If you earn £80k or more, what do you do?

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Following on from another thread.

Partly because I'm nosey and partly because I'd love a career change but I'm the breadwinner so would still need to earn £££ to keep our current lifestyle.

I think we may decide in time to dial the lifestyle down so I don't have to work in a job I hate but for now debt means that's impossible.

So what do those on here who are high earners (£80k+) do?

Another project director here, work in the city, buy side.

Bring in 10x what my husband does which he loves. It used to be the other way around so like to think it all evens out in the end.

Sometimes I like it, sometimes I don’t. Hours can be long, but usually manageable.

Not bringing you any new ideas for careers here, though, sorry OP!

110k FTE but I work 3 days. TBF I work very long days on the days I work - certainly not 9-5 and work a couple of hours most weekends.
Worth it though to have this work life balance. Husband is FT on 90k with very flexible hours. He has in the past been part time and SAHD to further my career.
Can't be too specific about what I do as it's outing but very senior in communications

My OH worked in investment banking and earns over £80k, but 100 hour weeks are normal

I do, hospital consultant...
Long hours during training but very rewarding career.
DH is a hospital consultant too.. was really tough when both of us were junior doctors, when the children were young.

Why is it depressing with all the 'not me but my DH' comments?

Personally I find it pretty depressing that so many women feel the need to prove they can be the big 'I am' earner, pop out two kids and then farm them out to the expensive nanny (only spending time with them at weekends spending vast amounts of money on them to make up for never seeing them)

But hey, there you go!

I do. Senior management (Exec level) in small biotech that discovers new cancer drugs. It took a PhD and 20 years experience to get to that level though.

Personally I find it pretty depressing that so many women feel the need to prove they can be the big 'I am' earner, pop out two kids and then farm them out to the expensive nanny (only spending time with them at weekends spending vast amounts of money on them to make up for never seeing them)

I have 3 kids, have never had a nanny (or au pair) and spend plenty of time with them, thanks for asking.

@CoastalWave

Personally I find it pretty depressing that so many women feel the need to prove they can be the big 'I am' earner, pop out two kids and then farm them out to the expensive nanny (only spending time with them at weekends spending vast amounts of money on them to make up for never seeing them)

Nastiness.

Personally I find it pretty depressing that so many women feel the need to prove they can be the big 'I am' earner, pop out two kids and then farm them out to the expensive nanny (only spending time with them at weekends spending vast amounts of money on them to make up for never seeing them)

How judgemental

I earn about £140k for 4 day week and the same again in bonuses. Company Secretary/Risk and compliance for a FTSE100 business. Have 2 kids in primary school, no nanny, me and DH split all the drop offs/pick ups. He has a similar high earning job and also works 4 days a week

It is just so apparent why we have a gender pay gap in this country when you read these threads. The number of women who sacrifice their education and careers to support a high earning DH who no doubt has no involvement in their kids upbringing. I’d rather show my kids that parenting is a joint effort and that women can and do have satisfying careers just as much as men.

I do - £105k in property, late 30s - adore my job and have a great work/life balance

This is a fascinating thread. I am PT but on about £53k pro rata and managed to maintain my seniority after mat leave. I work in the media. I'm thinking about what next. Most of these roles are irrelevant to my experience but it has made me think harder about what forms consulting can take....
Following with interest!

I do. Barrister.

Personally I find it pretty depressing that so many women feel the need to prove they can be the big 'I am' earner, pop out two kids and then farm them out to the expensive nanny (only spending time with them at weekends spending vast amounts of money on them to make up for never seeing them)

Would you write the same thing about a man? Somehow I doubt it. Why is it acceptable to some MN posters that men have a well paid career but when a woman has a well paid career, the snide comments about "farming the kids out to nannies" starts? Dreadful attitude.

Self employed IT contractor working in the financial sector.

Also - (to the ignorant PP) I have never had a nanny, spend more than enough time with DC and my child wants to follow me into this profession.

I am married. DH is also a higher earner and also spends an equal amount of time with DC. He is a wonderful father.

What I find depressing is the value that is attributed to jobs. Doctors are reasonably well paid but in NHS not that well compared to private or for intelligence and years of training.
High paid tends to be in financial industry and private industry rather than caring industries and social jobs for the good of humankind.

I don’t find that depressing. It’s good that the top doctors stay here and do both NHS and private. We have some of the best care in the world. People pay a lot to travel to use it.

I would, if I worked five days a week, even if I worked just school hours and took 25 days' holiday. However, I usually only work three days a week, and not much in school holidays. Mine's a bit outing as it's quite niche, but I have a background in corporate law.

I do Independent Financial Adviser , self employed , work from home, 4 days a week circa 140k income

I do (Pharma). £80k is pretty standard in pharma sales (I’m not in Sales). I’m old though so it may be different for you depending on your age. Lots of money to be made in bio-tech too. Look on the Pharmajobs website and see if your skills would allow you a sideways move into that field. Could you tell us a little more about your role?

Starryskiesinthesky a lot of doctors will have a side gig as well as their nhs job. Some I know have several.

@Coastalwave - 15 hours per week here. Not all high paying work sucks up all your time and energy.

@CoastalWave Either my husband or me drop our children to school every single day.

They are picked up by a parent at 3.30pm 3/5 days a week and go to after school club 2 days a week.

There has been a parent ( often two ) at every single assembly, play and concert that my children have ever had.

We work incredibly hard to balance fulfilling careers and our children's needs despite earning good salaries

Jesus Christ, it's depressing how many women on here are like, "not me, but DH". FFS.

BlueBrushing, but that’s reality for a lot of women. Their Hs haven’t taken a career break so are more likely to earn good money to look after their family.

I have a good job but not in a money-making sector like my dh. So what? What does it matter who earns the money so long as one parent is around to look after the dc? Different things work for different families. I wanted to be a SAHM for my dc.

Ps DH earns 150k as an IFA.

IT. 200k+