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Nobody ever stops to think if I'm ok

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Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:07

Nobody ever asks.
Nobody ever thinks to.
I'm not ok.
I've cried on and off all afternoon.
Tomorrow I'll go to work and I'll pretend everything is ok. I'm not ok.
I'm always there for others. Not a single person even gives me a second thought. I'm not sure how much more I can take.

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sausage1968 · 23/06/2019 18:09

big hug OP....reach out to someone close to you x x

Mummoomoocow · 23/06/2019 18:09

It sounds like you’re in a dark place, do you need to open up?

Sooooozie · 23/06/2019 18:09

Sorry love, that sounds tough.

Is there anyone irl who would listen if you told them that you're not ok and you need them? Sometimes people need a nudge.

Take care x

Original poster
Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:11

I don't have anyone to talk to.

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Mummoomoocow · 23/06/2019 18:12

You have me, a non-judgemental, no-consequence stranger. Let it out

sausage1968 · 23/06/2019 18:13

I'm here for you too...

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Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:20

Thank you for being so lovely. I don't know where to start but my life is beyond lonely and incredibly limited. Work is tough at the moment and the atmosphere is poor. Because I'm overly emotional at the moment that is affecting me more than it should. Every little thing is setting me off. I hold it together at work and get home and just cry on and off until I go to bed. I get up the next day for more of the same.

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Original poster
Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:20

I tried to reach out to an old colleague today and she just started telling me about her bad week. This is what seems to happen when I try.

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Babymamamama · 23/06/2019 18:21

Talk on here. People will listen. Or the Samaritans are a great listening ear.

BloodyhellMartha · 23/06/2019 18:21

Tell us what we can do. I can empathise with this - I'm always the one that everyone thinks, Oh Martha will cope. I'm tired of having to.

What has made you cry? Is there something specific or are you just feeling overwhelmed.

Babymamamama · 23/06/2019 18:22

It sounds like you’re hitting a really rough patch. Not fun.

QueenEnid · 23/06/2019 18:22

Do you want to tell us about it @Ofjoseph ?

Tell me what's on your mind...?

Massive hugs. Letting it all out helps. Doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense. Just let it all out xx

BloodyhellMartha · 23/06/2019 18:22

Have you seen the doctor?

Butterymuffin · 23/06/2019 18:25

I really do know how you feel OP. Flowers

Could you take a few days sick leave for breathing space?

What goes on in your life other than work? Do you have any family or friends? Any things you do in your spare time - or that you would like to?

Original poster
Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:25

Today it was an unpleasant passive aggressive text from a colleague that set me off. If I was feeling stronger it wouldn't have bothered me too much. I haven't seen a doctor.

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Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:28

I have family but we don't 'do' feelings in my family.
I don't have a partner and I can't have children.
I don't have friends really or not ones that are in this country anymore or live nearby.

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BloodyhellMartha · 23/06/2019 18:33

I'd be annoyed at a colleague texting on a Sunday - are they a friend or was it work related? Can you go see a doctor and tell them how you feel. It sounds like a course of anti depressants might help you feel more able to cope with life. I've had them in the past and they've really helped me feel less stressed and unable to cope. You say if I was feeling stronger it wouldn't have bothered me too much which sounds like you really feel low and could do with some help.

endofthelinefinally · 23/06/2019 18:33

Oh OP. I am so sorry.
I have found Mumsnet a wonderful support during some very dark days.
IMO your work place is not the best place to look for support.
There may be charities or support groups either on line or local to you that could help.
Do go and see your GP. They might be able to help.
Flowers

Mummoomoocow · 23/06/2019 18:37

Tell me about your workplace, what do you do?

Original poster
Ofjoseph · 23/06/2019 18:38

I'm a teacher.

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Mummoomoocow · 23/06/2019 18:40

Do you feel like every day has become the same thing or is it increasing in levels of shitness?

endofthelinefinally · 23/06/2019 18:43

Could your union point you towards some support?

TheLibraryIsOpen · 23/06/2019 18:44

This sounds exactly like me except I have grown up children. I wish I knew the answer. I will go into 'how was your weekend?' and I will say fine even though I have sat at home alone feeling miserable. I am a teacher too. If you want to pm me I will try to be supportive :)

elephantoverthehill · 23/06/2019 18:51

Ofjoseph I am a teacher too. We have these links posted on the weekly bulletin. I know that it sometimes feels that all you are doing is giving.
Staff Wellbeing – Help and Information

Education Support Partnership:

Free Helpline 08000 562 561

www.educationsupportpartnership.org.uk

Workload Management Tools DfE:

www.gov.uk/government/collections/workload-reduction-toolkit

DAS Counselling service Employee Assistance Programme

Free Telephone Counselling: 0344 893 9012

Jacksback · 23/06/2019 19:00

Sometimes you need to self care ,
Book a few days off , go and see a doctor , take a breather from it all ..
take care x