For those who had a disappointing Mother's Day, what are you planning tomorrow?

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It occurred to me that most posts about disappointment on Mother's Day usually start with 'I always make a big effort' so I'm curious to ask the same people what you plan to do tomorrow?

I'm not judging by the way just genuinely curious as I'm sure 'do nothing' must seem mean and petty but at the same time I wouldn't be letting off any fireworks!

My own circumstances are pretty standard, nothing to either complain about or brag either. Cards, small gift, lie in. Day out maybe. DH will get the same.

I sent ex a card from DD which says

“Fathers day comes round more than you do”

I also wrote CUNT in massive letters inside.

Petty? Me? 😉

Pacifically that was incredibly childish of you

I bet it felt brilliant, well done!

Not gonna lie. I enjoyed myself

Chocolate (not expensive but a type he really likes) and cards from nursery from DDs.

Not great, but similar level of effort as is put into Mother’s Day.

Personally I’m not a fan of mothers or fathers days, i’d not bother at all but it seems a little churlish to refuse chocolates on mother’s day when DH has bought them (DC too young, he gives them to the DC to give to me) and the DC were very excited about showing me the cards they’d made which was sweet.
Hopefully they’ll be excited about showing DH their cards they made too!

DC's school PTA organises a pop up shop for mother's and father's days where they take £3.50 in and then can choose a present from an array of pound shop crap. They are always very excited to give us the present and it also saves us the bother of having to buy something for each other.

I guess what I'm saying is that there's no need to have massive expectations that might lead to disappointment.

Well I've gone really low key after getting another mug for Mother's Day (and a lovely thoughtful gift from my DS whose school has a pop up shop so I gave him some money to choose something).

But, today is my birthday and for the first time in about 8 years I've had some lovely presents that he has obviously thought about and spent money on so I'm feeling a bit shit and wondering whether to get an experience voucher or something to top up the chocolates

We have an unwritten rule in our house - whoever's day it is gets to decide what they want to do. So tomorrow we're off for breakfast and a nice coastal walk, then back home for a roast dinner and a film later on. Both our DFs are dead now so it's just DH to celebrate with.

DS has got a small gift for DH - we tend to do 'pocket money' gifts for Father and Mother's Day because it's supposed to be from the kids. And that's it. A nice relaxing family day.

Nothing... in the morning I'm going to have a root around in the kids bags for their cards they've made but thats it...

@Pacificallythespecific ouch!! I bet you wish you could see his face when he reads that beauty!

Mothers day was crap. 2 yr old and a DH who just said I didnt get a chance to get you anything. Not even a card . I cried I was very hurt. However I wouldnt do that to him regardless of how thoughtless he was. So hes getting a garden gnome and a card. Not sure what he will think of that but its better than what he got me.

Nothing... in the morning I'm going to have a root around in the kids bags for their cards they've made but thats it.

Exactly this.

And I do feel a bit bad about it, because for Mother’s Day dh got me a beautiful piece of jewellery.

On mother's Day I got a card (2 actually, 1 bought and 1 made at school) and a box of chocolates. Then I took DD out for the day, leaving DH at home (he was welcome to come, chose not to)

Tomorrow DH will get 3 cards (1 bought, 1 made at school and 1 made at Brownies) and a box of chocolates. He'll get a bit of a lie in as well, but then he's in charge of DD as I'm going away for a few days and will be leaving mid-morning.

We don't make a big deal of mothers or father's days. We're both quite happy with that level of effort, and would happily ignore them completely if DD wasn't keen to do something.

Just cards here said we wouldn’t do mother / Father’s Day gifts unless something made at school - we will have nicer than normal food DS chose bbq so DH will be cooking !!!

Got a card for mother's day, DH is getting a card (plus one dd made at nursery).

We spend about £25 plus a card. Gifts are chosen by DC with help from the other parent. This year DH & DC decided to get me flower bulbs. No soil or pot 😂

Err nothing as h didn't bother prompting my girls, but then they are adults (just) and could have bothered. He did buy me lunch on Mother's Day ... at McDonald's as we were on a duty care home visit (they still matter to me even if he wants to separate)

We're going for a pub lunch. Kids were very keen to buy him gifts...so we got him a t shirt, toiletries, chocolate and a card.

I got sod all for mothers day. My dc didn't even know it was mother's day and once they knew, they made me cards on the day.

I was fuming and still am (with him, not the kids obviously!) I told him I'm less than impressed. Apparently he has put mother's day in his calender for next year, he says he genuinely didn't realise it was mother's day...As if there weren't enough clues in the shops

I had a normal day of cooking, cleaning, laundry and doing everything for the dc on Mother's Day. I got a couple of gifts (socks and candles) and the stuff they made at school/nursery/scouts.

Tomorrow dh will get a lie in then the dc are going to help me make him a fry up. He'll have the stuff they made and They've got him some chocolates, haribos, we will renew his fishing license and I've made a little handprint thing with the baby which he probably won't appreciate 🤷‍♀️

A card each from dc, one from the dogs and brunch out at his favourite place

Then Dd and I will bake him his favourite cake.

@3boys genuine question, why make that much effort when he doesn't reciprocate?

I enough the ex some booze he loves and a nice mixer obo the kids, because it was within budget and what they wanted him to have.

I got a bottle of red wine on MD that my son got his granny to help with.

Am rising above the shitty attitude he shows...and son has remarked that I made a big effort for his dad.

I didn't know how to respond really, other than to say "I know dad likes the stuff and it's from you guys"

FFS

Mother’s Day is often around my birthday and this year (as every year) I got bollock all for both.

However, I am not a spiteful person and have made a peach cheesecake for Father’s Day (truthfully because I wanted to try the recipe out so I can do it for a party if it’s any good) and dd picked a card out this morning which I may have steered her towards the £1 ones rather than the £3.50 ones cos I am a teeny bit spiteful as it turns out but that’s it. DH is a miserable arse though so won’t care either way.

We were a little disappointed because Tesco had run out of Daddy Pig pyjamas, which they they had wanted to buy. So they chose chocolate and funny socks and a houseplant from each.

For Mother's Day dj arranged a card each from dc, some flowers and alcohol. He's getting cards, chocs and alcohol

A big fat nothing!! Well one child made a card at nursery so he can have that and maybe a coffee in the morning.

I got sick and tired of never getting anything, not even a card, despite reminders. I would be happy with just a card, or a promoted "drawing" (toddlers) and would be over the moon with a cheap bunch of tulips or something. But...nothing. So for the first time ever, he's getting nothing in return!!