Do you enjoy staying with other people?

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I just said goodbye to a rather difficult guest and I'm wondering how everyone feels about staying with other people?

Personally I hate it. I can't bear it even for one night. I'd much rather book into a hotel(I appreciate that isn't an option for everyone.) I never feel relaxed in their own home and I worry that I'm bothering them. The only exception would be a parent.

How do you feel about being a guest in someone's home?

Usually I hate it, because in my opinion, not very many people are good hosts. And even if they are good, other people's routines and ways of doing things are never as comfortable as one's own.

The absolute worst thing about staying with people is their bloody beds. Other people's beds are always awful. Great fat boil-you-alive duvets, or polycotton. Or both ...

I actually enjoy hosting much more than I like being hosted, because I like to think (imagine, perhaps?) that I'm a very good host.

It depends who it is, but in general no, i dont like staying with others, and I dont like guests staying

I hate it, you can’t relax or put your comfy clothes on or watch what you want on tv. If you’re hungry you can’t just get a drink or snack. You have to be polite and neat all the time. Same if someone visits you. You’re constantly offering coffee and trying not to hog the tv.

I hate being a guest but enjoy having guests.

Hate having guests, hate being one, now I’m older and wiser I refuse to do either, that’s why hotels were invented.

I had my brother stay for 2 nights a few weeks ago. The first night was ok. The next night he went to our local pub. When he returned I was lying in bed with dd as she had just had a serious meltdown. He demanded I go downstairs and make him some food and a brew. He said I wasn't being very hospitable and I'm taking the piss.
He then said if I didnt go downstairs he'd go. I rang him a taxi. Not spoken to him since.

Don't like it much any more. When I was a lot younger I used to be quite happy to camp on an airbed in other people's houses but now even my DM's/PIL's spare beds are a bit uncomfortable. As for the big meet-ups we used to have, I can't begin to imagine them without a handy Premier Inn/Travelodge nearby.

I like it. I don't like having to keep tabs on DC and DH though if they stay with me especially if it's the 'don't touch' etc. On the odd occasion I can escape for the weekend to a friends and leave them at home then this is heaven.

Hotel every time for me!

We're quite happy to do it - and we do a fair bit as we live abroad and come back to the UK to see everyone, and stay in their homes. It's fun

they come to us too and are always lovely guests.

I always like the idea of houseguests far more than the reality. I have narrowed it to two friends who are very little effort (separately), and who accept my foibles.

Me staying with other people? Avoid it completely.

My 8yo is mad for the novelty of other people’s houses- will beg practically everyone for a sleepover. She’s putting a real scanner in the works of my policy!

*spanner

I like going to other people, and friends staying with us. But then I only go where I feel welcome, and anyone who has a problem finding the kettle themselves or entertaining themselves while I put kids to bed (ideally by tidying up a bit, but not a requirement!) doesn't get invited back.

Have a guest every week or two, at least. Great to have an extra pair of hands to nip to the shop, etc.

Very strange thread to me! I like both staying and having people stay.

I hate it, you can’t relax or put your comfy clothes on or watch what you want on tv. If you’re hungry you can’t just get a drink or snack.

Pretty much all I do if staying with friends is watch crap tv in pyjamas eating crisps. You know the wrong people.

I cope with family, avoid if at all possible with anyone else. I think it may be 20 years since I stayed at another person's house.

I love the idea of having people to stay. The reality ... from making up the spare room to buying in extra food to entertaining them etc. Is never enjoyable and yes, it's always nice to say goodbye. Equally I am uncomfortable staying with other people unless they are really old laid-back friends. This probably tells me I'm rather antisocial or selfish.

Yep hate it too, both hosting and being hosted. Happy to have friends of the DCs over though to stay though, almost whenever!

Also hate it. MIL always kicks off about how we never stay with her but we're so much more comfortable in our own space so book a hotel. Can't stand sharing a bathroom with anyone other than DH and the kids. Especially when you come across rogue hairs from your in laws

Love it,we have a nice spare room and I like visitors BUT I sleep talk/shout/ scream which always makes me a bit nervous!

I agree with PP

The only thing worse than being a guest in someone else's house is having guests in your own.

I don't like people coming for a cup of tea even. I am very sociable when out and about, and have a job which means I have to engaged with lots of new people on a daily basis, so my home is my retreat.

"Have a guest every week or two, at least."

Omg! I'm glad that you enjoy it so much but that'd be my idea of hell. I usually have 2-3 visitors a year and that's 2-3 too many for my liking.

Providing they have enough room, genuinely want us there and I can communicate well with them then
It’s all good.

If they are tricky, wont say what they want/ mean or it’s cramped, I bloody hate it.

I only enjoy staying at my oldest friend’s house. Her home is large and comfy. I have my own bedroom there with an en-suite. She doesn’t give a shit what time I wake up or go to bed.

I hate hosting as I’m always afraid my guests are too hot, too cold, uncomfortable in our guest room. We only have one bathroom, so I’m always chasing my husband and children out so I might clean it.

It's hard when friends pop round for a coffee when you've got plans. Basically gritted teeth, drink coffee and sitting on edge until they leave. Totally my issue, not theirs but I think it comes from having so many areas of life that are scheduled (work meetings for example), that free time should be exactly that and not derailed for the sale of a coffee. I know this makes me sound shallow!

I hate having guests, but hate being a guest even more. I'll stay with my parents, but that's all.