How much would you be willing to pay for a hen due?

[Moofreemum1]

Just that really? An abroad due due? For 3 nights. This is for an old friends hen due, not entirely sure I can afford it but wanted to see what other people were willing to pay?

I know I'm boring but I hate it when people are pressured to spend a lot on these expensive hen and stag things. It may be reasonable value but friendship shouldn't demand these things of you.

Just say no, clearly and early on.

The only exception in my mind is if you have got married and expected your friends to stump up for an exotic hen do in your honour. In that case I think you have a bit of a moral obligation to return the favour if you can.

the max I'd pay would be a meal out.

You can’t afford it so don’t go. It’ pretty common for a few not to be able to attend. Tell the bride you’ll take her for a night out/high tea or whatever as you can’t make it “but would love to go” (cough, cough).

I wouldn't go abroad for 3 nights as I have a toddler and wouldn't want to leave him for that long.

I have been on an abroad hen do a few years ago for a close friend. I can't remember how much it was, a few hundred.

Didn't enjoy it all that much and I love holidays but group holidays of forced merriment are not my kind of thing.

Would much rather a nice meal and cocktails or even a party in a house.

I paid train fare, taxis and hotel, food, drinks and entertainment for Friday to Sunday.

I paid a lot more than I budgeted for. It was over £500 and I still had the wedding costs to cough up for. It was too much drinking and non-stop fun. I found it too long and too much.

I have with a bf but we had 6 years notice and I wanted to go away with my friends and my kids were older. Accommodation and flights cost £350 for five nights half board and I spent £300 on clubs wine etc.

For that much money you could go on an all inclusive with your child and have spending money for a week. Only go if You really want to.

I'm going on one for 3 nights that's is costing more than 300. Then there are extras like entry into clubs. Whole thing is likely to cost about 700.

@Deafdonkey 6 years notice?

6 years?!

I wouldn't be interested in going to a hen party overseas fullstop.

If I was in your position, it would be a double no as surely you would much prefer to take your son on holiday over a boozy girls three day break.

Just tell her it is way too much for your budget sadly, have a lovely time and you can celebrate with a few drinks when she comes back.

Take your dc away instead for a week x

Personally I wouldn't want to spend over £150 on anyones hen do. However close we are.

So that would mean not going abroad, but for me using more than £150 of our family money (saving for something special and very much needed) on a hen party would feel wrong. I soo love the hen dos that consist of a meal, few drinks in a bar and on to a club. In the same city we live in (London) soo much more enjoyable.

I've been abroad for loads of hen dos and had some of the best laughs of my life. However, I've also turned down some trips when money's been a bit tight and it was fine. With my group of mates it's always a case of "going abroad, absolutely no pressure but would love you to come". Good mates shouldn't pressure people to fork out to go abroad.

For a close friend or family £200. For anyone less close than that I wouldn't go

Just say no (politely), I could afford that but would absolutely hate it and would have no hesitation in politely declining the invitation. Although I think I have only ever been invited to one hen do in my life and that was a meal in the local Beefeater .

I'm going to one but not abroad. It has stealth cost me about £300, with the MOH emailing throughout the past year asking for more cash. It was supposed to be a cheap weekend.

I hope I never go on another. I think they're shit and I'd rather have a holiday with my family. Expensive, the expectation to drink to excess and enforced jollity. No thanks.

I just went for a pizza and to the pub with friends for mine. I much prefer that.

I nearly went to one about three years ago, bride mentioned she had 50 people definitely going, as soon as the price was announced this number plummeted. The problem then was the original price had included discounts for a large number so the cost went up for ones who were still keen on going. It was cancelled in the end.

@crustycrab @denimjacket yes 😂. My best friends now hubby proposed on the bathroom floor when she found out she was unexpectedly pregnant. She wanted the baby to remember the day so they booked a day five years in advance. Ended up being six years as they quickly decided to have another. She had her dd as flower girl and ds as page boy and was pleased she waited. Also had a fab hen where loads of her friends went as she was last of our friends to get married and we all used to transfer a fiver a month then just had to find spends. Was a bloody good holiday