Would you let your 14yr old...

[Danceswithlightning]

...stay at their bf/gf of the same age's house? Even if they said they would be in different rooms?

No

Hmmm. Depends how well I knew the BF/GF’s parents. If I knew them and thought they would mange the situation well I would in some circumstances - like where it was practical. Otherwise, no.

Nope

Nope. Would be naive to believe they would actually sleep separately

No

No. Absolutely no need to ever stay over in my opinion.

Nope, definitely not.

Nope!!

Absolutely not!

I can honestly say none of mine even had boyfriend/girlfriend relationships on that scale at 14.

I have a 14yo DS. Answer to OP's Q is probably yes.

Mine is fairly intrigued by girls but not truly interested yet.
I would have a chat with other parent.

No
I had Dd1 at 15.
My parents would have never allowed me to stay over yet I still ended up pregnant.

I won't allow DD14 to go to his flat in daytime unless his mums there and even then I'm pretty unhappy about it.

No.

My parents let me stay at my boyfriend's house when I was 14. It didn't take us long before I was sneaking into his room and having sex. I still have some resentment towards my parents for letting me stay there.

No. Dd js14 and o wouldn’t allow it. Ds2 is 16 and has been with his gf 4 years and he sleeps at hers

If the parents were going to be there, yes, I would. Realistically if kids are at the stage where they believe they are ready to have sex, then they won't be deterred by parents prohibiting it, and it's more important to me to have an honest, trusting dialogue where they aren't hiding things from me and don't automatically tune out when I try to contribute my views to their decision-making.

My 16yo has been with his girlfriend for a year and she stays overnight in his room occasionally. I know they've already done it, they used contraception and they've since agreed between them not to do it again for the time being because they're both shit-scared of unwanted pregnancy. I doubt I would know all of that if I'd taken the stance of "not under my roof!". I wish it hadn't happened until he was a bit older. I worry about such a serious relationship at their age. But it is what it is, and I don't think an authoritarian response would have changed that....I may be wrong, in which case I'll be back here in tears saying "help, my ds has got his girlfriend pregnant"

Absolutely not.

No, I’m quite a liberal parent, but I put quite a lot of effort into making sure my dd almost 15 isn’t alone with her bf.
They are in love and do a lot of sports training together, hang out at ours ( with her bedroom door open) do baking and stuff . I try to contain it on that level.
I’ve talked it through with her and told her I think she’s too young.

I well rennet being a teen, and temptation is too much.

*remember, not bloody rennet!

It depends. Mine had group sleepovers at that age and nothing happened. Now they are all in their 20's and no pregnancies.

Not a chance. I don't think 14 yos should have bfs/gfs at all, never mind ones staying over. Haven't they got anything more interesting to do?

My DC are over 14, and IME they sometimes do actually want you to say no, even if they make out that they don't.

My DS is 16, 17 in very early September. He has his very first GF who is about the same age/month. I know they have embarked on a sexual relationship as i talked to him about it and bought him condoms. He is v mature for hs age and it wasn't embarrassing in the slightest. His GF comes over i the afternoons to revise, listen to music, chat etc and i should imagine from the closed door and silence that they are having sex. I would let her stay the night, but haven't met her parents yet and so I would say no at the moment until i ok it with them.

Categorically no. My dd is not even near the bf stage, so not even a thing for me yet, but the stuff I got up to at 13/14 means I would absolutely not put her in that situation.

@BigusBumus
So you'd ask your son's girlfriend's parents before you'd let her stay over, but you haven't had a conversation with the parents about them having sex at your house? Do you think her parents are aware that she's having sex with your son?

@BlackCatsRock same story here - no way would I let my DD.