Fridge problems..

[Becca19962014]

Ok I'll preface this by saying I've also put it on threads I'm a regular on so apologies to anyone whose already read this. Secondly, I'm in a bad place mentally as my mental health support is ending and I found out last night that there's a letter on my medical file that prevents me accessing mental health care, at all. I was told previously I could.

So I'm in a state consequently about something that'll appear really stupid - my fridge.

I think my fridge might have broken. There's no way landlord can access to replace it due to severe clutter and rubbish (collection now once a month) and I can't bend down without collapsing and if it needs replacing I must pay for a new one (I can't get anywhere else to live as no guarantor, even social housing/ha here now require guarantor). It's hot here so food'll go off quick.

I thought maybe I'd left the door open after last thing last night (bad night hence ringing for crisis support) could it be that?? but nothing seems to be cold in there three hours later and defrosting.

I'm really really panicking now as I've no money to replace the food I just bought and can't afford new rent or cleaner.

Honestly I've just had enough.

Panicking and device really struggling to load MN now because of ads playing g al the time taking up all my mobile signal..

Might be the seal. Check it hasn't come loose anywhere. Wedge a chair against it to keep it firmly shut. Hopefully the temperature should go down inside if it's that.

Re your mental health. What support do you get now? Can you contact your CPN or support worker and tell them you feel like you are spiralling?

I think I'd left it open because I'm struggling so much with mh, it appears to be ok now, at least was this morning.

What little support there was is ending (short weekly contact). I can't take meds due to medical condition so I have to cope alone as that's all they do, even in a crisis, unfortunately.

Is the back of fridge away from the wall and unobstructed? How old is it? Could you clear enough space to go from door to fridge, closing other doors. Clutter and rubbish could be a fire hazard. Do you have an external bin to put sacks into? In some areas you can self refer for cbt etc.

I hope you'll forgive the list I need to go out, I'm not being rude!

It's where it's always been, I can't see back.
About 20 years.
No I can't clear space, like I said I lose consiousness if I bend over.
"Clutter" is part of mental health problem and is not as simple as just clearing as I need it.
Nowhere to put rubbish except by kerb on collection day.
There's no NHS services here except meds and mindfulness. I'd have to pay and as I can't afford rent and haven't paid bills in months private isn't an option, last time they wouldnt see me anyway as I was "too ill" and things much worse now.

Doors don't close properly as they don't fit and never have. Back door was broken by builders last year, if I want it fixed I just move out (still paying rent) for two weeks and can't afford to do that.

All help including crisis for mh stops in July as team decided, without meeting with me, I've no needs and they won't come and see me if I go to a&e or contact 111 and can't see GP either because they told them I'm fine as well. They just want rid as unhelpable and a blot on their stats as I'm going to end up ending my life anyway (though I've terminal illness so not necessarily true) there's no point in seeing me as waste of resources (their words not mine).

www.helpforhoarders.co.uk/resources/

Please don’t feel ashamed if your clutter has got out of control. You have a recognised problem that has taken over your mind.

Clearly the fridge is not the real issue, but could hopefully a catalyst for change. Why are you suddenly unable to afford rent and bills. Do you have any family or friends who could help you ? A 20 year old fridge is likely to fail and be uneconomical to repair.

Hoarding is NOT an issue here. I contacted those people before asked for help. SS turned up with a roll of bin bags and threw all my belongings away because I was stupid enough to ask for help. I lost everything. I won't allow anyone in now under any circumstances. It's all I have. I've nothing else, no money to pay for new blankets/towels or anything so must keep them in room to be reused. Identity got stolen after SS binned everything so must keep all statements and reciepts to prove what I've spent - I have to pay back what was stolen in my name after having no proof it wasn't me as everything was all binned. No one can be trusted about this.

I've no family or friends.

I must pay for all help, as my health/functioning has worsened and it costs a lot of money. E.g. No free transport anymore for hospital, must pay for it if on ESA/dla/PIP here now as cost NHS too much, there was a scheme for GP appointment travel but that ended as well. Incontience pads must be paid for (NHS only gives one a day and it's useless). Lot of things I need and must pay for basically.

SS assessment for direct payments ignored my expenses and said to go bankrupt to wipe all debts (which it turned out wouldn't happen anyway as the ID theft and student loan are protected debts) and my contribution was something like £55 a week. No chance. It wasn't going to cover everything either just a wash/change of clothes each week.

Have you spoken to Shelter regarding your accommodation issues and if there are repairs needed? There may be local volunteer drivers who could help with transport to medical appointments, your local Voluntary Services association could signpost you. Are there any charities which offer support for mh issues and could advocate for you?

Shelter said I needed to go see them but it's a six hour round trip to the appointment and I'm not able to do that. They needed me to take my lease as well which I don't have as they refuse to give me one as they want to remove me whenever they wish.

The local voluntary association were the ones who helped with organisations for transport before, but funding has been stopped for those under 55 as have most voluntary services unless mentally ill and under CMHT have now ceased here due to cuts. The advice given is apply for PIP and use that - I already have PIP.

Thankyou for the suggestions I appreciate you trying to help me.

Why have the mental health team signed you off? What was their documented reason?

Surely they cannot just leave you without any support whatsoever?
Where do you live? Are you quite rural?

Mindfulness didn't work for me. That's all they offer and the meds gave me seizures which I was told to put up with by cmht and told to stop by neurologist and the two argued about who was right about what was going on and in the end I was forced to stop the meds because I was so ill on them.

The documented reason was "failure to engage" so if I go to a&e I just get turned away as that's interpreted as me not wanting help as its on my medical file there and with GP.

I'm very rural.

Regarding very rural think no home delivery options and no broadband internet and one bar 3G mobile signal rural.

How old are you op? Do you live alone?

Trying to think about the best place for you to access some help. What conditions are you diagnosed with, if you don't mind me asking?

Hello Becca, we are really sorry to hear you are having such a frustrating time. Fingers crossed the fridge has righted itself by now, sometimes they can take a while to get going.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

I'm in my 40s. Yes I live alone.

I can't put all my conditions here as they're identifying, but the main ones are Ehlers danlos and autonomic dysfunction.

Fridge seems to be doing ok so far and I don't mind hopemumsnet I'm sorry if my post caused anyone concern. It wasn't my intention.

I am in a support group for both conditions.