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Woman arrested for asking husband to clean house

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SunsetBunny · 27/06/2019 07:51

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/wife-58-arrested-after-telling-17263541

Bloke made redundant & becomes obsessed with bodybuilding, steroids & viagra. Job centre staff noticed a change in his mood & the police were sent to his home! Wife ends up being arrested but apparently all she was guilty of was asking him to clean the house more!
So now if your partner gets fed up of your nagging be careful or you could end up in court. Ridiculous.

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Original poster
SunsetBunny · 27/06/2019 07:51

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/wife-58-arrested-after-telling-17263541

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MonkeyTrap · 27/06/2019 07:55

I suppose it’s right the police investigate an accusation like that. It’s the man that’s to blame for this.

frazzledasarock · 27/06/2019 07:59

Wonder what kind of key witness they had?

And MN threads where women complain they’ve got lazy partners always have people popping up saying the put upon wife should give their poor (very stupid) partners a list of chores to do as the poor things are clearly far to dumb to see for themselves that any housework needs to be done.

Peachesandcream14 · 27/06/2019 08:00

How utterly ridiculous, but also chilling that this lazy arse of a man got his wife arrested for asking him to do his share. That is not coercive control, if anything the bloke just going out to the gym and avoiding responsibilities is the one controlling the situation.

Lweji · 27/06/2019 08:00

Yes, don't nag. Just LTB.

BogglesGoggles · 27/06/2019 08:04

This was inevitable when they criminalised emotional abuse. Hurt feelings are the responsibility of the feeler and have no place in the law.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 27/06/2019 08:18

Thank goodness she's divorcing him.

longwayoff · 27/06/2019 08:27

Wait til the teens get going 'she asked me to clean my room/grounded me/ took my phone away . . . '. We'll all be in Holloway this time next year.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/06/2019 08:45

I thought the police had no money.Confused
We certainly live in a fabulous world if that's all they've got to do.Hmm

BustedDreams · 27/06/2019 08:54

He didn’t get his wife arrested ... the staff at the job centre did. Nonetheless they are getting divorced.

Fuckmyliferightnow · 27/06/2019 09:03

@BogglesGoggles what? Confused

ListenLinda · 27/06/2019 09:06

Best not let my DH read this! I’m always asking him to do more. Not that he bloody listens

bananasonfire · 27/06/2019 09:11

Gosh I'd best hide the hoover away - it might be triggering for dh. No more shopping for him in case he mistakenly wanders down the cleaning products aisle.

Yabbers · 27/06/2019 09:21

The story is scant on detail, but this is telling The CPS said: “We prosecute cases where there is sufficient evidence of coercive and controlling behaviour. In this case, after a key witness decided to no longer support the prosecution, we concluded there was no longer sufficient evidence.”

The CPS would not have brought the case on the basis of “she asked me to clean the house” His colleagues wouldn’t have called the police without serious concerns about him. I suspect there is a whole lot more to the story but the husband is playing it down, probably through embarrassment.

DogbertDogglesworth · 27/06/2019 09:30

The law applies to everyone. If they receive a report of a potential crime, they are duty bound to investigate, irrespective of who the victim is.

Yabbers · 27/06/2019 09:33

This from a different story about it Four police officers and two vans arrived to arrest the 4ft 10in tall woman and she was charged with 'coercive or controlling behaviour' towards her 16 stone husband. makes my blood run cold.

This is why men don’t report abuse. The snide undertone of “how could this small person possibly be controlling and abusive against a huge 16 stone man” The implication control is about physical strength, the thought its impossible for a big, strong man to be abused.

Whether or not this case was a good example of coercive control (although a wife saying “go on then, do it” to a husband threatening suicide seems to suggest it is) the reporting of it is really unhelpful to any man who is living with an abusive partner.

Soola · 27/06/2019 09:36

Great pictures of them both here

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7186111/Catterick-woman-58-arrested-controlling-behaviour-asking-husband-help-home.html

I never thought I’d see the day when a bit of hen packing would get you arrested!

Deadringer · 27/06/2019 10:02

So Yabbers that's what you take away from this incident, men not being able to report abuse. Not the fact that a woman was wrongly arrested for a nonsense 'crime', and police resources where wasted in the process. Wow.

Deadringer · 27/06/2019 10:03

I imagine the key witness is the husband.

Spanglyprincess1 · 27/06/2019 10:09

Ermm I don't think I like the tone of this. My dp is terrified and I do mean terrified of his 5 ft tall exw and he is 6ft.
He says she was abusive to him in their relationship. No access to any money, she had both and only joint account cards, screamed at every day for household tasks. Ringing 11 times in an hour if he was out demanding when he would be home.
Im.not saying its true or not as only the two people on a relationship would know really . But there may be more to this article that's what's on face value.....

Soola · 27/06/2019 10:29

Reading between the lines he’s mouthed off in a pathetic manner and embellished his wife asking him to get his finger out around the home into him cowering with fear from her and portrayed her as the wicked witch of the east.

It’s bitten him on the bum because he has been believed and reported to the police who acted upon it.

The lady looks small and cute and possibly is a bit of an old moaner but given that the alleged evidence is a few handwritten notes asking him to do some housework then it’s a ridiculous waste of police time and I’m glad it was thrown out of court.

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SunsetBunny · 27/06/2019 17:07

“The Crown Prosecution Service said the type of abuse covered by the new offence could include a pattern of threats, humiliation and intimidation or stopping someone from socialising, controlling their social media accounts, surveillance through apps and dictating what they wear.

Women's Aid describes it as behaviour designed to make a person dependent by isolating them from support, exploiting them, depriving them of independence and regulating their everyday behaviour.”

Based on the report/article I have no idea how someone came to the conclusion that this woman had committed an offence.
Do the police have trouble understanding the legislation?
Who was the witness I wonder. The person at the jobcentre who realised they’d been an interfering busybody?

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Ereshkigal · 27/06/2019 17:25

Do the police have trouble understanding the legislation?

As a victim of coercive control DV when younger I don't think they do understand it.

Thecrown3 · 27/06/2019 17:41

I would think the possible fact of taking steroids and viagra and probably all the stuff he was eating for bodybuilding changed his personality .... nobody in papers etc seemed to have picked up on that?! And if he worked at gym why was he at job centre?!?! Nothing makes complete sense in this story !

feelingverylazytoday · 27/06/2019 19:03

It doesn't make sense, but there is such a thing as mental and emotional abuse, and women can be as capable of it as men.

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