Help me feel better about being a drunk idiot

[Honeybee27]

Went to a wedding of one of my husbands colleagues on Friday. I have to say that we have known them and many of the other work guests in a social sense for several years and would class them as friends but even so....

I was pretty nervous about attending, conscious of how I looked and had a nice outfit picked and bought months ago. People kept buying me drinks throughout the day and into the evening and let's just say I got a bit too drunk. I don't remember a great deal but apparently I was doing some interesting dancing (cringe cringe cringe), being quite loud and chatting general rubbish to all those unfortunate to encounter me. I think my dress might have popped open at one point too

Yesterday I had a horrific hangover which has now been replaced by anxiety. I know I over indulged. My husband isn't cross and finds it funny but i feel like an idiot. In all of the photos I just look bleary eyed and ridiculous. I'm in my late thirties I should know better! I wasn't abusive or anything but I'm worried about what the bride and grooms family will think as well as hubbys work colleagues (a few of which have messaged hubby and myself asking if I've recovered )

Can anyone make me feel better with some reassurance or drunken stories of your own! I swear this isn't something I usually do and just feel mortified! No nasty comments please

Oh try not to worry too much, you're currently in the depths of a come down!

I've been there many times, the anxiety, panicking, low mood, the 'oh my god, what did I do or say? Did I offend anyone? Was I a total embarrassment?

Chances are, everyone else was pissed too and they won't be thinking badly of you for chatting shit. Unfortunate that your dress popped open but hey ho, these things happen

Give it a couple of days and you'll feel much better I promise.

We were at a very posh gala dinner in a castle in Florence with dh's work. I'm talking Uber posh, tourists watching us arrive and go down a red carpet, champagne all night, etc etc. I was very drunk. Waiting in the queue at the end of the night, I tried to lean on the wall and instead fell literally over onto the floor, in front of basically 100 of the company top brass. I saw the floor coming towards my face in slow motion. Needless to say we were ushered promptly into a cab and away from the front steps of this building, lest this English Hoodlum sully the good name of the company for evermore.

Breakfast the next morning was interesting.

@wishywashy6 you stole the microphone 😂😂😂😂🙈🙈 that's great lol. I guess I just want to earn the possibly accurate reputation of being johns drunken lush of a wife but probably a bit late for that now!!!

Yep! I convinced myself it was a karaoke wedding. It wasn't 😆

@DuffBeer I think it was the dancing that's playing on my mind most. Apparently there were some shocked relatives. I was swinging my limbs around a lot and even attempted some a seductive 'go low'. Shoot me now.

Google Iliza Shlesinger “party goblin”.

It’s your party goblin’s fault not yours. You are an innocent drunk and any embarrassing actions were not of your doing.

One of the reasons I very rarely drink now OP. The hangover the next day and the anxiety for about 3 or 4 days after is unbearable. I become a needy mess and that is not me at all. I lived going out when I was younger and rarely cared too much what anyone thought, but now I'm a paranoid wreck.

Yep I didn't care so much when I was younger but now I feel like I'm too old to be carrying on like a silly teenager. There's something a bit tragic about a nearly 40 year old flinging themselves around a dance floor. And of course there's social media for the public shaming too. I rarely drink to excess like that these days but the problem is I don't feel it creeping up on me. One minute I'm ok and the next I'm slut dropping 😩

Definitely my party goblins fault, that's what I'll tell everyone from now on.

Oh op
Most of us have been in your position,awful at the time but you will laugh eventually.

There is may be a video knocking about of me ,on the evening of my good friends destination wedding .
After a day in the sun ,champagne toasts & a few cocktails ,I eventually agreed to have my turn at karaoke . I got carried away at being maddona & danced like a loon a bit then twirled right off of the edge of the stage
I might have got over that but the twirling set off my vertigo and as I walked out I tripped up head first into the bushes !
Oh the shame

I think of it this way OP if I can still slut drop at 42 then I've definitely still got it 😎

Not sure many people would agree though! 😁

Don’t be too hard on yourself, OP.

