For those who had a disappointing Mother's Day, what are you planning tomorrow?

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It occurred to me that most posts about disappointment on Mother's Day usually start with 'I always make a big effort' so I'm curious to ask the same people what you plan to do tomorrow?

I'm not judging by the way just genuinely curious as I'm sure 'do nothing' must seem mean and petty but at the same time I wouldn't be letting off any fireworks!

My own circumstances are pretty standard, nothing to either complain about or brag either. Cards, small gift, lie in. Day out maybe. DH will get the same.

Nothing not my job. Took DS to shops this morning he bought his father a teeshirt and a pair of shorts, the other two are married so no idea what they are doing. Not going out DS revising for A levels so will go out for lunch when he takes his final exam.

We don't make a huge deal out of mother's and father's Day.
I actually had a lovely mother's Day so maybe shouldn't be on this thread, with card and present (made in school) from DC, hugs in bed and a sort of lie in (with dc ) while Dh got breakfast ready. Neither of us expect proper gifts/a big fuss though on these days, so that was perfect.

Going to reciprocate tomorrow. Dd has already given her card, because she "couldn't wait" (she gets very excited about these things) but we'll just have a nice family day together tomorrow, and I'll cook a nice roast dinner.
I also stocked up on posh bacon and will do a cooked breakfast which dh isn't expecting, but no big gifts or anything.

@Hermano because I do things for people because I like to be nice without expecting anything in return.

I'm hardly going to a lot of effort.

always made so much more effort for fatgers day birthdays etc. didnt even get a card this year as OH was in a huff over money (he's unemployed i work)

He is getting sweet f all tomorrow & he probably thinks i'll get something for him anyway because i normally would but not anymore.

Oh my husband goes all out on mother's day. I truly don't expect anything, all I ask for is an hour at the park or something just the 4 of us but I get treated like a queen. Whether or not I was treated this way wouldn't affect how I approach fathers day. My husband is truly the most wonderful dad and its a day (although I find others say its just for money making) to show him how much we appreciate him. I go all out and make sure he has the lovely day he deserves.
In saying that I also go quite all out for my dad/stepdad/grandads too

I bought a card for dd to write for him. That will be it, she and he aren’t interested.
A shame, because I absolutely love celebrations, giving, eating out, mini breaks, jewellery and all the lovely very things I’d like to give and receive.

DH got a card in the post from his DD and we’re going out later for dinner with his DS and the grandchildren. We’re expecting twins and I’ve done nothing from them as it’s pretty obvious it’s only from me. As for Mother’s Day, I got nothing from his DC (I have in previous years) or from him - this is my first pregnancy with him and first to get beyond first trimester. Let’s see if things change next year.

Took him breakfast in bed plus a small goody bag of gifts (£10 total, we never spend more than that on these days).

Then he dashed off to football with DS1 at 8.30am, even though the football season has apparently finished They'll get back around lunchtime, having used up all their energy for the day & we'll either go for a walk or lounge around the house with the kids getting whingey.

I'd love to do more, but as always, football is his number 1 priority & dominates the day, as it does most days of most weekends. Kind of fed up with it but resigned to it

We are going out for the walk he wanted to do, I didn’t prebook any pubs so we are taking a packed lunch. Prebooking takes thought in advance and he can’t do that for me unless I throw a shitfit a month in advance so no nice pub lunch for him. I got a present for him from our son and we made him cards together.

@ems137 and @mumofone2818 well done! I hope they feel a shock too.

Sometimes “taking the high road” just means you’re still a mug and people keep taking advantage of you.

I really didn't want to get ex anything. We have a good relationship but he didn't even bother his arse getting DS a card for Mother's Day.

However. DS was excited and purely for him I printed out a picture of him to give to his dad and put in a cheap frame. He made a card at school too.

It's not about things is it, it's about acknowledgement. It's not hard to help a young child make a card or get them to draw a picture. I love celebrations and spent years making thoughtful gifts for ex from DS, not anymore.

Well! I dropped said cheesecake on the kitchen floor, so now he has the base and some remaniants - whoops.

Dh got socks, didn't bother buying a card and ds(15) is too old to make one . We dont make a big deal of mothers/fathers day so noone is ever disappointed!

Last Mother's Day I got a phone call from exp the night before asking what bottle of wine I drank. So on Mother's Day at 6.30pm I got said bottle in a Tesco bag , no card, no effort! But my DD gets so excited to give her DF gifts so it was his favourite chocolate and a little teddy. I couldn't let him think that he'd gotten away with his shit effort though so I sent him this

@JingsMahBucket normally I've relented at the last minute because I feel too guilty but this year, after nothing for valentines, Mother's Day or birthday he can fuck right off. He's already made a comment "I can't believe DS didn't get me a card (he's almost 2)" I said well, I didn't think you bothered with special occasions seeing as I never get anything.

It was my first mother's day this year and I got no acknowledge at all (didn't even get a lie in which was the only thing I asked DP for) despite me making a huge fuss over him when I was pregnant on Father's day last year. It felt petty to not get him anything so I picked up a card and a small pot of washable paint in the pound shop. Made a handprint from DD inside the card and signed it for him. Done. I'm making my peace with not doing much for each other on occasions (or doing anything in his case) although it does make me a little sad. I did get DP's father a lovely card and present from DD and DP was a bit put out but as I pointed out to him, DP's parents gave me a card and minded baby for an hour on mother's day for me so they get the effort returned

I’d be happy to just scrap Father’s Day and Mother’s Day. I know my kids love us and appreciate us, they tell us all through the year.

It’s dh that’s the problem, when the dcs were babies, he used it as an excuse to buy himself a ridiculously expensive presents, and now his expectations are way too high, including sulking because the dc(now early teens) would rather be out with their mates than sat at home with him even though he’s only got his face stuck in the computer, and ds3 (7) asked dh to play on the Xbox but he kept putting him off (I’ll play later) so now ds3 has given up and gone off to play elsewhere. 🙄