Should spouse stay home if SAHP is ill?

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Talking with friend today and she’s very ill with flu (real flu! She sounds awful)
She’s got 2 under 4 and couldn’t even string together a sentence.
She’s asked her husband to take the day off work to watch them tomorrow. He’s refused as he is not ill himself and she needs to suck it up. She has no one else to ask.
He works in sales so it’s not a life saving job.

So what do you think? should he take the day off or should she suck it up?

I had proper flu a few years ago, I was very ill indeed and my DH took over parenting duties even though our youngest DD also had it, it took me longer to recover. I could barely crawl to the toilet. I was so ill I didn't even look at my phone/send a text/answer any messages for an entire week - in fact if someone had come in and told me they were going to shoot me, I really wouldn't have cared. If your friend has got proper flu then her DH should definitely take time off because she won't be in a fit state to be looking after small children.

We had this when DD was 7 months and I had norovirus. I physically couldn't move from the bathroom because I was non stop vomiting. He couldn't see why he had to stay home to look after our baby he eventually came home at lunch after I begged him and told him it wasnt safe for DD, but he worked from home and didn't really lift a finger.

I love him and its done now but it'll take me a while to get over that- it became very clear to me that he sees DD as my responsibility, rather than as a joint undertaking. Bit of an eye opener. I'm sure it will be for your poor friend too.

If it was proper flu then he should have taken the time off work to watch the DC. I had proper flu earlier this year and I have never felt so ill. I literally could not keep my eyes open and hardly had the energy to talk and I was slurring my words too.

I was really ill for around a week, then took another week to fully recover. I am self employed, so no work no pay, so believe me if I say flu is bad enough to knock you off your feet.

I am lucky that DD is 11yo and could fend for herself but I said to my Mum at the time, if she had been a toddler there is no way that I would have been able to look after her.

YANBU and her DH is a twat.