be honest- how often do you shout at your DCs?

[beclev24]

I probably shout at one or other of my DCs about once every week or so. By shouting I don't mean long strings of expletives or whatever but losing my temper and snapping eg "STOP DOING THAT RIGHT NOW!" or similar when they are being annoying- (not counting when they are doing something actively dangerous like running into the road or something). My DC are pretty full on- 3 very active and boisterous boys. Am I more shouty or less than most parents?

Every day! I've just shouted at my youngest for faffing about making breakfast - this was angry shouting.

I shouted at one of others earlier as he let the cat in who had a bird in his mouth - this was catch the cat quickly shouting!

I shouted up at them to get up - I'm too lazy to go and gently waken them with sunshine and singing.

I'm not a morning person!

It's not really angry shouting most of the time. Apart from the other day when one thought the top of the freezer door was a good place to put a bottle that hit me in the face when I opened it. That was a string of expletives I can tell you!

I'm not a shouter at all, but I very frequently have to use THE VOICE, which is basically the same thing. Picture Barbara Woodhouse adressing a red setter - that is me adressing DS(4).

I just get tired of repeating myself and being patient, but I really need to use THE VOICE less, now that he's old enough to reason with.

I'm a quiet person and hardly ever shout. But when I do, my DDs certainly notice! The more you shout, the more they ignore!

Mine are teenagers and one has left home now and now? I hardly every shout. Can’t rmenee the last time.
However...
When they were little they were fucking challenging , my god. I just couldn’t cope with them at all. It was a misery. I was shouting Constantly life is so much better for all of us now

Every day - either getting ready for school or going to bed. 3 year old and 5 year old

iv shouted twice at my 2.5yr old daughter. But both times for safety reasons.

First was when she poked her 2 week old sister in the eye (after i had already given her into trouble for doing it and explained why we dont touch eyes)
and second time was taking her arms out the straps of her carseat when i was on the motorway.

So far its worked as she hasnt repeated the behaviour. But i still felt guilty seeing her wee face crumple and then repeatedly saying what happened and 'mummy shouted'

Probably around that with my own two when they were little, they don't seem to have suffered any lasting damage. I foster children now and I try to never shout as many of the children have come from chaotic backgrounds and shouting can be very scary for them, it doesn't mean I don't have boundaries or use a firm voice because I do, I just don't raise my voice to them (nor to DP, we try not to shout at each other either).

Very rarely now they're older (14 and 11) but I did shout at DS, 11, a few days ago because the cat peed in his shoes and he shouted "damn cat pissed in my shoes!!!" I mean, in fairness he was justified, but I don't want him using that language in front of me.

Until recently, every single day. Several times a day. I’ve been really down for years.

But my eldest’s behaviour has been in a tailspin. He’s miserable and can’t cope with/express his own feelings in a healthy way. I realised that was at least partly my fault for not modelling appropriate behaviour myself.

So i’ve made a massive concerted effort. We are all so so much happier.

I'm too lazy to go and gently waken them with sunshine and singing.

This has made my morning!

I would say every day. Mine are 5 and 2. Some days, yesterday for example, I did nothing but shout.

Every day. I have 5 though.

But i still felt guilty seeing her wee face crumple and then repeatedly saying what happened and 'mummy shouted’

Dd does this. I only shout if really necessary and she guilts me for days afterwards, it’s awful! She still reminds me of the time mummy shouted when she almost ran into the road

Most days. I only have 2 but my eldest has very selective hearing and is always making noise and only tends to listen if you are louder than whatever noise she is making. I don't shout angrily generally at all, but I do raise my voice most days.

Every day I have 5 ranging from 2-17

The 3 teenagers are always arguing. It can be as little as over who's stole who's charger ( even though they have one each) Or it can be more serious especially with two teenage DD's for instance they've stole each other's clothes or make up that's when I have to intervene and separate a punch up so shouting happened a lot then.

I shout at the dog Cos she's a little shit and chews everything.

My 2 year old is a danger to herself so gets shouted at too.

Today? Only 17 times so far

I try really hard not to.
I don’t like raised voices in the house and I want DCs to understand that it’s not a nice way to get your point across.
Having said that, I’m a human being. And after 5 times of asking them nicely to pick up the Lego from the floor and they are still blatantly ignoring me, I do sometimes shout. I admit, it’s a result of me losing my patience, and it’s not ok. But I’m also not going to sit and scold myself about being the most horrible mother in the world because I lost my temper for a split second and raised my voice.

Pretty much never
Just don’t believe in it. I’ve shouted at my children about twice
I’d rather talk
Even if it takes longer etc
But they are easy going easy kids so perhaps I don’t have as much need to

@MustardScreams

its terrible eh?

its been weeks and almost every day im hearing

'I don't touch eyes. Mummy shouted'

at least it was for something important lol.

Rarely here too. I hate being shouted at so imagine it's much worse for a child.

As an adult, I do not like being spoken to in an explanatory way. So I ask dd to do stuff and if I am cross I shout. I certainly don't bore her into submission with endless "but darling, just think that yadda fucking yadda". I am not a general shouter, but I'm fucked if I will bore her into submission with gentle chat.

I shout most mornings tbh.

I don't really shout. Never have. My mum is really shouty.

Sometimes I say to my guys that I will just scream, or they should, like Miss Hannigan from Annie. But we never do.

I think though that as long as there is love and trust you can get through everything together.

It feels like most days atm. I might start counting! I need an app.

As little as possible.
Mine are 9 14 and 21 and so I talk to them rather than shout if there's a situation etc.

I do shout however most mornings when dd 14 is STILL in bed an hour after I've started calling her or when her and dd 9 are bickering

The sniping and bickering at each other will get my back up pretty quickly to be honest.

The only other time I shout is when all 3 plus ds girlfriend are together and it's bedlam and I can't hear myself think
Chucking each other round,piggy backs,making stupid noises and singing as loud as they can. Actually the 21 yr olds the loudest

I have to shout over them to get their attention but I love the hustle and bustle when they're all together,just not too often