What is the meaning of this

[prawnpatrol]

Somebody referred to me as a "yummy mummy" the other day because I am raising my DCs bilingual.
Their dad is English and I am from abroad so we are using our native tongues.
I am still about it and not entirely sure what this person meant as I though yummy mummy meant pretty and I think now that can't be (not only I am not pretty, that sentence wouldn't make sense in the context this person used it)

I am sad and feel judged but not sure if it means something good? Clutching at straws

If it is negative, why say something like that yet another reason for me to feel not wanted here

I'm no expert but I thought it meant a mummy who took care of their appearance.

Oh
Well that is definitely not me 😂😂🤭
Maybe she doesn't know what it means either then!!!!!

It could be a compliment (that you're focused on improving your child's knowledge), or it could be a dig (that you're performance parenting, rather full on). Who made the comment?

Where do you not feel wanted?

To explain better, it went like this "no, DCs are being raised bilingual"
"Oh, yes, you are another yummy mummy"
At work.

They’ve used the term incorrectly but overall I’d say it was meant as a compliment. They’re probably a little bit jealous, I know I would love to know more languages.

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‘another yummy mummy’? Do you know who else she was referring to, or was she just referring to them in general?

She definitely doesn’t know what it means anyway 😂

In the context you've just given, it looks more like an intended insult than a compliment to me

a) she doesn't know what it means. It does mean a mother who takes a lot of care of her appearance and/or is very attractive. Not saying that doesn't apply to you, but it definitely has nothing to do with raising a child bilingual!

b) she sounds like a bit of a bitch.

@NoBaggyPants the tone was not complimentary 😔
What is a performance parent?
I am just talking to my children in my language, their main language is English.

Someone from work. Wanted over here in the UK 😔

Sounds like they don't know what it means. Sure it wasn't a dig.

And if it was a dig, then they're a knob. No one should judge you for wanting the best for your child.

Maybe she meant Tiger Mummy, someone who tries to push their kids in lots of areas Inc education. ( Ps not my opinion of you, bilingual is amazing and I wish I could offer my kids this )

They’ve used the term incorrectly. Ignore, they are being idiots.

She used the phrase incorrectly but take no notice of her anyway. Your children will benefit from being bilingual, in any case, in your situation i.e. two languages, it is the natural, obvious thing to do.

Ohhh thank you all!!!
So she doesn't know what it means then!!! I am definitely not pretty and too tired to make an effort although I also think great if you are pretty and like taking care of your looks too!!

Well her loss then, no cake for her next time I bring

Of course a child should be able to speak the native language of both parents.

She's used the wrong term anyway. As others have said a yummy mummy is an attractive mother.

I would say she said it as a dog because she's a jealous bitch but she's just made herself look stupid in the process.

Maybe she meant Tiger Mummy,
Oh! No, not that one either, I am really easy going and my children are only little!

Haha I meant as a dig not a dog obviously

THANK YOU ALL ❤️❤️❤️
I feel so much better already
Thank you strangers from the internet

Fecking hell, it's your language. Why wouldn't you talk to your children in your language! How else are they meant to understand your background and talk to your extended family etc.
Crazy jealous lady. Yes she was trying (badly) to have a go. But she's mad. She falls strongly into the ignore camp.

I have never understood the phrase and you'll never hear it being said as a Yummy daddy.
It sounds like she's jealous envious I have no idea how it could be to do with languages teaching your DC both yours and they're dad's language is perfect common sense when the family is bilingual.

I wonder what have reaction you would have got telling parents they were yummy mummies and yummy daddy's when they were trying to get kids to learn Latin a few decades ago

Yummy mummy can be used as a bit of a dig where I'm from. It's like you've got idea above you station. It's just by folk who are generally either a bit jealous or just a bit arseholey

Where I am it will (incredibly stereotypically) involve:

A detached house
Fancy pram
Middle class child's name
An Audi or something of the same ilk
Lots of extra curricular activities for kids from birth

I've usually taken a yummy mummy to be a wealthy stay at home mum.

Since they are wealthy they can afford all the best clothes and also concentrate on looking good.

As others have said, your colleague was being rude but raising your DC bilingually is exactly the thing to do. My DH was born abroad and we do the same thing with each of us speaking our native language to our DC at home.

They took a little longer to start talking (they were learning two languages) but they now speak both languages easily and fluently.

Where I live there are lots of families able to bring their children up bilingual; I have always been a teeny bit jealous, not being in a position to do so ourselves.

I thought a 'yummy mummy' was a mother who was charming, nice, attractive.and cuddly.