Are there any gay parents in your kids school?

[lapearle]

I’ve just been wondering. DS’s school is about 1500 people, and obviously I don’t know everyone, but due to my job, I’ve dealt with a huge chunk of the school. However, none, that I know of, are pupils with gay parents.

I was just wondering how common same sex families are? Perhaps it’s because I’m in ruralish scotland. I’d think it’d be more common in London or Edinburgh

Yes one gay couple in our small primary class.

But how would we know ?
There’s a teacher with two mums and in her class is a child with two mums but I only know that because that mum chats to me in the playground
It’s not really something you ask is it?

There’s me, no idea if there are anymore as you typically only see one parent at pickup. I have been asked on a date by one of the mums, so they probably don’t know 🤷🏽‍♂️

None.

I am also in the Middle East (UAE). In our school there are none (as far as anyone knows). Homosexuality is illegal here.

Yes

Why are so many people asking how they would know? Of course you don’t know everyone but surely over the years you get to know many, many families in your childrens’ schools. You see their names from class contact lists, your kids talk about so and so’s “mummies”, you go to play dates and meet the parents, you see them at assemblies and plays, you chat at coffee mornings and through all these things you become aware of many different types of family all living around you.

There is one child with 2 mum's in dd class at school. Fairly small deeply religious church school and it's never been an issue

No idea ,ds1_is at high school now so I don ,t see the parents ,ds2 goes to a special school,s d again I don't see parents as he's picked up and dropped off, unless people are open about their sexuality how would you know?

One couple that I’m aware of, they organise the local yearly ‘pride picnic’, probably more but I don’t know many of the parents and the way the classes are set up means on the school run you rarely meet parents beyond your child’s class or one class up and one class down.

Not really @LadyGardens I was friendly and polite when ds1 was at primary school and talked to a few parents but no I didn't really go out of my way to get to know them ,ds2 is at a special school so there are no pickups and drop offs

In nursery I knew of one and that was out of quite a small pool.

Large inner London primary. A few other parents know I'm bisexual but I haven't mentioned it to staff. I don't know of any kids with same sex parents but then many of them I know the parent who usually drops off the child. A lot of local families live with a granny /MIL/other auntie/a lodger/another family altogether so I would guess some of those are same sex relationships. I know there's a male teacher with a husband but he keeps it fairly quiet.

Yes and some teachers too

Not gay (I don't think) but a little girl at my daughters school has a transgender parent. The mum of the child was quite obviously a man previously. He has longish hair but is thinning on the top so it's a bit of combover job. She does stand out quite a lot, and was the victim of a lot of gossiping at sports day last week from some mums who had obviously not seen her before. I felt for the child, I've never seen any other parent with her, so I presume the mum has custody of the child.

@UAEMum

That's disgusting.

Not really LadyGardens - in general, when you see someone in assembly or at a fete or in the playground, it tends to be just one parent. I know nothing about the relationship status of the overwhelming majority of parents at any of my dcs' schools.

I don't know and don't care! To me it's just as weird as asking if you know who is straight and in a relationship.

Don't know, and in the kindest way possible I really don't care.

Someone else's sexual orientation is none of my business.

@Amibeingdaft81 DS goes to nursery in Israel. However, we live between here and the KSA.

A slight correction of a pp, though of course this is still completely unacceptable: being gay is not illegal in the UAE, rather engaging in homosexual acts is. Sadly, this means that while there are of course lgbtq+ couple in the region, who often live together, they cannot do so openly or have children.

Don’t think so, unless any of the reception ks1 parents are, I don’t know them so well. Small rural school, no one would even interested if parents were gay, but there happen not to be any.

At DD1's school there are 30 students in her year, and one has same-sex parents.

DD2 and DS1 - I know there are some same-sex parents at the schools (because we have a school directory that lists all parents) but I haven't got to know any of them in the 12 years my kids have been in the school system.

@Wittsendargh she must be the child's father then, no? As obviously a male person can't be a mother regardless of gender identity.

@HavelockVetinari I presume she is her dad, but the child calls her mummy. I have referred to her as a female as that is what she now is. You can just clearly tell she used to be male.

@sergeilavrov

In which case, how do you know a third of your school are gay?