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Do you ever refer to your boyfriend/partner as your husband even though you are not married?

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PerfectionistProcrastinator · 20/06/2019 17:25

Do you ever refer to your boyfriend/partner as your husband even though you are not married?

DP and I have been together for 4 years. We’re engaged but I rarely refer to him as my Fiancé as I feel like it sounds pretentious.

I sometimes hear people who aren’t married referring to their other half as their husband. Just curious if anyone here does, and if so what’s your reason?

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PerfectionistProcrastinator · 20/06/2019 19:39

I didn't do this, but I do refer to my brother's long-term girlfriend as my sister-in-law. I love her so much and she is such a key part of our family - "brother's girlfriend" just doesn't cut it! - That’s a good point. I refer to DP’s sister in law as my sister in law. I figure that it’s just easier and it’s when I’m talking to people who know DP and I aren’t yet married. I also refer to his Dad as my father in law sometimes.

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Bluntness100 · 20/06/2019 19:43

I don't think I've ever heard someone unmarried pretend they are married if I'm honest.

LillyLeaf · 20/06/2019 19:46

I refer to him as my partner but I don't really correct people that I don't know if they called him 'your husband'.

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Bwekfusth · 20/06/2019 21:19

I hate the word 'partner' and 'boyfriend' is cringey at the ages of 28 and 31 after 11 years and 2 children. I just use his name if I'm talking about him.

Bigbopboo · 20/06/2019 21:22

Together 13 years. Engaged 10 years. 2 children.

I don't call him my husband, but like other posters don't go out of way to correct people .

user27495824 · 20/06/2019 21:32

I never have done, but I do hate both partner and boyfriend. Partner sounds so formal and boyfriend too young. So I akwardly try to avoid using any and sometimes use his name to people who don't know him like a pp mentioned. I do however refer to his mum as my MIL online, and to aquaintances.

PCohle · 20/06/2019 21:44

I'd think it was bloody weird if someone did that. I can understand not making a big fuss to correct someone who made an incorrect assumption if it's not particularly relevant to the topic at hand though.

whatswithtodaytoday · 20/06/2019 21:52

No, that would be strange - he's not my husband. I wouldn't correct someone I didn't know who assumed though (e.g. workmen, call centre operators).

I do call his family my in laws. We're close and it makes more sense to people if you're telling a story to say 'my SIL' rather than 'my partner's brother's wife'.

TreacherousPissFlap · 20/06/2019 23:43

We live in a small, close knit village. Due to a series of boring circumstances DH and I have the same name, as does DS.

People naturally assumed we are married and TBH because we didn't jump on the situation immediately it's a trap we're stuck in. If the situation arises then I am honest, otherwise when people refer to DH as "your husband" I just concur.

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