How much would you be willing to pay for a hen due?

[Moofreemum1]

Just that really? An abroad due due? For 3 nights. This is for an old friends hen due, not entirely sure I can afford it but wanted to see what other people were willing to pay?

Hi op, I suppose it depends how much you want to go. I recently organised a hen weekend (2 nights) in the UK and I stupidly thought I'd be able to get the costs down lots but in reality it isn't easy with a big group. It cost us around £200 each for 2 nights accommodation, 2 main activities, and all meals (tea, breakfasts, snacks and alcohol etc...) then people had to buy their own meal out and any drinks out. It's really not easy. If people couldn't come then the bride understood.

Could you see if you can find yourself some cheaper flights?

Is the bride paying for herself, did the organiser find something you all fancied?
You've not said childcare will be a problem.

There is the wedding itself to take into account - outfit, incl. hair appointment/nails, and gift, perhaps travel and accommodation - so I wouldn't be happy to shell out £££s on a hen do, as well as taking the time off work, unless I could afford everything comfortably.

It’s lovely be invited, and you can decline.

If you don't want to go (including not wanting to spend that amount of money) then just politely decline.

I actually don’t mind hen dos abroad when I feel like I have the option to say no (which I’d say I generally have felt I can!). Only ever accepted a couple for places I’ve wanted to go to and have thoroughly enjoyed. I think we automatically want to say no sometimes because it feels like you’re simply indulging a bride.

I find it harder when I’m being asked to pay £300 to spend two nights somewhere in this country, people don’t seem to be so willing to accept no as an answer. Almost like they’ve done everyone a favour by NOT having it abroad.

I’d say if you fancy going, use it as an excuse for a girls weekend. If you would rather spend the money on a week away with your son, then politely decline.

I wouldn't pay to go abroad for a hen do. We rarely have holidays abroad as a family, last one was 6 years ago, so I wouldn't be wasting money on a holiday for myself but leave my children at home. I'd much rather spend the money on a family holiday.

I wouldn't go abroad for a hen do. I'm not sure I would even do an overnight stay. Afternoon activity or evening out somewhere local but I wouldn't pay more than £100.

I don’t think £300 is a lot for what you have quoted, but I wouldn’t pay that much for a hen do as I would prefer to spend £300 on something with my family or something that I actually have a choice in what we are doing (eg my group of friends often have spa weekends, but I have an input into which spa/when we go etc, I doubt you will get this choice as it will all be about the bride - fair enough it is her hen weekend).
So, I wouldn’t go.

£1.50 for a card saying thanks for the invite but I’m unable to go and hope you have a lovely time xxx

I wouldn't go abroad, I would put that money toward a holiday for me and DH to be honest. A nice meal out and drinks are fine or at a stretch an activity day or spa day, but not much more than that

I wouldn't waste £300 unless it was for my best friend, sister or SIL etc!! Rather take DC for a nice weekend away in the UK xx

I wouldn't go abroad. Actually, the cost of a night out is all I'm prepared to pay for a hen do. So, about £100 or so. And a night out.

Tbh, £300 doesn’t sound too bad for flights and three nights accomadation abroad. However, all the extras - food, transport, drinks, etc will add up and could double the price.

I would decline before you are committed. Organisers should bever expect people to commit without quoting a price first.

However, in answer to you original question, I would probably expect to pay between £50-100, depending on whether it’s just a meal, or meal plus theatre/club/activity etc. I wouldn’t go abroad for three days.

Just decline the invitation OP, I'm sure everyone will understand. I live in Scotland and once had a hen do in Scotland and it cost £300! 5 years later I'm still annoyed with myself for not just saying no!

Not a chance! I had a meal in a pub for mine and that was plenty of fun. I certainly wouldn't waste loads of cash going abroad just to get pissed.

How much I'd be willing to pay would vary depending on my relationship with the hen, the cost etc. Certainly in your position I'd be saying no.

It would be a no from me. I might agree if I was for a sister, but otherwise I would politely refuse.

If you're worried about costs then just don't go, as once you're committed then there will be additional costs for contributions to outfits and paying for B2B. Be very clear that you're not going - but be polite- so that no one books or works out costs with you included.

Ugh, no. Never seen the point of going abroad with a bunch of girls , staying in a dingy hotel and drinking too much. My idea of hell.

A nice party nearby, maybe.

I’d be happy with a three day session abroad to come in under £500. And I can afford it and would happily go. You don’t get much opportunity as women to go on escapades and have unusual shared experiences with women in groups like that and without exception, I’ve always made the best memories on trips like that. Such a laugh.

But for a one day and night thing I’d expect £150 ish to include dinner, overnight and activities.

I think I’d rather poke my eyes out with a rusty bread knife. Three nights is too long, too expensive and a recipe for conflict. Nothing joyful about the idea at all.

I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t presume all my invitees would have or indeed wish to spend ££ or devote a whole weekend / whatever to me

I’m an old grump and just won’t go to a hen do abroad. I’ll happily go on a night out, even join some (usually stupid) activity.
The most outrageous hen do I’ve ever been invited to was 5 nights in one of the Spanish party hells, £1500 all thrown in. No thank you. The bride to be cheerfully announced she would also be holding a local hen do when they’re back. Seriously?
Also, I’m way too old to enjoy 3 days and nights (or more) of heavy drinking and I simply cannot be arsed with it. And at every away hen do I’ve been to, there’s always been some drama. ALWAYS. But that could just be my luck.

There's no way I could afford this. Currently my budget would be 30£ tops, an embarrassment by most quotes on here. Glad I'm past this stage.

If I was in your situation I would decline-and especially as unfortunately, the bride to be doesn’t value your friendship as much as you thought.