They will have something else to gossip about soon enough.

They probably won’t have noticed the talking rubbish, etc.

Wardrobe malfunction, well, it happened to Judy Finnagan.

Ouch, feel for you.

I got completely wazzaked lat year at an event. No dancing thankfully, but I banged on about myself and talked a load of self pitying crap for ages to people who were there to have a good time, not to listen to me boring on drunkenly.

Absolutely mortified, it really threw me and tipped me over a bit of an edge - I actually self harmed half a dozen or so times, to punish myself for showing myself up like that. Hadn't self harmed in 25 years until then.

Realistically there was a lot of alcohol about. Maybe nobody remembers my drunken ranting (clutching at straws here)

Anyway, my point is, you arent alone!

I agree MrsJ

It’s happened to the best of us; its a bit of fun and no harm done.

@Honeybee27 just try to put it out of your mind. Remember that most people have embarrassed themselves drunk at some point (if not multiple times!). You probably won't the only drunk person there. I get the hanxiety really bad so I totally sympathise. Try and distract yourself by doing something you (film, comforting food, nice bath etc). I reckon you'll feel much better tomorrow x

Oh op, I could tell you drunken antics that would make your toes curl 😁😁 honestly don't worry. I got pissed at my own wedding and was apparantly trying to drag everyone onto the dance floor (unwillingly)

I've also done the embarrassing dancing, chatting absolute shite, being ridiculously touchy feely with people, falling flat on my face, crying for no reason, basically just being a total dick.

Don't worry, you will feel better soon. The fear is the worst. Get a takeaway and an early night.

Oh god that's the worst! It does sound like you're a fun drunk though, I'm sure DH would have been throwing water at you if you were too embarrassing !

I would message the video poster and ask them to take it down though. I'd be honest and say you feel really embarrassed and would appreciate it not being on SM!

Ha ha I is it even a proper wedding if you don't get the beer fear?

Do not worry!! I just for married and my husband was so drunk/emotional/tired that he was the first one in bed, put there by one of my bridesmaids after falling asleep in the bar!
The bride and groom won't have noticed! If they did I'm sure they were just glad you were having fun!

If your dh is laughing about it you have nothing to worry about! You sound like a nice drunk, fun and giggly. The best kind!

I’ve done tons of truly cringey things when I’ve been drunk. Including deciding going on the bunking bronco thing at a work party was a good idea - which it would have been if I wasn’t wearing an ultra short denim skirt and a triangle suede bikini top thing tied on with one strip of suede. It was a western fancy dress party but still. So cringe. Oh well. No one died, everyone laughed. Who cares... life is for doing stupid shit and all that!!

Op whenever I drink I get hangover guilt. Even when I KNOW I haven't done anything wrong, I still feel it. It is AWFUL. But it goes away in the end and as long as your dh is good, it's all good :)

Don't watch the video though !

Thank you all you've made me feel a lot better. More pictures are going online now and I'm just dreading seeing my ugly mug in any of them.

Tbh everyone has said that I was hilarious. But not sure if that's a good thing! I am annoyed that I gave the stuck up wife material by which to make me look bad, she's one of those who never gets drunk herself but is always on hand to make others look daft(er) when they do.

Urgh just really didn't want to make that kind of impression!!!!

If your husband isn't bothered you can't have been that bad! Hanxiety is a recognised condition, I promise you won't feel so worried by tomorrow. Drink lots of water and eat carbs. That helps. 🍷

Is it? It bloody should be too! It's a horrible thing waking up with that overwhelming sense of anxiety wondering what did I do and then each flashback throughout the day just makes you die a little more inside 😩

Oh god I've done some very embarrassing things drunk and some are so embarrassing I've mentally blocked them out. Most are very lust inspired though which is probably the worst, and I also recall showing a taxi driver my nipple for a £2.50 reduction.
It sounds like you had fun and it's a wedding, people are meant to be merry!!