Would you let your 14yr old...

[Danceswithlightning]

...stay at their bf/gf of the same age's house? Even if they said they would be in different rooms?

BlackCatsRock. I'm pretty sure they know as my son told me that she had talked to them and is about to go and get an implant. But also they are both nearly 17, having sex legally and it's not actually up to me or her parents to decide if they should or not. I am very pleased my son talks to be openly about it.

No

Thanks for all the replies I'm glad I wasnt over reacting saying no. I never had a boyfriend or had never even kissed anyone until I was 19 so dont know what is normal. I'm the dd of a teenage mum so very aware of what can happen.

I don’t have a teen daughter and my son is too young, but wouldn’t it depend on the awareness and maturity of the individual?

Saying they’ll be in different rooms truly sounds like a little embellishment in the story for parents to agree to imo. I’d like to think when my son reaches the age that I would have communication with the bf/gfs parents before he gets to asking these questions so I can fact check

If he was a girl I would be just as serious in making sure she was mature enough and understands how to say no and how to protect herself from herself...

@BigusBumus
Yes, I hope my son will be open and honest with me when he gets to that age. And I understand what you're saying about it being legal. I just can't understand why you won't let her stay over until you've discussed it with them seeing as both sets of parents are aware they are having sex.

No sodding way!!!

No way. They are far too young for that. Regardless if it's separate rooms and the parents are there.

We have a 13 year old and I know that at 14 he will be capable of having sex.
It's a slippery slope to let him do a sleep over.
The answer would be no you can't. I personally would want to start something I'll regret. I also don't want girls sleeping over in my house at all.

I know this sounds odd but you are certain it’s a gf. I say this because I went to stay with a male friend who was absolutely not my bf at 16 and it became clear after about 24 hours that his parents had assumed we were going out. The next time I stayed they were 100% more relaxed about where I was when...

And at 14 it would, for me, depend if I knew the parents.

No way. Time for the parents to be responsible.

No.

None of mine had romantic relationships at that age. I actively discouraged that sort of focus.

Hell no!

Yes I did, but after discussing the obvious with his parents in front of both of them, the ground rules were out there for everyone. Also, he has 2 brothers and he had to sleep in with them, and they would grass on them!

Nope.

No

No

Another one here who used to be allowed to stay over with a BF when I was 14 (he was same age). There was no sex but lots of other shenanigans.

I used to sleep in his sisters room and sneak in when everyone was asleep. Got away with it for ages until I fell asleep in bed with him once. To be fair his mum went mad, told my mum and the sleepovers stopped!!!

No chance.

No, because I think it's too young to be sexually active and DD (14) is definitely interested - it wouldn't be long before they'd be sleeping together.

I hope DD will wait a while, but it's legal at 15 here (with a similar-aged partner) so I won't be able to do much if she doesn't.

Sorry meant to say that given my experience, my answer would be a massive no!!

Probably would at that age it didn't matter the location we would have sex anywhere parks school whatever it happened. I wasn't allowed to stay over at a boyfriends until I was 17 but by then I was more than sexually active and it didn't phase me at all.

No.

I am so glad my DS is now 18 & we have managed to avoid all these sorts of situations. .

No

Nope!

I wasn’t allowed stay over with my now dh until I was 18 and finished school, even then it was a contentious issue with my parents. He was allowed stay in ours but in separate beds (my parents house so we never broke that rule!)

He was eventually allowed stay in my bed once I’d finished uni at 22. And we’d been together since I was 17.

14 is way too young!

Yeah. Nah.