I'm very good at recognising red flag behaviours early on in relationships. My own, friends and even on the TV in soaps etc. Plenty of experience working with victims of DV and part of my current role is delivering intimate partner violence courses to perpetrators of D.V.
I notice the amount of women who brush aside emotionally manipulative behaviour of 'oh it's normal' and 'i like that he wants to look after me"
That a surprising amount of my service users (offenders) go to the same gym as staff, the same shops etc.
That a some request to get someone a drink isn't always simple. I'm the kind of person who would automatically go to make a drink and have had to make a conscious effort to change.
In a previous life (DWP)
How much petty small minded knobs there are (people maliciously reporting disability fraud that could ruin someone's life)
That people can be so blatant! Photo of wedding on FB with dress and all, engagement happy selfies, tan line where ring was - yet you've never ever met your husband of 6months!
That for all the shit reputation DWP staff have they actually deal with a lot. I always thought they took home loads of money each month and were rich. 19k pa to get abused over the phone.
That the general public think screaming at someone on the end of the phone and demanding how they sleep at night, will make people break rules and give out cash hand over fist.
In a previous previous life (Tesco checkouts,)
Lots of people view checkouts as a convenient place to leave their tantrumming toddler and trolley whkle they leisurely pick up another 50billion things.
No cause and effect. Yea we have no milk in the store. Because people like you have bought 20litres of it as the first snowflake.
People don't like taking a cashier's word for it - call the manager to check that for the 20th time my voucher is expired
That many customers are actually lovely. Especially elderly people who like a bit of a chat and really appreciate it when you go slow and don't rush them. Or hassled parents grateful to you packing their shop and letting toddler take a bunch of tokens