it's not normal about her behaviour.

Yeah I'm not keen tbh

The only people I really like staying with have a mansion in Boston

Depends on who it is - I enjoy visiting my DB and ex-SIL but will be visiting an Aunt soon and whilst I'm looking forward to going, I think my dietary needs may be difficult/confusing for her and I'll hate to sound like a diva!

I don't enjoy being intensively hosted. I like staying with people who expect me to take them as they find them, and will do the same for me if they come to stay at my house. DH is prone to inviting people who I just know will be a complete PITA because their priorities are different from mine, and he's astonished that just because I like them I don't necessarily relish having them sleeping through the wall and wanting bacon rolls in the morning.

Hate it. But I hate people really.

I hate it. I feel awkward and I never know where to put myself. Also, I HATE using other people’s bathrooms.

I prefer a travelodge.

Depends who I am staying with.
I like staying at my sister's, I have just spent 4 weeks staying at my parents' house, in my old room. It was fine, apart from having to get it up to scratch to sell.
I am happy with anywhere where the bed is comfy and washing facilities are "easy to use".

I hate it too, I hate being the guest and I hate people staying. It is draining and tiring and too much work usually.

I enjoyed it immensely when I was younger though, and experiencing different ways of life. Now, no way. I need my own bed, comforts, routines and a good night's sleep.

Wow - I only really stay with my parents and my sister who are fantastic hosts - love it.

We don't have many people to stay here - only because my sister's house is huge and very much the centre of our family life/get togethers but I do enjoy it when they come here (always family). I don't fuss but my spare room is clean with nice pillows/duvet and an en suite.

I have stayed with a particular friend a few times in the last couple of years and don't really enjoy staying there. Really old quirky house with a damp spare room and fusty bedding that gives me asthma.

Only really with family where I feel 100% comfortable. It’s worse now with children who get up early as I’m trying to keep them quiet and find my way round kitchens without being rude in what I use

Hate it.
DS has lung disease and sleep walks which is hard enough to manage when we are at home. I'm meant to be going to stay at a family members house next weekend but I'm already working out ways to pull a sickie. I just don't feel comfortable and relaxed when I'm at someone's house overnight.

I hate it too. We didn’t really have any need to have to stay with anyone or have anyone to stay until my mother in law moved away.
I avoid staying with her as I feel so uncomfortable and can’t relax.
She stays here several times a year. She doesn’t specifically come to see us but stops overnight while driving through the area to get elsewhere and then stays for two or three nights when she’s on her way back. I dread it as she’s a difficult guest and I feel so drained while she’s here.

We have friends of our adult children to stay and I don’t mind having them here though but then there’s less/no pressure to host them as they always have plans and sort themselves out.

I like it. I am an extrovert though unlike 90% of mumsnet.

Better when it's someone I feel extremely comfortable with but it's OK regardless, unless they are very uptight about things and I have to walk on eggshells to avoid being seen as rude.

DH arranged for his three uni mates to visit last night. Have booked myself into a local hotel rather than stay around. Bliss - and it's got air con. Will go home later when they have departed. Much better than hearing all the old stories and having to be nice at breakfast.