Do you ever refer to your boyfriend/partner as your husband even though you are not married?

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Do you ever refer to your boyfriend/partner as your husband even though you are not married?

DP and I have been together for 4 years. We’re engaged but I rarely refer to him as my Fiancé as I feel like it sounds pretentious.

I sometimes hear people who aren’t married referring to their other half as their husband. Just curious if anyone here does, and if so what’s your reason?

The only person I know who does this is a woman who was the OW for many years.

She also had a child with the cheating husband. She wore a wedding ring on her finger (even though her was still married to & living with his wife) because she didn't want to admit to people that the child was born out of wedlock (or that she was the type of person who shags other people's husbands).

The wife eventually found out, the husband now lives with his mistress but is happy to tell anyone who will listen that he will never get married again. The mistress/now partner still wears a "wedding" ring & introduces him as her DH.

Everyone who knows the true story thinks she's an idiot. He's still unfaithful & probably always will be.

I found out all about this at a party when I was introduced to her at a BBQ & she referred to her DH in the conversation. As soon as she went to top up her drink the other guests were desperate to tell me the whole story & how she wasn't married at all.

I'm not sure why you'd consistantly lie to a group of people who all know the truth.

No, I think 'husband' and 'fiancé' are both really stupid-sounding words. 'Fiancé' in particular reminds me of that gruesome scene in Four Weddings and a Funeral when Carrie goes through her gazillion sexual partners to show off to Hugh Grant and concludes the list with '... mon fiancé'. Urgh.

No I never refer to my 'fiancé' as my husband. I hate the word fiancé I just normally say my partner. Sometimes I even just say boyfriend. But if someone calls him my husband or me his wife I won't correct them.

No, never as he isnt my husband. I may refer to him as my partner but dont really like that word either

No, not sure why I would

I referred to Dh as my husband about 6 months before we were married and it just stuck. He's actually my husband now though 😂

No of course not. I don’t understand why a woman would do this. Or a man for that matter.

We’re engaged but I rarely refer to him as my Fiancé as I feel like it sounds pretentious.
So instead you pretend he is your Husband even though you are not married.

I just use his name. Even to people I/he doesn't know. I presume folk just know that I'm talking about my partner.

Never, I just call him my partner. I wouldn't bother correcting a passing acquaintance who thought we were married though and neither would he. Although I do threaten to divorce him (light-heartedly!) when he annoys me. We're together donkeys years and have a DC.

No. Because that’s incorrect.

Like calling myself a vegan even though I eat meat.

Or a Muslim even though I’m not religious.

Words mean things.

No

*I just use his name. Even to people I/he doesn't know. I presume folk just know that I'm talking about my partner.
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Meanwhile they're wondering if "Dave" is your brother, your son, your stepdad or your cat... 😂

No. I call him my partner.

No. There was a family we were friends with as kids whose parents weren’t married but they wore wedding rings and their kids (and everyone else) only found out much later that they weren’t. I suppose it was more of a taboo then but still can’t really see the point.

Lastchancefinaloffer no I never refer to him as my husband. I said I hear other people who aren’t married doing this.

Slomi I don’t correct people either. My Dr referred to DP as my husband earlier. I noticed that she corrected herself the second time when she called him my partner.

Hooferdoofer37 that sounds so cringey!

I am married and I don't often say "my husband" tbh it all makes me feel uncomfortable, maybe the ownership. Boyfriend or partner would be worse though.

I know someone who changed her name by deed poll so that she'd have the same surname as her partner, even though they're not married.

No but don't usually correct someone if they say 'your husband' to me in conversation.

My BF/DP refers to me as his wife sometimes when talking to strangers, I think just to give legitimacy to our relationship eg when complaining at a hotel etc “my wife wants to run a bath but there’s no plug”!

When we’re abroad and he’s trying to speak simply to someone who doesn’t speak great English it just seems easier than partner or girlfriend.

I find it a bit annoying - like he hasn’t earned the right to call me wife until he bloody marries me! He’s bought me valentines card with wife on too, I’d never dream of calling him husband and in fact correct people when they assume

Strangely though, he won’t say partner (maybe in case they think he’s gay?!) so always uses girlfriend or wife.

I used to say partner but when he doesn’t act like one I demote him to boyfriend!

I didn't do this, but I do refer to my brother's long-term girlfriend as my sister-in-law. I love her so much and she is such a key part of our family - "brother's girlfriend" just doesn't cut it!

I have done occasionally usually only to a passing stranger like when chatting to a cashier for example. It's just friendly small talk and makes no difference if I'm not entirely truthful to all and sundry about our married status.

I find it mildly irritating when people do that.
Same when men talk about their 'missus' when they aren't married as it's almost always to show how downtrodden and hen pecked they are e.g. I'd loved to have come gaming with you all day but the missus says we've got to sort the garden out.

I'm in the camp where words have meanings and people can't redefine them as they like and expect everyone to go along with it.

Been with my oh for 20 years and we are not married. I do not introduce him as this is my husband . However, if I'm phoning on his behalf to make an appointment I do say I'd like to make an appointment for my husband. After 20 years I feel he is more than my boyfriend.

No, I use the term partner. I don’t correct passing strangers though, just because it could cause them to be flustered at their mistake and it doesn’t really matter in those cases.

I do correct every single person who calls me Mrs Magmatic though. ‘I am a Ms. Mrs Magmatic is my mother’.

No, but I did when we have travelled to countries where unmarried couples aren't allowed to share hotel rooms.

I do refer to dp's family as in-laws.